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To be upset he doesn't want to go

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Northernmumxx79 · 19/03/2025 21:58

Not sure if I am just being oversensitive.
Been married to DH over 20 years and over that time we have had a few wedding invitations from his work colleagues etc. I always attended willingly even though I wouldn't know people. So last week I received an invitation from someone only I see socially. He is saying he doesn't want to go and reeled off a list of reasons like cost, etc etc. Never an issue when it was people he knew.
WIBU to go with a friend if he refuses.

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autisticbookworm · 23/03/2025 01:10

So not only did he not want to go (bit crap given he wants you to go to his stuff) but he wanted you to not go either!!

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Northernmumxx79 · 22/03/2025 22:17

I think deep down he is a homebody .

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GabriellaMontez · 21/03/2025 16:34

Have you asked him, does he expect you to attend future events with him?

Nowvoyager99 · 21/03/2025 16:33

Tell him you already arranged to share the room with a friend (good looking Luke from the gym) so the invitation no longer extends to him.

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Northernmumxx79 · 21/03/2025 16:29

Well I booked a room and he is pissed off and saying I suppose I will have to go. Err no. I am just going to take somebody else. The room is refundable anyway.

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jennifernewcastle · 20/03/2025 04:15

I think he’s being really unfair if you’ve made an effort to go to his friends’ events in the past.

Personally I think it’s a bit of a shame when couples don’t make the effort to know each other’s friends at least a little bit, and to go to weddings, parties etc, but maybe I’m in the minority.

autisticbookworm · 20/03/2025 04:06

If want to go you definitely should, I’d check if they are happy for you to take a friend. I’d also think if you actually want to go the next time he gets an invite.

TheChosenTwo · 19/03/2025 22:25

Go on your own and stop going to any of the things you’re invited to as a plus one unless you actively want to go.
Ive never been to anything as dh’s plus one unless I want to. How boring!

Endofyear · 19/03/2025 22:23

Go with a friend and stop going to his functions that you don't want to go to!