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To not use proper spellings when naming your child

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Catterpillarsflipflops · 19/03/2025 18:17

Am I being unreasonable to think it's ridiculous to use a funky spelling of a normal name. I spent today dealing with lost paperwork for a child as the person that took the details didn't think to check the spelling as there is no other spelling of the name.

It looks silly and just causes no end of problems for the child. It also disadvantages them as straight away people get an image of what the child is like.

I've seen

Jaymz
Ezmay
Lil-leigh

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RichardMarxisinnocent · 19/03/2025 20:26

tillytoodles1 · 19/03/2025 20:18

Well I'm English and we call it Clandithno.

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Feel free to pronounce it however you are able (I appreciate the ll is a hard sound to pronounce if you're not a Welsh speaker or have never learnt Welsh) but please don't tell people that In Wales it's pronounced Cl because it really isn't.

EeyoresLostTail · 19/03/2025 20:26

JasmineAllen · 19/03/2025 19:25

Who names their child Deacon ? 😂
Unless it's a middle name, first name Joey (one for older MNs'ers)

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Deacon is the 1st name of the main Character in the Game\Film Days Gone

I think its American

Deacon Blue :)

AngelicKaty · 19/03/2025 20:26

2025willbemytime · Today 19:51
People who judge someone, especially a child, on the basis of their name and or how it's spelt is being very very stupid. The child didn't name themselves.... they aren't the ones who potentially need judging.

Catterpillarsflipflops · Today 19:53
It's not judging the child. However, multiple studies show that there is a correlation between names and social class and educational outcome and also how school/ employers view you.

@Catterpillarsflipflops I totally agree with you OP. I wouldn't judge the child on their "creatively" spelt name, but I'd certainly judge the parents for their poor decision and expect them to be of low intelligence (and I bet I'd never be surprised).

RominaDina · 19/03/2025 20:25

I once worked with a woman called Caroline, who insisted it was pronounced Caroleen.

PointsSouth · 19/03/2025 20:24

Catterpillarsflipflops · 19/03/2025 18:22

I know it's a typical but forever more I want to use the phrase "floats your goat" 🤣

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I'm going to push it to 'bloats your goat'.

RominaDina · 19/03/2025 20:24

Trishthedish · 19/03/2025 20:20

Oh dear god. I worked in a school and some of the spellings! The best one from the 90’s was Hermyoknee, I kid you not. My son lives in America and his best one was L- pronounced Ldasher.

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No, the story is L-a, pronounced "Ladasha".
It's a myth.

Perculiar · 19/03/2025 20:24

tillytoodles1 · 19/03/2025 19:48

So why's it wrong? Llay is a place near me and its pronounced as Cly.

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It’s not. (I live near too).

its Llay. With ay rhyming with eye. Ll isn’t the same as Cl. It’s not Cly

merryhouse · 19/03/2025 20:23

Snorlaxo · 19/03/2025 19:55

I saw a post on here a few years ago where the mum was upset that people couldn’t pronounce her DD’s name correctly. People like the HV were pronouncing Elle as “L” rather than “Ellie. I wonder if she changed the spelling or pronunciation ?

Neither. Elle joined the team at my previous job.

I'd just about managed to remember by the time I left Grin

WestwardHo1 · 19/03/2025 20:23

Topseyt123 · 19/03/2025 18:22

Oh dear! Poor child. ☹️

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Really hoping this wasn't in Wales. Imagine that with the Welsh LL

(wrong post quoted. Meant to post the Llayceigh one)

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 19/03/2025 20:23

@Namechangetry
I was thinking the exact same thing. Actually the name thing doesn't bother me as much, especially as I have a very common name with an easy abbreviation that I've always liked. Thanks mum and dad.

Poppins2016 · 19/03/2025 20:23

BarneyRonson · 19/03/2025 18:38

Where do you live that there are so many adopted unsafe children with identifiable names that need tweaking?

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Where I live there are adoption networking groups where parents (either to be or actual) can meet for support - it's quite likely to be something like that.

LlynTegid · 19/03/2025 20:22

Using a name that is widely used in another country which is part of your heritage is something perfectly reasonable.

The examples the OP give are none of those. They are not ridiculous, they are unkind. I would support a registrar of births who refused to enter a name like that given as examples.

Perculiar · 19/03/2025 20:22

dinmin · 19/03/2025 19:43

Ajay is an Indian name (UH-jay)…

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Oh this kid was not Indian. His parents thought it a better spelling of AJ. It was pronounced AJ too.

I have learnt something new that it is also an Indian name though- never knew that

RominaDina · 19/03/2025 20:22

LincolnshireYellowBelly · 19/03/2025 20:19

Are you sure this name isn’t from another heritage. I know a child with this name from Eastern European heritage and it is spelled like this

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@tulippa thanks you for your correction. She's learned something new today.

PresidentBarklett · 19/03/2025 20:21

tulippa · 19/03/2025 20:21

Yes I have already been corrected by multiple people. Thank you. I have learnt something new today. 🙂

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Waheyyyy!

tulippa · 19/03/2025 20:21

LincolnshireYellowBelly · 19/03/2025 20:19

Are you sure this name isn’t from another heritage. I know a child with this name from Eastern European heritage and it is spelled like this

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Yes I have already been corrected by multiple people. Thank you. I have learnt something new today. 🙂

Trishthedish · 19/03/2025 20:20

CaptainCallisto · 19/03/2025 18:31

I had to write a four year old reception child in the accident book at lunch today (primary school TA), and he didn't know his last name. Couldn't find Jack anywhere on the class list. I don't work in EYFS, so didnt know I should be looking for Dgaque!

Oh dear god. I worked in a school and some of the spellings! The best one from the 90’s was Hermyoknee, I kid you not. My son lives in America and his best one was L- pronounced Ldasher.

Namechangetry · 19/03/2025 20:20

LincolnshireYellowBelly · 19/03/2025 20:19

Are you sure this name isn’t from another heritage. I know a child with this name from Eastern European heritage and it is spelled like this

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RTFT

LincolnshireYellowBelly · 19/03/2025 20:19

tulippa · 19/03/2025 18:34

I work somewhere where there is a sign to contact Kacper if you need a certain thing doing. I spent months thinking that's an unusual name until I realised it was a funky spelling of Casper. Parents obviously didn't know the letter c only makes 's' when followed by i, e or y.

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Are you sure this name isn’t from another heritage. I know a child with this name from Eastern European heritage and it is spelled like this

PresidentBarklett · 19/03/2025 20:19

LittleGreenDuck · 19/03/2025 20:18

Does anyone know how to spell Caspar in Polish?

This is too much. I'm dead. Stop. 😂😂

Wrangledi · 19/03/2025 20:18

My daughter goes to school with a Pegi. I keep expecting her to rate films….

LittleGreenDuck · 19/03/2025 20:18

Does anyone know how to spell Caspar in Polish?

tillytoodles1 · 19/03/2025 20:18

RichardMarxisinnocent · 19/03/2025 19:53

Because the letter ll in Welsh isn't pronounced as cl, it's pronounced as in the video I posted. See also, Llandudno, the Llan in that is not pronounced as Clan.

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Well I'm English and we call it Clandithno.

Pomegranatecarnage · 19/03/2025 20:13

Gemini29 · 19/03/2025 19:29

Side note - but the name llacey with a welsh Ll is actually growing on me 🤣🤣

There is a real Welsh name similar to that-Lleucu. It’s pronounced Hlaykee

Fanakerpan · 19/03/2025 20:13

Cumberlandsausagedog · 19/03/2025 18:18

It’s not unique, it’s not clever. It just shows that your parents weren’t very classy or clever.

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I couldn't agree more and wish more people thought this way, the mangling and twisting of names, mispelling etc is in my view awful, sign of the times sadly.