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Help! She's standing on the toilet seat!!

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Crazyworksituatio · 19/03/2025 20:35

Help! I've no idea how to deal with this without offending. Since a new female employee has started working with us there are shoe prints on toilet seat. It's a corporate office but only a few females use this toilet so obvious who the culprit is. The lady is from India and new to country. She's very professional and I think this is a cultural difference but I'm horrified she thinks this is ok? What would you do??

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EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 20/03/2025 03:36

Everything else aside western toilets aren't safe for people to stand on, they could slip in or fall and hurt themselves or break the toilet seat. The manager really needs to point out the OH&S concerns to do their duty by the employee and keep them safe.

KimberleyClark · 20/03/2025 03:35

You can’t catch anything from a toilet seat unless the skin of your arse cheeks is actually broken!

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 20/03/2025 03:33

MagicPharmacist · 19/03/2025 20:38

Neither are arses. Wipe it or hover?

I don't know how you're sitting on toilets but my bum cheeks touch the toilet seat and they are clean. People's shoes can step in all sorts of things, unlike my bum cheeks which I don't drag along the ground.

KimberleyClark · 20/03/2025 02:43

I have dodgy knees since an episode of inflammatory anrthritis 6 years ago and am physically unable to squat/get down on my haunches. I have never suffered from constipation.

BlondiePortz · 20/03/2025 02:38

It is unhygenic and can break a toilet seat and using the ''culture'' label does not make all those issues vanish

MinnieCoops · 20/03/2025 02:30

I don’t think I’ve sat on a toilet seat in about 10 years that’s not in my house

Rowgtfc72 · 20/03/2025 02:29

We have signs on the toilet doors at work. Also signs to advise not to stuff the sanitary bins with loo roll.
It's a big problem.

HoppingPavlova · 20/03/2025 02:28

We had this in places I have worked. When flagged to facilities management, they put signs on the back of toilet doors saying it was not to be done. Also, in pictorial language with a cross through a picture and a tick on the other. That way no one is singling colleagues out. It gives them the message to stop. Should it continue, and it did in one place, then emails were sent around to everyone saying it was noted that this practice was continuing and to cease and it is a management problem and der to desist and will be considered a HR issue - how I don’t know as there are no cameras in loo’s. Anyway, that fixed it.

TwoShades1 · 20/03/2025 02:21

A simple sign will hopefully solve the issue. It’s not racist, it’s simply a safely issue. She will likely get injured or break the toilet (very embarrassing). Or potentially cause someone else to get injured. Western toilets are designed to sit on, not have feet on the seat/bowl.

Tbrh · 20/03/2025 02:01

NPET · 20/03/2025 00:07

But it depends on your definition of "public". I would hover on genuinely public toilets at concerts, cinemas, on trains etc. but I don't at college or work.

Public to me is any toilet that's not in someone's home (ie someone I personally know in some regard)

Topsyturvy78 · 20/03/2025 02:00

Just put some flash in there so she can clean up after she's been.

Tbrh · 20/03/2025 01:59

I've never sat on a public toilet seat, that's disgusting! Hover all the way. Squatting is actually the 'right' way to go to the toilet, modern western toilets are the reason so many people have bowel issues because it's not the natural way to go to the toilet. A bidet is also a much more hygienic way to clean yourself if you think about it. I remember a comedian saying if you had a piece of shit on your arm would you really be ok to wipe it off with a dry piece of paper, I thought he had a really good point!

Namerchangee · 20/03/2025 00:52

Could a squatty potty stool be provided?

MsDitsy · 20/03/2025 00:48

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 19/03/2025 20:57

Starting to think this is a racist made up post. Like the Muslim woman refusing to meet clients one that I stupidly got dragged into…

It really isn't. Our very large multicultural company replaced several toilet seats and tried to source the strongest they could but in the end did have to put up notices. The person who snapped the seats surely knew but left it to others to report to facilities. Our company is proud of its diversity and the employees especially love when people bring in food when celebrating festivals and we have world food day. There's truly nothing racist about it. If anything could have been done to mitigate the damage it definitely would have been.

tamade · 20/03/2025 00:46

Mischance · 19/03/2025 21:32

If you squat on it (as per pic) surely you piss or shit on your legs/feet -- that is gross.

And how the hell do they get up there/balance for a long hard log exiting?

yes people from other cultures are gross and smelly.

But you are truly disgusting

maddening · 20/03/2025 00:26

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All over the world I expect, however the women is in the UK.so likely she picked it up here If she has a veruca or fungal foot infection.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 20/03/2025 00:19

ChompandaGrazia · 19/03/2025 22:46

DP’s cousin struggled to use western toilets, if you went to another country with unfamiliar toilets you’d be the same.

Quite. All these people who are shocked that anyone does this but equally shocked at the existence of squat toilets. What would you do with faced with a squat toilet if you had no idea such a thing existed.

Um, I expect most people born and brought up in the UK never encountered a squat toilet until the day they did. I certainly didn't know they existed until I saw one. Having seen one it's pretty obvious how they should be used.

WearyAuldWumman · 20/03/2025 00:13

crumblingschools · 20/03/2025 00:04

What do squatters in work place toilets do at home? Do they have different type of toilets installed?

I've no idea about the situation in this country.

In the Soviet Union, Soviets from the countryside tended to have 'field toilets' - perfectly clean holes in the ground - in brick or wooden sheds - at home, but used the toilets western style in the student residence.

Those who were unwilling to change their stance tended to come from developing countries. (For those who missed my previous post, the cubicle walls and doors in the student hostel didn't reach to the ceiling, so you'd get heads bobbing up and down. This was problematic when certain men refused to go up a floor to use the gents.)

In former Yugoslavia, people who lived in the countryside had field toilets at home but adapted to use western toilets as we would, where they were available.

NPET · 20/03/2025 00:07

menopausalfart · 19/03/2025 23:57

I never sit on a public toilet seat, always hover. This wouldn't bother me in the slightest as I can't stand the thought of someone's arse being on there either.

But it depends on your definition of "public". I would hover on genuinely public toilets at concerts, cinemas, on trains etc. but I don't at college or work.

crumblingschools · 20/03/2025 00:04

What do squatters in work place toilets do at home? Do they have different type of toilets installed?

menopausalfart · 19/03/2025 23:57

I never sit on a public toilet seat, always hover. This wouldn't bother me in the slightest as I can't stand the thought of someone's arse being on there either.

tachetastic · 19/03/2025 23:53

76evie · 19/03/2025 23:45

I’m amazed at the number of people who sit on public loos! Am I the only one who hovers on loo seats that are not my own?

You must have thighs of steel. Especially if it's a tricky Wordle!

I have relaxed in my middle years, though there is always that moment of ick when a seat proves to be unusually warm or (argh!) wet!

NPET · 19/03/2025 23:53

How WOULDN'T it affect you if you needed to use the toilet?
I suppose you hover?

redphonecase · 19/03/2025 23:51

76evie · 19/03/2025 23:45

I’m amazed at the number of people who sit on public loos! Am I the only one who hovers on loo seats that are not my own?

You're not the only one, there are plenty of people around who have no understanding of germ theory, microbiology or the immune system and so are terrified of loo seats.

Neverendingrain · 19/03/2025 23:50

76evie · 19/03/2025 23:45

I’m amazed at the number of people who sit on public loos! Am I the only one who hovers on loo seats that are not my own?

Hover over, maybe..but stand on the seats?!

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