To think a lot of middle aged men have a miserable disposition? Or is it just my DH?

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Hiwww · 21/03/2025 08:53

I get so frustrated with DH and how he comes across. He’s mid forties and whilst he’s always been a little serious and has a serious job, the miserable disposition has got worse as he’s aged. I find it incredibly rude and find myself over compensating around the kids to keep things upbeat. Is it just my DH?!

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onlytea · 21/03/2025 10:21

Yep, that's me :). On reason i think some of it stems from the realisation of just how shitty this world has turned out. You mention he's always been quite serious so i imagine he's continued to take at least a general interest in the world and politics and, like me, despairs at what we have built.
Standards have dropped across the board but hugely in education and behavior. Self reliance has been and continues to be replaced by blame and expectation.
Politics is a continuing reel of lies and nonsense streamed from people who have little to no experience in the real world. News is biased one way or the other.
etc
I have a lot of hobbies and interests that keep me occupied and happy in myself, i know others that don't though and they're furious.

Relaxaholic · 21/03/2025 09:32

Yes, there is a type of male that falls into grumpy mode as the default at a particular age. It’s sad and exhausting. I see this on my DH’s side of the family where the women are upbeat but the patriarch is grumpy by default.

On the other hand, could it be male depression? Men are also notoriously bad for seeking help for mental health issues.

YeGodsandLittleFishies · 21/03/2025 08:55

That sounds very difficult but it’s not something I recognise from my DH or our friends.

Have you discussed it with him?

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