Work colleague said she wants to s**g my husband

She sounds incredibly desperate and immature but I'd be dropping her a message to let her know that her comments on your private life were an enormous overstep and that if she ever says anything like that to you again you'll be reporting her to HR, drunk or not. Her comments were in no way 'brush off-able' or tongue in cheek, they were invasive and graphic.

If you sit back and take shit like this it ramps, OP.

Stand up for yourself.

It's absolutely over the line, but that's her problem, not yours.

She didn't mean anything derogatory by it and it wasn't a personal slight on you. She was in drunken high spirits, trying to be funny and missed the mark. She would expect you to be complimented as she'd be flattered to hear that said about her boyfriend.

Forget about it. Likely she woke up the next morning in the firm grip of The Fear as it won't be the only inappropriate thing that came out of her mouth.

If you've got a handsome husband, then people will notice. It's on her that she overstepped the mark but I'd just ignore it. I don't think that she was saying she'd shag him behind your back, I think she meant rather that if she was you that's what she'd do. She still overstepped the mark and it was embarrassing for her and inappropriate.

My husband is sexy as hell, any woman that said that in earshot of me would get a high five and "it's true, he is gorgeous! He married me and I get to shaggy him any time I want"

While it’s a totally inappropriate thing to say try not to take offence as they clearly envy you and think your husband is handsome howver he is married to you!
id probably have loved to have said something like glad your not me then as you’re not his type etc but likely wouldn’t have!
i was had a colleague say she was gobmasked when she’d seen a photo of the two of us on holiday, couldn’t believe we were together and wouldn’t put us together etc. I asked why … asshe was clearly implying that he was better looking ( he likely is!) and she answered well he’s very handsome isn’t he, to which I responded yes and he thinks I’m great too ! I couldn’t believe the cheek!!
some people don’t know the difference between thinking thoughts and saying thoughts! I’m sure your colleague will regret that when she wakes up!

So because someone says something doesn't make it happen, I would say to her he has more respect than that and move on it doesn't have to be about you

But i don't see why hormones need to be blamed again

I completely agree.

Having a bit of banter is fine but this was completely unacceptable.

You have nothing to feel ashamed or self conscious about.
The only person who should feel ashamed is her.

I would be keeping my distance from this woman as she obviously has huge boundary issues and perhaps likes to try and make other women feel jealous or self conscious.

From a man's side of things there are very few things that are off limits with "banter" between mates...their partner is definitely completely off limits. You can say she's nice, you get on with her etc, but do not ever NEVER ever say you would like to have sex with them.

She is beyond grim and I would just keep away...there's also no way any husband would stray with her because clearly she has no filter and would tell everyone.

Honestly forget all about the pissed up comments from your colleagues. They are irrelevant. five years from now you probably won’t remember their names.

you and your husband chose each other. You’ve got a very young baby. The three of you are the only people you should worry about.

if you are feeling a bit vulnerable do try to talk to your husband and let him know how you are feeling. Not about the colleagues. About you. Give him a chance to reassure you.

It will be them dreading seeing you when they realise what they said.

It’s a vulnerable time when you’re off on Mat leave. She was inappropriate and gross but I would turn it around in your head: your husband’s hot. That’s a good thing lol.

When I first started dating DH, I had a number of friends quite openly tell me they thought he was 'hot'. I took it as a compliment. But that's fairly mild compared to your colleague saying she'd let him 'bend her over'. That's massively overstepping and I'd be telling her to wind her neck in.

Really awful
Drunkenly saying "hes a bit of alright" is one thing but what she said was completely unacceptable.

I’d have wanted to reply with “don’t worry he wouldn’t touch you with somebody elses” but you did the dignified thing and ignored the rude cow.

I had similar said to me about my husband by a colleague too. I remember feeling similar to you about it at the time. But now it’s 12 years on, we are still very much in love and have far more ‘us’ time as the kids have got older. I no longer work with that girl anymore and it no longer bothers me. I’m sure you are gorgeous too and your husband clearly loves you enough to have married you and had your little one with you. Speak to him and don’t let her comment spend any longer in your head than it deserves to.

Why are you upset? I’d have had a right laugh about that loosen up OP

Don't be upset Op, obviously your DH is an attractive man and your co worker is a very bad drunk, bad as in once drunk she lets her mouth run away with her. If you're upset because she said you should be having more sex, don't be, that's between you and your DH, if you're both happy then her opinion is immaterial.

This is why I never have work colleagues on social media - I learned the hard way a long time ago (gender critical beliefs) and now keep my work and social lives entirely separate.

Your colleague sounds very young and will probably look back on this in years to come and cringe.

I’d be appalled. I know it’s nice to know your DH is considered to be eminently shaggable, but that’s just grim. It sounds like you’re feeling rather embarrassed and has got you worrying about your (entirely normal for a couple with a baby) love life. Don’t!

Ignore it. My DH is younger and very handsome, I frequently hear about other women wanting to ride him. They don’t get to though.

My DH always used to get the 'most fanciable' label, conversations didn't get sexual though!! I always shrugged it off to be honest, and it's just drunken banter

Oh once sobriety hit's she'll have beer fear and mortification
I bet she won't. Crude talk is common place now. It seems no shits are given to what they say. I know,I listen to an office full of it!