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Army recruitment of unemployed youth

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 19:43

Here pigeons, have a cat.

According to the Express and Mail, Liz Kendall thinks that going into the forces would be a good idea for unemployed youngsters. Surprised this has apparently flown under the MN radar. I wonder where this is all going, she mused, with wide eyed faux naivety.

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x2boys · 20/03/2025 07:56

Iknowaboutpopular · 19/03/2025 20:13

They are losing more than they are recruiting because of people like my son. Who chose his gcses and trained physically to join the army, passed the aptitude and physical testing then had his application declined because he had hayfever in childhood. Hayfever. They declared him medically unfit and he can't reapply ever again. He really wanted to make the military a career but it wasn't to be.
So if they want more unemployed people to join, they better unclench on the vast list of medical conditions applicants are currently rejected for.

Hayfever ,?
That surprises me my son wouldnt pass the medical as he has diabetes and is insulin dependent but i can understand that.

JohnofWessex · 20/03/2025 07:54

I was talking to a retired detective.

After he left the Police he was involved in the Former Iraq War Crimes Inquiry

His comment was that the Army created a lot of problems by recruiting poorly educated young men who were desperate to get away from home who then bonded in an unhealthy way that resulted in them acting very badly.

Putting disadvantaged young men into the Army etc will simply perpetuate these problems

TiredYellowElephant · 20/03/2025 07:53

Lavender14 · 19/03/2025 20:43

The issue I have is that the army specifically target vulnerable, isolated, disillusioned young people. My question is why they are the main subset of young people being targeted by recruitment. It feels almost predatory.

I'd consider what other options disillusioned, isolated and vulnerable young people - men especially - have at present.

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 20/03/2025 07:47

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 19:58

I suppose if all else fails at least being cannon fodder gives one a sense of purpose.

quite.

Lungwort · 20/03/2025 07:45

TickingAlongNicely · 19/03/2025 20:05

Its a well known fact in the Forces that recruitment goes up when there's unemployment and goes down when there's lots of jobs available. Same with retention... People stick around longer when there's no other option.

Been the same for centuries. Its not new.

Exactly. I had four great uncles, siblings, who were in the British army during WWI, only one of whom survived — they’d joined up years before because they were poor, in a place with few other options for WC boys. It’s not new. There are still words originating in Hindi in the local slang because so many were in regiments posted to Raj India in the late 19th c.

Moonmelodies · 20/03/2025 07:39

Kardamyli2 · 19/03/2025 22:02

The armed forces can be fantastic for many young men who would otherwise do nothing. An opportunity to learn real life skills and have a career.

And for young women too.

Eyerollexpert · 20/03/2025 07:22

APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH · 19/03/2025 20:23

There’s always been people who couldn’t get through the six weeks basic training though. It’s par for the course

Yes and those are young ppl who want to be in the armed forces, who were committed to giving it their all, not young ppl who have their arms up their backs.

Stafanko · 19/03/2025 23:32

I mean, tbf has there ever been a time when the armed forces weren't trying to hoover up working class youth without other options?

MsNevermore · 19/03/2025 23:27

rickyrickygrimes · 19/03/2025 20:48

It would be interesting to know why people do choose to join.

a friends husband was basically given the choice of young offenders or join the navy. He code the Navy and it has been the making of him in many ways. He learned a highly specialised and well remunerated skill (clearance diver) and a great pension from 40. It gave him structure, discipline.

my oldest wants to join the army. We told him we’ll support it as long as he does a degree first to give him some options, and just to grow up a bit. He is attracted by the physicality of it (he’s very into sports and fitness), the opportunities for training and fast promotion. He’s a people person, the idea of communal living does not phase him, and he’s very good at motivating people, He has no interest in working a desk job, ever.

but he’s not particularly patriotic. In fact, he’s never lived in the UK (he was born in NZ and we live in Europe).

how important is patriotism in this decision? From what I’ve read, soldiers die for their mates - and you’d really want your mates to be similarly committed to you.

I’ll agree with the last part 100%.

When I was in, I couldn’t have given a fuck about “Queen and country”. The political bullshit that leads you to a war zone doesn’t enter your head.
All I cared about in the moment was that I was watching my friends and colleagues die or suffer life-altering injuries (to be fair even the non-lifethreatening ones like my lovely burn scar between my norks from a rogue shell casing 🫠)…..and that pissed me off.
Rage. Pure unadulterated rage.
The patriotism is reserved for the politicians on telly who like to make the public feel better about servicemen dying.

MsNevermore · 19/03/2025 22:44

FranticHare · 19/03/2025 21:45

But many don’t have a strong network, because their back ground is shit. They may have no family, or their family are abusive. Their friends maybe heading down the gangs, knives, drugs route,

Of course armed forces are not for all - but equally you can’t say it’s wrong for all either.

I feel huge sympathy to the young man you mention, and also for your son for finding him. That must have been pretty horrific.

Sadly, that’s true and I have firsthand experience of that.
There was a lass in the same cohort as me for basic training. She wasn’t the brightest spark - not just academically. She just struggled with absolutely every aspect of it, including the basic life skills. She’d never seen an iron let alone used one. She didn’t know you’re supposed to add detergent before turning on a washing machine.
Living in such close proximity, we all got to know her well and helped her out as much as we could so she didn’t feel embarrassed about not knowing basic stuff in front of the instructors. Then families day rolled around, where parents and other family members are invited to come and spend the day with us and get some insight into what we were doing. She wasn’t the only person who had no family coming, but she was the only one who seemed relieved that her family weren’t there.
Turns out she came from a family where her dad was abusive, her mum was mentally unwell and had 6 other children at home. She’d been pretty severely neglected her whole life - hence the lack of knowledge of how to do basic, every day tasks like use a washing machine.
After we all went our separate ways to different phase 2 establishments, most of us stayed in touch. Last I heard of her, she’d dropped out of phase 2 training, shacked up with some bloke and had a baby. The baby was then taken from them by social services and she dropped off the face of the earth 😔 No idea what happened to her since then.

Unpaidviewer · 19/03/2025 22:28

JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 22:24

Is Carillion Amey still doing the maintanance of forces accomodation

I believe it's now pinnacle.

JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 22:24

Unpaidviewer · 19/03/2025 22:20

Some of you are talking like it's a choice between the infantry or going to uni and becoming a lawyer.

There's lots of roles in the military, some have better prospects than others. The benefits aren't what they were but still not bad. I know someone living in the singles accommodation and they are only paying £70 a month in rent.

What's the alternative? If it's minimum wage, struggling to afford the rent in even a room in a shared house and living on beans on toast, then I would argue that's a far worse situation. Especially if you are vulnerable.

Is Carillion Amey still doing the maintanance of forces accomodation

Unpaidviewer · 19/03/2025 22:20

Some of you are talking like it's a choice between the infantry or going to uni and becoming a lawyer.

There's lots of roles in the military, some have better prospects than others. The benefits aren't what they were but still not bad. I know someone living in the singles accommodation and they are only paying £70 a month in rent.

What's the alternative? If it's minimum wage, struggling to afford the rent in even a room in a shared house and living on beans on toast, then I would argue that's a far worse situation. Especially if you are vulnerable.

ExIssues · 19/03/2025 22:04

TheFairyCaravan · 19/03/2025 21:54

I know young care leavers don’t have any family support, hence why I don’t believe the armed forces is the place for them. It’s very isolating when you’re half way across the world, at 19 or 20, on Christmas Day and there’s a time difference but most parents don’t mind a phone call at daft o’clock. Who is a care leaver calling? No one. It just makes them feel worse, more isolated and impacts their mental health.

I don’t think it’s right to target vulnerable groups like care leavers. I don’t think it’s right to target anyone tbh. If people want to join the armed forces, they will. If they’re not, and too many are leaving then look at why, and do something about it.

Well who are they going to spend Christmas day with at home, and why is it better to have no family at Christmas in the UK when everyone else does, than be abroad with friends and miss out on one phone call?

Also how are they targeting the vulnerable exactly? Army recruitment are at most careers fairs, village fetes, they do school and university visits etc round here, this would reach all types of people. A few years ago they ran a lot of TV and radio adverts. I don't see them targeting or pressuring anyone - it's usually just information .

Kardamyli2 · 19/03/2025 22:02

The armed forces can be fantastic for many young men who would otherwise do nothing. An opportunity to learn real life skills and have a career.

ExIssues · 19/03/2025 21:58

AquaPeer · 19/03/2025 21:49

I think the point is maybe these young people are too vulnerable for a place like the armed forces

I mean I’m not sure I’d like my own daughter there despite having 2 parents as being a women makes her vulnerable to all the rape and sexual abuse that goes on in the armed forces

I don't know, care leavers are very vulnerable out in the world too. In the army there's structure, a career, a home, friends, a purpose. It's better than drugs and prostitution.
It's certainly got to be worth giving care leavers the choice. Not advocating forcing anyone. But deciding they are "too vulnerable" seems a bit daft when there's no safe option like with your daughter who can call her parents for advice and practical and financial support if she's having problems in her accommodation or job.

I only know one female in the infantry and she loves it, no complaints about harassment. So can't really comment on that aspect. It would certainly worry me to have women on the frontline because of the risk of sexual abuse if they were captured by the other side.

TheFairyCaravan · 19/03/2025 21:54

ExIssues · 19/03/2025 21:46

Young care leavers don't have any family support though...they are often living independently at 16 with minimal support and no one who actually loves and looks out for them.

Not saying the army is the solution but what is this strong network? It simply doesn't exist for the majority. A high proportion end up in jail .

I know young care leavers don’t have any family support, hence why I don’t believe the armed forces is the place for them. It’s very isolating when you’re half way across the world, at 19 or 20, on Christmas Day and there’s a time difference but most parents don’t mind a phone call at daft o’clock. Who is a care leaver calling? No one. It just makes them feel worse, more isolated and impacts their mental health.

I don’t think it’s right to target vulnerable groups like care leavers. I don’t think it’s right to target anyone tbh. If people want to join the armed forces, they will. If they’re not, and too many are leaving then look at why, and do something about it.

ExIssues · 19/03/2025 21:53

JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 20:48

Does that include any carers she might need the majority of whom will be female.
Then there are the women doing unpaid care
Womens unpaid labour is only noticed when its not done

National service would be a good way to staff care homes and nurseries. It doesn't necessarily have to be the army, that is one option.

Holdmeclosecooedthedove · 19/03/2025 21:50

Hedjwitch · 19/03/2025 20:03

The phrase " cannon fodder" is such an outdated trope. That related to conscription to the front line where soldiers actually faced cannon. Warfare has changed a tad since then.

It hasn't really

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 21:50

Slumbering · 19/03/2025 21:03

@PaintDecisions Can we please not have clapped out, 40 something, peri menopausal and women all in the same sentence? It’s a bit ignorant sounding.

Good luck with positivity and self love when you’re in your forties.

I'm 44 and perimenopausal. But thanks.

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2025 21:49

The Army will be overjoyed (not)

AquaPeer · 19/03/2025 21:49

ExIssues · 19/03/2025 21:46

Young care leavers don't have any family support though...they are often living independently at 16 with minimal support and no one who actually loves and looks out for them.

Not saying the army is the solution but what is this strong network? It simply doesn't exist for the majority. A high proportion end up in jail .

I think the point is maybe these young people are too vulnerable for a place like the armed forces

I mean I’m not sure I’d like my own daughter there despite having 2 parents as being a women makes her vulnerable to all the rape and sexual abuse that goes on in the armed forces

PaintDecisions · 19/03/2025 21:49

JenniferBooth · 19/03/2025 20:53

Someone who does not want to work in a care home should not be there.

Ed Davey was on This Morning recently with a woman whose mum was abused in a care home.
They had a debate about what could be done to stop this kind of abuse.
But the one thing that wasnt brought up is the one thing no Govenment will ever do including the Lib Dems if they ever got in.
And that is to stop care work being advertised through Job Centres or stop ppl being threatened with UC sanctions if they dont take a care position. Stopping Job Centres doing this will stop someone possibly taking their resentment out on the clients (not saying everyone forced by sanction would do this) just saying its a risk. Why is it ok for elderly people to be collateral damage to get unemployment figures down. They would never take the same risks with children by forcing the claimant to be a child minder or be sanctioned.
I realise this is not what you were talking about but it all ties into the fact that the job is not valued.

JFC, I was only giving two examples.

You could be doing the admin at the care home and learning accounting and wage management, working on the bin lorries, doing council street sweeping, working in a kindergarten with the children or using existing skills in roles that serve the country in other ways.

It wasn't a dictat that conscientious objectors be used to wipe bottoms of babies or elderly people - in fact they had choices. Lots of choices. My friend chose to do the hospital porter work whilst doing his PhD even though he could be excused.

ByDenimHedgehog · 19/03/2025 21:47

JustCrackingThanks · 19/03/2025 20:04

I guess it depends.
Not everyone is cut out for the military but equally I don't feel like serving members and veterans are treated well.
I wouldn't want my children joining.

Why don’t you feel like serving members and veterans are treated well? I am in the military (female) and am treated well. I have had an amazing career so far with lots of opportunities. I would actively encourage my children to sign up!

ExIssues · 19/03/2025 21:46

TheFairyCaravan · 19/03/2025 21:40

There was young care leaver in my son’s regiment. He had had a pretty shit life of it, tbh. Anyway to cut a long story short, DS1 and his senior found him hanging one weekend. They, the police and paramedics got him back, but he died a few days later in hospital.

I firmly believe the armed forces is absolutely not the place for young care leavers or those who have had a traumatic childhood. They need a strong support network behind them. They need someone there when times are shit, when times are good and when times are really tough. They need to know there’s always someone there at the end of the phone for them. Yes, they’ve got their armed forces family, but they need a family behind them too.

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Young care leavers don't have any family support though...they are often living independently at 16 with minimal support and no one who actually loves and looks out for them.

Not saying the army is the solution but what is this strong network? It simply doesn't exist for the majority. A high proportion end up in jail .