It’s goodbye from me

They seem to be breeding like rats on MN at the moment. With apologies to rats 🐀.

Why can’t you just avoid AIBU? After all, there’s so many other sections which are very helpful and informative on MN. Agree, AIBU is something of a bear pit sometimes, but in amongst the sniping there’s sometimes good advice to be had. It’s if you go on the political or lifestyle posts where people are very passionate about the subject, when things can kick off.

It was similar to here in terms of subject matter but smaller with a lot more usernames you’d recognise. I’ve always wondered if anyone from there is here now which is why I asked!

Dear The OP,

If indeed you are no longer enjoying or benefiting from your time on this forum, then I agree that you should leave. No one has to understand or agree with your reasons, and likely most people won't share your exact experience or perspective. (I, for example, still prefer it here to e.g., Reddit, where I and others like me are regarded and treated as if we are inanimate objects designed solely to serve and please the 49% of the human race who are widely acknowledged to be "real" humans.)

Take care; I for one will miss you immensely!

Best,
Chatty

Read the room for God's sake. The amount of PIP fraud is miniscule. Plus PIP has nothing to do with ability to work.

Are your feelings running as high about tax evasion?

Oh FFS not another one.

@solongandthxforthefish it's a shame you are leaving, I think MN could use nicer posters.
Sometimes people post things so deeply nasty I actually feel sad for them. It's not about being forthright or honest for some people it's genuinely cruel and to be so miserable to behave that way anonymously must mean they are either deeply unhappy or lacking even the smallest amount of compassion.

Look after your mental wellbeing 💐

I understand that you are frustrated.

I have taken breaks in the past, but there is no need to announce it.

Mumsnet has always been a catty, judgemental place, depending on what sides of the tracks you came from.

I agree that sometimes it is worse, but the tone was set years ago.

OTOH there is 100's of sound supportive posters that I notice on threads, giving solid advice, not always with sweeteners, but honest and thought provoking.

People are naive if they think that there are individuals that don’t exaggerate to get sickness benefits. If someone is genuinely disabled and needs benefits to live then I have no issue. It’s the ones that make a living out of not working because they cannot be bothered and expect the state and the taxpayers to pay for them.

People have had enough of it and that’s why feelings are running high. Rightly so.

@Mydogisamassivetwat

I've only just clocked your username! That's another chuckle for me tonight. I might have to calm myself! That sounds wrong.

Byeeeee 👋👋👋

You’re not wrong about some of the awful goading posts though. Definitely increased since I first joined mumsnet but it’s rife everywhere online these days sadly 😔

It has been horrible.

I'm sorry it's upset you. I also feel upset by what I've been reading on social media recently xx

Why are people answering @solongandthxforthefish has gone.

@WhereIsMyJumper I don’t think that’s necessarily correct- I’m a centre left voter and I 100% agree with you as do many others I know -

Bloody hell!

No, it definitely wasn't Cosmo. I feel like I should say 'thankfully'!

It really, really isn't.

Was it Cosmopolitan? I was on that for a while and there were a bunch of ‘cool’ posters who took themselves off to a Facebook group and had meet ups and wouldn’t let the other regular posters join in. I was a casual observer but it was awful to watch on the boards as the ‘cool gang’ became unpleasant.

I only remember a few users, like one called j0j0 and another woman who loved hamsters and another one who was very arrogant who talked about sex on a balcony with a Turkish waiter or some such. Hamster lady wasn’t invited into the cool gang even though she posted every day. But I do recall all sorts of threads and topics. Like the woman who slept with the actor from Big Cook Little Cook. And the man who kept coming back to make the same thread about how he grabbed a woman’s bum on the dance floor he was dancing with and even though she seems to like it he felt guilty. And the woman who was raped but her attacker was deaf so he wasn’t convicted as the court decided he couldn’t hear her saying no even though on the cctv footage it was clear. I remember that last story vividly.

Yep, absolutely. I remember any talk of MN Royalty being swiftly squashed, but it existed, and most of the exalted ones were frequently arseholes to others while the sycophants and cheerleaders fawned all over them.

Daily Mail in forum form is the best explanation of mumsnet I’ve ever read.

I'm sorry 😔

I have to agree with you. Being a disabled person, I was in tears after reading those threads.

Well now I just feel mean. Yes correct it but hope you feel better!! Migraines are awful.

Sorry im battling a migraine let me correct it bye bye.

I agree, I joined assuming it would be a place for support as a new mum but it’s actually just the daily mail in forum form