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To think this child should have been kept off school (nits)?!!!

213 replies

WiseFinch · 21/03/2025 17:17

I am a teaching assistant and have been working with early years this week. Child informs me that they had “fleas in their hair” and had to have special shampoo last night.,
My first reaction was to keep a wide berth but this is absolutely impossible with a 4 year old.

Through the course of the day, it is very clear that this child still has a raging case of nits and is itching their head - and also hanging off me every five minutes for a cuddle… This was two days ago and now my head is itching. I did not have close contact for very long and it wasn’t head to head, plus my hair was up, but I’m now absolutely paranoid I’ve got nits - and I’m sure they’ll be going around the whole class as we speak.

I am new-ish to this job and don’t have kids myself, but surely you should keep your child off until all of the nits are gone? It’s not a case of neglect here, family are well to do and are quite nice people! So I am fully prepared to be told IABU. What does everyone think???

OP posts:
Meadowfinch · 21/03/2025 18:16

OP, kindly, from a 61yo mum, go to the chemist this weekend. Buy...

Several nit combs
The largest bottle of cheap conditioner you can find
Some Hedrin or Full Marks
Some threadworm treatment

Keep these basics in your medicine cupboard. Read up on the symptoms and life cycle of threadworms and lice so you understand what is needed for each. Both are very common in primary aged children.

Set your evening aside to comb every strand of hair from your scalp to the tips. rinse the comb between stands. Look for adult lice and black specs (nits or eggs)

This weekend, explain to your partner or other people you live with that if you have caught nits, you will almost certainly have shared them. You need to treat everyone in the household. Do it every three days until you are clear.

In terms of avoiding them in future, sanitise and rinse your hands as frequently as possible, certainly between each teaching session. Choose a short haircut or at the very least keep your hair firmly tied back or up.

You'll get used to it 🤗

herbygarden · 21/03/2025 18:15

OP, if you are worried about nits the 'Nitty Gritty' comb on Amazon is amazing. Cover your hair in cheap conditioner and comb (follow instructions) - you will know then if you have them and be treating them without chemicals!

AnotherNaCha · 21/03/2025 18:15

Also OP, if you get a white or black sheet of paper and thoroughly shake your head over it (using your hands to rub your scalp), that will
indicate if there’s nits. Eggs are the first step though and won’t show as they stick fast. Nitty gritty comb and thick cheap conditioner is effective

OldGothsFadeToGrey · 21/03/2025 18:15

Screwyoukeithyoutwat · 21/03/2025 17:21

You need a different job.

😬

whatsappdoc · 21/03/2025 18:13

How rude you are @Jeschara. Hope you are teaching your grandchildren better manners than that.

NewYearNewDietAgain · 21/03/2025 18:12

Just read this whole thread and now can’t stop itching!!

My DD had almost waist length hair and I had to use a nit comb daily and was treating weekly or more for years! Was easy with DS as I used clippers on his hair anyway so just kept it very short.

DD’s teacher told me she went thru a can of hairspray a week trying to keep them out!

AnotherNaCha · 21/03/2025 18:11

WiseFinch · 21/03/2025 17:49

Bit harsh. I’m a 23 year old with no kids of my own trying to have fun with the children and help out with their reading, and the kids love me! I teach kids in my classroom to use kind words, I hope there is someone like me influencing your DC.

👏

ChicaWowWow · 21/03/2025 18:11

Jeschara · 21/03/2025 17:55

I have Grandchildren now and I sincerely hope they do not have a TA who is as silly as you. You are a adult, but sound immature.

Jeez, you're getting nastier and nastier to the OP, so unnecessary!

protectthesmallones · 21/03/2025 18:06

this will be a regular occurrence in younger year groups. Nothing you can do to prevent them attending.

I learned from a hairdresser to wear hair up and spray very thickly so it’s almost wet with a can of ordinary hair spray. Especially the nape of the neck and up the sides.

I’d also be asking for this to go in a newsletter. The little critters don’t like hairspray and are much less likely to climb onto a new head.

MrsSunshine2b · 21/03/2025 18:05

WiseFinch · 21/03/2025 17:44

Well consider me thoroughly enlightened, nits and worms oh the joy!! Not me just thinking I was doing a nice job to make a difference with children! Not catching literal parasites 😂😂
Thanks for the advice everyone, I’m sure I’ve given you all a good laugh with my utter ignorance 😂😂😂

I was a teacher for 5 years and to be honest nits and worms are just part of the job. I did a weekly nit comb through and multiple times a year I'd have to treat for the buggers. Worms are sneakier and an absolute nightmare to get rid of. I did read somewhere that in reality once you've got threadworms, you've always got threadworms, and the goal is trying to keep them at a manageable level.

MrsSunshine2b · 21/03/2025 18:02

DFE guidance is clear that you should not be keeping children off for nits and they'd take a dim view of it if you stayed off with them too.

RafaistheKingofClay · 21/03/2025 18:01

Just be thankful it’s your head that’s itching and it’s nits.

Caravaggiouch · 21/03/2025 18:00

WTF! Of course you don’t keep a child off for nits, especially one who has already been treated!

Whoarethoseguys · 21/03/2025 17:59

greengreyblue · 21/03/2025 17:48

Yes they were. I’m 54 and we had a nit nurse check regularly. If you had them you were sent home.

Edited

We were never sent home if we had nits. Maybe different local authorities did things differently. We had home visits but the nurse always made sure the other people in the class couldn't identify who had nits. And certainly no one had to stay off school

lovelydayIhave · 21/03/2025 17:59

stealthninjamum · 21/03/2025 17:22

Dds had nits and I’d spend hours treating them and combing through their long hair. It was bloody awful. As soon as I was sure the nits had gone it would go round the class again and we’d get nits again. I’m sure we had them on and off for about four months and then over the summer holidays everyone must’ve treated their kids hair and they finally went.

Edited

Yes I agree.
My dd have super long hair, we had to always use at least two bottles at one time and after a few weeks she brought it back from school again- it was a nightmare.

FKAT · 21/03/2025 17:57

Oh leave the OP alone. She's said she's new to the role and at least has a sense of humour about our gross and disgusting kids. TAs are to be treasured. 😊

Mumstheword1983 · 21/03/2025 17:56

4 daughters here. They would never be in if that's the case! Hate the little blighters. I always keep solution in the house. The treatment itself causes very itchy scalp so that could be why they were itching next day.

Jeschara · 21/03/2025 17:55

WiseFinch · 21/03/2025 17:49

Bit harsh. I’m a 23 year old with no kids of my own trying to have fun with the children and help out with their reading, and the kids love me! I teach kids in my classroom to use kind words, I hope there is someone like me influencing your DC.

I have Grandchildren now and I sincerely hope they do not have a TA who is as silly as you. You are a adult, but sound immature.

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FKAT · 21/03/2025 17:55

Kids are gross let's face it. Thankfully mine only ever had nits. Never had the joy of worms thank god.

PandaG · 21/03/2025 17:54

I caught nits for the very first time from a 2 week work experience in a primary school which was mandatory immediately before I started my secondary PGCE. I discovered I was carrying the little blighters on the very first day of my course, as I was meeting my fellow students and tutors for the first time. I was beside myself, but nothing Hedrin and a nitty gritty comb couldn't deal with.

Once DD was at school she had them a number of times, and her hair was right down her back it was very time consuming combing them out. I kept a comb in the shower and checked myself when conditioning at least once a week.

Worms on the other hand.... I had them as a kid, and the powder you had to put into milk has put me off anything raspberry flavoured rather than actual raspberries for life. Worms can be a beggar to get rid of as little ones don't wash their hands effectively, then play with play dough, which someone else then plays with and sucks their fingers... And if they travel at night from anus to vulva they can really irritate. Waking at night or knackered in the morning, I learnt to question whether bottom was itchy, and kept a pack of (thankfully tablets now not vile raspberry milk) in the medicine box so I could treat all of us when worms found. Nasty.

TumbledTussocks · 21/03/2025 17:54

WiseFinch · 21/03/2025 17:26

What is the likelihood of me having caught them from this child? Is there any preventative measures I can take? Sorry I know I sound crazy but I’m getting heebie jeebies! I’ve had everything - norovirus, tonsillitis, strep, from working with the kids but never nits 😭😭

It’s never just one kid with nits. You could have caught then from any of them. Wait until threadworms make their appearance. Working with kids requires a strong stomach.

CheshireDing · 21/03/2025 17:52

OP the easiest and cheapest is a large bottle of cheap conditioner on wet hair, get the hair all lovely and straight and knot free with a normal brush, then use the nit comb all over. With the conditioner they slide out and it's cheaper than pointless nit shampoo which stinks.

you have to do it over a period of weeks though to get rid of the whole nit cycle.

Might as well do your own hair, then at least you know you're in the clear !

ellesbellesxxx · 21/03/2025 17:51

My children had headlice for the first time last July. I used the nitty gritty comb every day for the best part of three weeks but every school day we would be back to square one as they were coming home with new adult lice 🤮 it wasn’t until the summer holidays when we finally got clear.
I have been a teacher for almost twenty years and haven’t caught them from my pupils, wearing hair up is really helpful.

WonderingWanda · 21/03/2025 17:51

Order yourself a nitty gritty and give your hair comb through whilst wet and conditioned twice a week. It's part of the job!

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