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NoDought · 23/03/2025 14:25

That sign obviously wasn’t for you so just continue doing whatever you feel like hun 😂😂😂😂

CwmYoy · 23/03/2025 10:44

If you had read the thread or even just the OP's posts, you would know there isn't a side road. There is nowhere to park a few hundred yards away. The OP lives 6 miles away and there is no school bus in her rural location.

I refuse to believe there is a road 6 miles long with no side road or other place to park.

Given the facts not what you imagine might be true i.e. parking a few hundred yards away side streets what's your solution???

Not the school's problem or mine to expect parents to behave responsibly. That's on them.

Tanjamaltija · 23/03/2025 09:58

Talk to the school, not to us... and do it before an accident happens, not after.

BeCoolDenimScroller · 23/03/2025 09:02

How fascinating I’ve always wondered what goes on in the minds of those parents who do this. You need to park further away and walk from your car like everyone else. It might feel like a hassle to you but if you hit a child doing what you’re doing you’d have to live with the guilt forever. YABU.

SpringIsSpringing25 · 22/03/2025 22:33

CwmYoy · 22/03/2025 18:44

It isn't the school's responsibility to facilitate parents into behaving safely and responsibly. That's all on the parents to do the right thing.

To suggest that the school pays for a solution is just stupid. As though they aren't already underfunded. To suggest they pay to help out parents too lazy to walk a few hundred yards is madness.

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No it's not stupid & you are very rude.

How are parents supposed to behave more safely & responsibly? The Senior School children have a separate fenced off walkway, the only issue here is that the business next door doesn't want them to turn around in the driveway, but they also don't want them to go into the Estate.

If you had read the thread or even just the OP's posts, you would know there isn't a side road. There is nowhere to park a few hundred yards away. The OP lives 6 miles away and there is no school bus in her rural location.

Given the facts not what you imagine might be true i.e. parking a few hundred yards away side streets what's your solution???

Kago2790 · 22/03/2025 21:39

Can your daughter cycle? 30 minutes at 12 mph.

IamMoodyBlue · 22/03/2025 21:23

Sorry if I've missed other posts suggesting this, but have you had a discussion about this with the Head?
If your turning place is genuinely the safest place it should be possible to calmly talk about the problem and explain the reasons you and others use it.
Otherwise, some creative use of the area the buses use to drop off may be possible.

Ilikepianos · 22/03/2025 20:27

This has to be a wind up. Obviously you need to park somewhere else, however inconvenient.

CwmYoy · 22/03/2025 18:44

SpringIsSpringing25 · 22/03/2025 18:18

The thing is, the school are not giving them a better option. When they were doing the safe and legal thing.(if the land of businesses are on is public land, if the land is private land they have every right to ask the school to tell parents not to do the obviously safe thing and turn around in the business grounds). With schools that are situated like this with parents living rural but no school bus service from where they live I feel the owner is on the school to sort something out. They are happy with.

@NortonBuns the parents need to get together and speak to the school. Find out whether the land that the businesses are on is private or public. If it's public, the business needs to be told to get in their lane if it's private the school needs to try to come to some arrangement. With them.. this may involve the School funding a turning circle or something but the school needs to help organise a drop off situation that they are happy with.

Or do you think it could be solved by an additional school bus?

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It isn't the school's responsibility to facilitate parents into behaving safely and responsibly. That's all on the parents to do the right thing.

To suggest that the school pays for a solution is just stupid. As though they aren't already underfunded. To suggest they pay to help out parents too lazy to walk a few hundred yards is madness.

CunningLinguist1 · 22/03/2025 18:29

NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 14:18

I drive my dd to school everyday and once I drop her off I turn around and drive home. I approach the back gate of the school and use this entrance to turn my car round so I can head back home.
The school have now put up a sign saying keep our children safe, no stopping, dropping off or turning in the entrance.
So where am I supposed to turn around? If I carry on I reach the front gate which is busier and has the busses. If I turn before I reach the back entrance I am doing a three point turn in busy school run traffic with lots of children walking and cycling.
So AIBU to say I am safest turning in the large double gate and ignoring the new sign?

You are going to get flamed for this one.
park & walk from a distance that’s safe for all the kids at drop off/pickup time to keep everyone safe. Easy peasy

SpringIsSpringing25 · 22/03/2025 18:18

stillwaitingtobepaid · 21/03/2025 19:26

Just do as you are told and what is safe for the children at the school!!

The thing is, the school are not giving them a better option. When they were doing the safe and legal thing.(if the land of businesses are on is public land, if the land is private land they have every right to ask the school to tell parents not to do the obviously safe thing and turn around in the business grounds). With schools that are situated like this with parents living rural but no school bus service from where they live I feel the owner is on the school to sort something out. They are happy with.

@NortonBuns the parents need to get together and speak to the school. Find out whether the land that the businesses are on is private or public. If it's public, the business needs to be told to get in their lane if it's private the school needs to try to come to some arrangement. With them.. this may involve the School funding a turning circle or something but the school needs to help organise a drop off situation that they are happy with.

Or do you think it could be solved by an additional school bus?

SpringIsSpringing25 · 22/03/2025 18:14

Cheezmysta42 · 21/03/2025 16:10

Just drive past the school, turn in a side road and then drop your kid off facing home?

You need to read at least all of the OP's posts

SpringIsSpringing25 · 22/03/2025 18:12

Busyquaver1 · 20/03/2025 20:20

Assuming you and your child have no disabilities then I'd say walk to school!!

6 miles??

BadlyDrawnRoy · 22/03/2025 17:20

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 22/03/2025 16:54

I wish I had this special status and didn’t have to abide by the rules because I am polite, considerate and rule following.

Is it a special designation I can obtain or pay for? Or is it just self awarded 😂?

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Seems you also think the OP is a very, very special kind of special....

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 22/03/2025 16:54

BadlyDrawnRoy · 22/03/2025 07:12

Yes, the OP is special. Very special indeed....

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I wish I had this special status and didn’t have to abide by the rules because I am polite, considerate and rule following.

Is it a special designation I can obtain or pay for? Or is it just self awarded 😂?

BadlyDrawnRoy · 22/03/2025 07:12

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 21/03/2025 08:02

OP the sign is there for a reason and applies to you. You aren’t special or entitled to ignore it.

The solution which you don’t seem to want to do is continue town to the main gate where all the traffic is. You are turning around and trying to justify it to avoid the traffic because it inconveniences you. Continue down the road. Clearly the school know parents drive and they also know they are turning around there so keep going down the road.

Yes, the OP is special. Very special indeed....

BadlyDrawnRoy · 22/03/2025 07:10

Three days after asking your original question, and still you're trying to justify your sense of entitlement, even though 97% of people think you are being unreasonable. Time to give up asking the same question, and getting the same answer (yes, you are unreasonable, stop being so bloody lazy and endangering other people's children), surely?
I've never seen a question so daft, and putting out "entitled"vibes quite as clearly as yours.
Clown.

stillwaitingtobepaid · 21/03/2025 19:26

Just do as you are told and what is safe for the children at the school!!

Blacksheepcat · 21/03/2025 17:18

Drop her at the nearest bus stop so she can get the bus to the front gate?

Bluedenimdoglover · 21/03/2025 17:15

Are you special or what? Do reasonable requests only apply to other drivers. This cannot be a serious post.

Cheezmysta42 · 21/03/2025 16:10

Just drive past the school, turn in a side road and then drop your kid off facing home?

Griff1963 · 21/03/2025 15:18

Park down the road and walk!

DdraigGoch · 21/03/2025 13:42

Just cycle. It'll be good for both of you. Electric assistance if it's too hilly.

TattyBluebell · 21/03/2025 12:42

MeandT · 21/03/2025 11:23

I don't think it's even relevant what's up the A road, is it @TattyBluebell?

Going back to the OP @NortonBuns:

Q: "..where am I supposed to turn around?"
A: You're not - that's explicitly what the school is stating on the very clear new banner.

OP: "If I carry on I reach the front gate which is busier and has the busses."
A: Yes. It is busier. So it will be slower. You have stated you do all you can to avoid this route at all times as a route to continue into town because it is busy and slow. It does however involve continuing straight along a road wide enough for buses, in a forwards direction, without turning across rush hour traffic. This is clearly the school's preferred and suggested solution (other than parents not going anywhere near it in a car at all). The OP just doesn't fancy it because it's slow & not convenient for them. (I would say her, but the sustained level of belligerence on the thread has me wondering whether it's a Dad writing?)

OP: "If I turn before I reach the back entrance I am doing a three point turn in busy school run traffic with lots of children walking and cycling."
A: Agreed. You have clearly risked-assessed this as being a poor and unsafe option. Well done. Do not start doing this.

Q: "So AIBU to say I am safest turning in the large double gate and ignoring the new sign?"
A: Yes, YABVU. Do not ignore the new sign! You have now been asked by the school not to turn in this gateway AT ALL. You are safest continuing past the main gate in slow traffic. If this is too inconvenient to bear, other suggestions have been made which still don't involve turning anywhere along the school's road - including in the large double gateway the school has specifically put up a banner to ask you not to turn in.

HTH.

I think it is relevant actually. Are there places to turn, roundabouts on it etc!

angela1952 · 21/03/2025 11:44

I don't understand why the OP can't grasp that the school have only imposed this ban because they believe it is safer for the children. I used to avoid driving to the front of the school as it was packed and dangerous, surely there is somewhere else where the OP can park and walk to school? I used to have a 10 minute walk to avoid the carnage at the front of the school, but it was worth it.