My husband recently started doing this thing where whenever I ask him something or tell him he needs to do something (for example get ready for leaving the house), he'll reply "stop shouting". That's all he says. I'm perfectly calm and in no way raising my voice or even changing my tone. I've asked him several times to stop this. It massively triggers me from issues I've had in the past. Although he knows about these issues, I haven't explained to him that's why I want him to stop.
Anyway he did it tonight and I asked him to stop. He then did it again about something separate and I fucking blew up at him. It was in front of our 9 year old son and I feel terrible. I was shouting and hyperventilating crying. Not a pretty sight. I feel like such a dick.