Work social last night. I’m currently on mat leave and was in the office for a keeping in touch day followed by a meal and drinks after.
I was driving as I’m still breast feeding and didn’t feel like having more than one drink.
Meal was lovely and a group of about 6/7 of us (all female) went to a bar after for drinks (I’d had a wine with my food so wasn’t drinking by this point).
One of my younger colleagues had clearly enjoyed a few drinks as she was turning the conversation quite sexual. No issue at this point, I’m not a prude and wasn’t really contributing to the discussion.
However, she then asked me whether I’m having much sex now I’m nearly 10 months post partum. I gave the briefest answer I could, that both of us being sleep deprived and getting to grips being new parents meant there wasn’t much ‘us’ time.
She then said something similar to - ‘I’d be all over your DH. I wouldn’t care if I was tired, I’d just lie on my back and take it from him, no need to do any work. If he got bored of that position then I’d just bend over, that can be relaxing too’
I was pretty speechless at this, and no one else said anything either apart from one colleague (also drunk) who laughed and said ‘he’s a bit of alright isn’t he’.
They have never even seen DH in person, he’s in some photos with me online but doesn’t have his own profile anywhere which he would update.
I left soon after and still feel really upset, I’m not the most confident as it is currently and they made me feel utter crap. I am dreading going back to work in a couple of months and seeing them to be honest.