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Would this be a deal breaker

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Makeorbreaktime85 · 21/03/2025 19:11

I have posted before under a different name but I want a clear perspective

Dh and I have been arguing. For a long time. Not been in a great place for a long time.

Today while arguing he said the following to me:

In a previous argument he called me the C word followed by the w word. More than once. I said today I thought it was disrespectful and as much as we're arguing he shouldn't use those words. He told me I need to stop being so precious and realise that is what i drive him to.

He moaned I work too much. I WFH, my career has been on hold for a few years while we had children, I'm finally progressing again, am good at what I do but my role is full on. He said he would rather I worked a lesser role while the kids are younger and then look to progress in 10 years. By which time I'll be 50ish. It's ok for him to progress in his career though.

He wants me to change a lot of things I do. Says what I do isn't good enoigh. Stems from the fact I forgot to make his lunch today for work. Says I'm rude because I don't always hear what he says (he mumbles then blames me for not hearing) or he'll ask a question and because the answer is give is not exactly what he wants he'll moan I've not answered properly.

It is draining. I am tired. We're just not compatible are we.

OP posts:
StJulian2023 · 21/03/2025 19:40

In what ways does he make you happy?

Lovethesparklylights · 21/03/2025 19:40

You're not HIS mum so why are you making his lunch like he's a child. My teens make their own. I'd suggest you bin him, keep the career. Life will be nicer.

ChoccieCornflake · 21/03/2025 19:39

LTB. He's clearly a tosser

Fidgety31 · 21/03/2025 19:37

Why are you making his lunch ? Is he not able to prepare his own ?
It sounds like you are both going to bicker over anything and everything tbh .
When relationships become toxic - you both have to want to rectify or else it’s point less …so I guess it depends if you both do or not .