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Army recruitment of unemployed youth

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 19:43

Here pigeons, have a cat.

According to the Express and Mail, Liz Kendall thinks that going into the forces would be a good idea for unemployed youngsters. Surprised this has apparently flown under the MN radar. I wonder where this is all going, she mused, with wide eyed faux naivety.

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JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 20:57

reversegear · 19/03/2025 20:55

@JenniferBoothsorry I’m not sure I get the link between my mums comment and unpaid women's work and care?

Its simple really If she got what she suggested there would be even less women working in social care because they would be in the Army

reversegear · 19/03/2025 20:55

@JenniferBoothsorry I’m not sure I get the link between my mums comment and unpaid women's work and care?

RawBloomers · 19/03/2025 20:53

Suggesting the military to unemployed youth isn't a bad idea. It used to be promoted in schools a lot but I feel like that has tailed off over the last few decades as the army has shrunk. Now we are looking at big increases, pointing out where unemployed youth might find a decent career that also aligns with other government strategies makes sense.

I think conscription is a very different decision. A hugely expensive one and one that would be unpopular. But if things keep going and we need to consider being capable of fighting a war against Russia, we may need peace time conscription to make sure people have the skills to rapidly deploy in the future. Those are probably conversations that are being had in the government (I hope those conversations are being had - these are "interesting" times and we need government to have thought about possibilities).

JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 20:53

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 20:45

If you look at how Germany managed it in the last few decades (ending it in 2011), it allowed for jobs like being a hospital porter in your local hospital or working in a care home. It was about national service not military conscription to the front line.

Someone who does not want to work in a care home should not be there.

Ed Davey was on This Morning recently with a woman whose mum was abused in a care home.
They had a debate about what could be done to stop this kind of abuse.
But the one thing that wasnt brought up is the one thing no Govenment will ever do including the Lib Dems if they ever got in.
And that is to stop care work being advertised through Job Centres or stop ppl being threatened with UC sanctions if they dont take a care position. Stopping Job Centres doing this will stop someone possibly taking their resentment out on the clients (not saying everyone forced by sanction would do this) just saying its a risk. Why is it ok for elderly people to be collateral damage to get unemployment figures down. They would never take the same risks with children by forcing the claimant to be a child minder or be sanctioned.
I realise this is not what you were talking about but it all ties into the fact that the job is not valued.

MargaretThursday · 19/03/2025 20:49

My uncle was that unemployed youth. Children, living with partner in b&b where they had one room to sleep in and has to be out of it 8am to 8pm. It was traumatic for all of them.

He joined the army. It certainly saved his relationship and possibly lives as they were all extremely depressed.
He left the army 20 years later and then took gcses (he'd not bothered sitting his cses) and worked until he retired.

For some it would be life changing in a good way.

MsNevermore · 19/03/2025 20:49

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 20:37

Thank you for another insightful post - and I can't imagine how hard some of your experiences will have been. And at the risk of cliche, thank you for your service. Sincerely.

And I agree, it's not a simple subject. Which is why I raised it. Some people think it would be a quick fix to help balance the benefit books, and that's my issue with it in the current climate.

I also think part of the issue is the type of people suitable for certain job roles within the military.
My job was a combat role, but also required a bit of mental gymnastics. I was perfectly suited for it. But I’ll openly admit that I really did struggle emotionally with some of the moral and ethical challenges my job presented - the actual making of those decisions was well above my pay grade, but I’d be part of the team executing the result of those decisions.
And there’s no nice way to say this, so I’ll try and say it in the least derogatory way possible: the army does benefit from people who don’t have the most advanced emotional intelligence to fill infantry roles. The type of people they can tell to do something and they won’t have an inner fight with any moral scruples - they’ll just do it.
That’s actually part of the recruitment process for US Navy SEALS - they’d probably be diagnosed as clinical sociopaths in the civilian world. They want a certain type of person to be nothing more than a killing machine who can get the job done time and time again without question. And those people usually aren’t the most academically inclined.
Am I comfortable with that? No. Not by a long shot.
But having been in combat situations, I can also see why that type of recruitment is necessary.

Iknowaboutpopular · 19/03/2025 20:48

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 20:42

Did he see a specialist or something? Problems managing the allergies with antihistamines? Because a basic hayfever tablet wouldn't be a problem. Did you get to check what's on his medical notes? It's possible there was something there that undermined it beyond a low level allergy which suggested it could be life threatening, which would absolutely be a bar.

No, he didn't see a specialist. There wasn't anything in his medical record to indicate it was more serious than just a diagnosis of hayfever or a basic antihistamine.
We consulted with the GP practice manager and got the GP to write a letter (which I paid for) to support his application and reiterate what his notes said.

JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 20:48

reversegear · 19/03/2025 20:41

My elderly 80+ mum said all of today’s issues are due to a lack of national service. She also thinks women should do it too. I laughed, but I’m beginning to think she’s got a point.

Does that include any carers she might need the majority of whom will be female.
Then there are the women doing unpaid care
Womens unpaid labour is only noticed when its not done

rickyrickygrimes · 19/03/2025 20:48

It would be interesting to know why people do choose to join.

a friends husband was basically given the choice of young offenders or join the navy. He code the Navy and it has been the making of him in many ways. He learned a highly specialised and well remunerated skill (clearance diver) and a great pension from 40. It gave him structure, discipline.

my oldest wants to join the army. We told him we’ll support it as long as he does a degree first to give him some options, and just to grow up a bit. He is attracted by the physicality of it (he’s very into sports and fitness), the opportunities for training and fast promotion. He’s a people person, the idea of communal living does not phase him, and he’s very good at motivating people, He has no interest in working a desk job, ever.

but he’s not particularly patriotic. In fact, he’s never lived in the UK (he was born in NZ and we live in Europe).

how important is patriotism in this decision? From what I’ve read, soldiers die for their mates - and you’d really want your mates to be similarly committed to you.

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 20:47

Lavender14 · 19/03/2025 20:43

The issue I have is that the army specifically target vulnerable, isolated, disillusioned young people. My question is why they are the main subset of young people being targeted by recruitment. It feels almost predatory.

Because young healthy men have always been what the forces need. Not clapped out 40 something perimenopausal women or elderly men. Although probably because we'd tell the PTIs to fuck off rather than do as we're told....

APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH · 19/03/2025 20:46

Lavender14 · 19/03/2025 20:43

The issue I have is that the army specifically target vulnerable, isolated, disillusioned young people. My question is why they are the main subset of young people being targeted by recruitment. It feels almost predatory.

Is it predatory if they give young people who may otherwise be homeless a decent living, a skill and a roof over their heads? They target where they get highest success rates as any organisation should and would. They turn people’s lives around. Thats a good thing.

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 20:45

0ohLarLar · 19/03/2025 20:40

I think this is ok if there are peacekeeping/logistics roles for pacifists who are not comfortable with anything combat related.

If you look at how Germany managed it in the last few decades (ending it in 2011), it allowed for jobs like being a hospital porter in your local hospital or working in a care home. It was about national service not military conscription to the front line.

APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH · 19/03/2025 20:45

EdithStourton · 19/03/2025 20:43

The Forces have historically been a way up for young men (and now young women) from impoverished or difficult backgrounds. My great-grandfather (from one line) and grandfather (from another) both benefitted massively.

It took them both from lives of absolutely grinding poverty and gave them opportunities that they would never otherwise have had.

My DH was a private, served in NI and Iraq. He was the lowest rank you could get and wanted to stay that way because he loved it. But he was one of the few in his camp who hadn’t either grown up in poverty or in foster care.

hopesforsummer · 19/03/2025 20:45

We live in a very uncertain world I don’t think it’s a bad thing if our armed forces are built up. We need to be able to defend our way of life and that requires armed forces. I think collectively the country needs to get over the “cannon fodder” attitude and be grateful to those who are willing to serve

Lavender14 · 19/03/2025 20:43

SeaSwim5 · 19/03/2025 19:54

The armed forces can be an opportunity to learn skills and have a good career for young people. Equally, there is a need to increase the size of our military due to the geopolitical position we’re now in.

It won’t suit everyone, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with promoting it as an option for those who might benefit.

The issue I have is that the army specifically target vulnerable, isolated, disillusioned young people. My question is why they are the main subset of young people being targeted by recruitment. It feels almost predatory.

EdithStourton · 19/03/2025 20:43

APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH · 19/03/2025 20:22

I mean, young unskilled people entering the army isn’t a new or novel concept. This has been the norm for decades. And it’s a great idea to do so.

The Forces have historically been a way up for young men (and now young women) from impoverished or difficult backgrounds. My great-grandfather (from one line) and grandfather (from another) both benefitted massively.

It took them both from lives of absolutely grinding poverty and gave them opportunities that they would never otherwise have had.

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 20:42

Iknowaboutpopular · 19/03/2025 20:38

No, he was never given an inhaler.

Did he see a specialist or something? Problems managing the allergies with antihistamines? Because a basic hayfever tablet wouldn't be a problem. Did you get to check what's on his medical notes? It's possible there was something there that undermined it beyond a low level allergy which suggested it could be life threatening, which would absolutely be a bar.

reversegear · 19/03/2025 20:41

My elderly 80+ mum said all of today’s issues are due to a lack of national service. She also thinks women should do it too. I laughed, but I’m beginning to think she’s got a point.

APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH · 19/03/2025 20:40

Also the nail biting over “forcing” re conscription doesn’t work like that in reality. I know people in Israel, where conscription is mandatory for all young people until at least 18 - 20. They WANT to join the Army, they look forward to it, and it’s not all frontline roles, some people are yoga teachers in the Army. The thought of it being “forced” is laughable to Israelis - and they have one of the strongest most efficient armies in the world as a result, high resilience in young people and have very low unemployment rates

0ohLarLar · 19/03/2025 20:40

I think this is ok if there are peacekeeping/logistics roles for pacifists who are not comfortable with anything combat related.

minnienono · 19/03/2025 20:39

For some young people it’s an excellent idea, they have the opportunity to learn skills, a trade and get some work under their belt from which they can then leapfrog into the wider world of work. Many are in the armed forces for a few years before moving on.

it’s not right for all but it’s certainly something that those struggling to get a job can consider

Iknowaboutpopular · 19/03/2025 20:38

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 20:36

Can I assume he was prescribed inhalers for his hayfever? It must have been much more than the basic hayfever to be an issue.

DH has just retired after 25 years in the Royal Navy. He was at serious risk of prison as a teenager given the way he was heading, but had always wanted to join up. He worked his socks off to get his maths up to scratch (flunked school, no GCSEs) and got in. He's left with 6 GCSEs, several higher qualifications and an immediate pension in his early 40s. He didn't get his LSGC medal though 😂 Knobber.

No, he was never given an inhaler.

APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH · 19/03/2025 20:38

xanthomelana · 19/03/2025 20:36

What could possibly go wrong with forcing people who don’t want to be in the military to stand next to the ones that do? I feel for the people who signed up off their own backs.

Who’s talking about force? This is about recruitment. It’s like saying putting a job advert on LinkedIn is forcing people.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 20:37

MsNevermore · 19/03/2025 20:30

@MistressoftheDarkSide
I wish it was a simple, black and white thing, but it’s really not.
I served with people from so many different backgrounds - including a lot from really piss poor families, from deprived areas with a shit education. For some of them, myself included, the Army was the making of them. I don’t regret my choices. They’ve made me the person I am, and forever altered my view of the world and all the complexities of the people in it.
But others? Some of them really struggled. Mostly because of the rigid structure they’ve never experienced before. Sounds silly, but being told to do something you don’t want to do and having no choice but to do it really was an alien concept to so many of those kids!
Also when the actual reality of what the job entails hits, it’s a really hard pill for many to swallow. I don’t think it truly hit me until I was in a medical tent at bastion, cuddling a 2 year old while she had rpg shrapnel picked out of her back by one of my colleagues 😔 That broke me. Like really broke me.

Thank you for another insightful post - and I can't imagine how hard some of your experiences will have been. And at the risk of cliche, thank you for your service. Sincerely.

And I agree, it's not a simple subject. Which is why I raised it. Some people think it would be a quick fix to help balance the benefit books, and that's my issue with it in the current climate.

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JustCrackingThanks · 19/03/2025 20:37

MsNevermore · 19/03/2025 20:19

I have served.
I went in at 16, straight out of secondary school. I completed my GCSE’s in the June and started basic training the following January.
I’ll openly admit, I had pissed away my education (even though I was a more than capable student) and didn’t have many prospects outside of a minimum wage job in my hometown.
A pre-requisite at that time of joining up at 16 was that you would be expected to complete adult equivalents of maths, English and ICT GCSE’s, which I did. The army paid for me to get my Cat B and Cat C driving licenses. I took loads of voluntary courses that have continued to benefit me - personal finance, basic mechanics, medical training that’s provided me with everything just shy of becoming a paramedic. I saw some incredible places….and some really awful places around the world.
Also had a really solid salary for someone of that age.
BUT
I can also agree that recruitments tactics are quite predatory. I come from a family with a lot of ex-servicemen, and I feel like I had a pretty good understanding of what I was getting myself into. A lot of my colleagues in the early days really had no idea and dropped out like flies.
As for the people who love to bleat on about national service being a great idea? Ask anyone who’s actually served in the last 15ish years. The vast majority will tell you it’s a horrible idea.
When the shit hits the fan, I want the bloke next to me to be doing his job to the best of his ability because he wants to be there. Not because the government told him he has to be there so he’s not engaged with the job.
I’ll also argue that if the government want to increase the quantity and quality of their recruitment pool, then they need to get a grip of their “resettlement” packages when people get out. Because right now? They simply chew you up and shit you out. Depending on your time served, you might get a little golden handshake, but other than that? You’re on your own now. Figure it out.

My dad served for 18 years and im very proud of him and wanted to join up myself but my dad said no. It had nothing to with me being female but everything to do with how things had changed and he didn't want that life for me. He discouraged a few family members from signing up and those that ignored and did openly say they wished they hadn't.
My dad's marriage fell apart after leaving, he struggled to hold down a job and ended up working as a driver for the UN for a few years which meant he was away for long periods.
I think he has PTSD if I'm honest but support at that time didn't exist and now he'd never get help. Growing up life seemed exciting but now I understand why my parents are the way they are.
Yes he left with skills and has a good paying job but it's come at a much higher cost.