AIBU to continue turning in the school gate?

one kid locally got run over recently beacuse of this.

stop being a dick

Park further away, walk the last bit, stop being so lazy and so self-centred.

Please don’t run over a child.

We lived in the middle of nowhere, so my mum used to drive us to the nearest bus stop. Why can't you do that? If your kids are at secondary school they don't need handing over at the gate.

Selfish git.

The school has a duty of care to look after your DD, and all other pupils. Park further away.

Without seeing a better more detailed plan this is impossible to envisage exactly the problem. But, surely this is an issue the school should be addressing and instructing parents places to go and do the drop. Near my children’s primary school we had school streets put in so parents could not drive to outside the school at all without being fined. The school pointed out various places where the children could be safely dropped off and walk the last few hundred metres.

Your legs don't work and your child's legs don't work and you can't find an alternative place to turn so yeah you are special and the sign is for everyone else and you aren't part of the problem.

😂Seriously

Ah sorry missed they were high school aged. I had assumed primary as parents didn’t really take to my high school. In that case agree no reason why they can’t get dropped off further away and walk.

Why is the OP walking anywhere? Her high school aged child doesn’t need handing over to teachers at the door!

drop the child off about a mile away and let them walk in

The obvious solution is to adhere to what the school asks.
Therefore, you just continue past the front gate (with the relevant traffic) until you come to another junction that allows you to turn left or right and loop back on yourself.

This may take a bit longer but it is what is being asked by the school is it not?

It may also be best to show your child that you follow the rules that are being asked of you as in life your child will come across many things that are inconvenient but necessary to adhere to.

Oh hang on - so you can continue past the front gate to get somewhere else? Presumably at some point there is then a turning you can use to turn round or you can circle back on yourself.

In that case you do that!

well biking probably doesn’t work as they would need to take the bikes the 4 miles in the car first which wouldn’t be convenient.

The op would need to do a 4 mile walk twice a day on top of 16 miles of driving. That’s quite a lot out of her day if she also needs to fit in her job. It doesn’t sounds as easy as you make out.

No, they could just drop them off a bit further away and let them walk so as not to add to the unnecessary congestion.

I'm not sure that's completely true, and houses don't mean parking is available.

My secondary school (which had an infants and junior schools very close by so complete chaos at times) was by a roundabout, four exits, two leading to A roads, I don't recall being able to park on the third, the fourth was a terrace that you could technically park on, if there were any spaces, but they were rarely available.

Slightly further away, it's all terraces with the accompanying parking issues. There is a housing estate, but you'd have to go out of out of your way and I'd guess they wouldn't be happy with potentially 100s of people turning round in their drives. The other place you could turn off had a primary school on the road so had its own parking and congestion issues.

Fortunately, despite being just under the three miles, buses were provided.

That’s great for you but op’s kids would need to do 4x that distance. That is clearly too far

We had similar problems in our village primary school. A front and a back entrance. Front entrance was the teachers car park but it was on a narrow and winding road that got completely clogged and congested twice a day because parents were turning round in the main entrance gateway. The "back" entrance was on a footpath and was a normal width gate - no vehicle access at all.

The school and local council finally agreed to close the main gate, not just to cars but to pupils too, and a high fence/gate were erected so pupils couldn't climb over. It was closed and locked at school start and finish times.

All the parents who were driving then had to park properly at the other end of the village in a car park and walk their little darlings to/from the school gate via the footpath.

It worked a treat! Ended the dangerous driving and traffic congestion overnight.

Sounds like it's something they should do at OP's school and then she'll have to park and walk her child rather than lazily expecting to drop/pick up right outside the school gates.

Just carry on along the road after dropping your child, and if you have put up with the chaos and buses at the main gate, so be it. The school has asked you not to turn in the entrance to the back gate, so you have no choice. It might add a bit of inconvenience to you, but it's keeping other children safe.

If it's that much of a big deal, go earlier so you arrive before most of the children and buses. This is what I used to do. My kids all went to school 13 miles away, no direct buses. So we didn't get stuck in rush hour traffic, I dropped them off at just past 8am. They were able to go into school, hang out, have a drink, do some homework etc.

I can’t carry on to do a loop as I would then hit the full front of school traffic and children walking and cycling to school.

Tough shit. That's the consequences of your refusal to park further and walk.

If you live 6 miles from the school and it's your nearest school, then the Local Authority have to provide transport.

If it's not your catchment school then you should have thought about this before choosing it. Park 2 miles away and your DD can walk/cycle the rest of the way.

I've never known a town or village with a 2 mile long High Street (or any street) without side roads.

I was going to join in with the pile on, but your school’s circumstances and your long drive does make it tricky.

The adult solution is for you and other affected parents to talk to the school about the problem and potential solution.

They might be able to get the council to create a mini roundabout or other safe place to turn. You really don’t want to be involved in an accident in the school, regardless of fault.

Park somewhere close by to the school and walk a short distance to drop your child. It gets too congested directly by the school so I can see why they're trying to dissuade people from driving up so close by.

there is a private school near me which is starting to sound similar. You come to it in one direction coming off a major A road. If you go forward there’s there’s a town centre which is a fucking nightmare.
That’s not the schools problem though. If you choose to go to school/live there. That’s the issue everyone deals with.

Same reason you'd give someone a lift to the train station.
It's not as far as the whole journey.
It's more sensible to do the first half by car and the second half by public transport.