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AIBU to continue turning in the school gate?

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NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 14:18

I drive my dd to school everyday and once I drop her off I turn around and drive home. I approach the back gate of the school and use this entrance to turn my car round so I can head back home.
The school have now put up a sign saying keep our children safe, no stopping, dropping off or turning in the entrance.
So where am I supposed to turn around? If I carry on I reach the front gate which is busier and has the busses. If I turn before I reach the back entrance I am doing a three point turn in busy school run traffic with lots of children walking and cycling.
So AIBU to say I am safest turning in the large double gate and ignoring the new sign?

OP posts:
RockaLock · 19/03/2025 16:03

Assuming it is not a cul-de-sac, you don’t turn in the road at all. You carry on driving, and do a drive around the block to get back the way you want to go.

Are people these days not aware that is an option? The amount of people I see doing turns in the (busy, main) road after dropping their children off at the school near me is unbelievable. Stop holding me up, stop holding up all the rest of the traffic, stop thinking your time is more important than everyone else’s and just drive around the bloody block. Or at the very least find a very quiet side road or turn around in. It’s not difficult!.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 19/03/2025 16:03

Why are you such an entitled twat?

Eightdayz · 19/03/2025 16:02

You're part of the reason school run mums have a bad rep.

Poppins2016 · 19/03/2025 16:02

SnoozingFox · 19/03/2025 15:26

People like me who live near a school are not so sure it's AI/reverse.

Absolutely. Sounds completely plausible to me (I live very close to a school. The entitlement from parents, who are asked not to use my road several times a year (but do so anyway), is quite something).

OldLondonDad · 19/03/2025 15:56

WTF? What do you think they put a sign up for? To stop you doing what you're doing!!!

Park your car 1 minute away. Walk your kid to school. Respect the signs. How hard can it be?

MsFogi · 19/03/2025 15:51

Does anyone else think the school has put this sign up for the OP because they don't have the balls to tell him/her direct to stop f**king turning around in the school gate!! OP lots of other people live in this world and it doesn't just revolve around you and your dc.

Tdcp · 19/03/2025 15:49

I live opposite daughters school, parents are always turning around in the drive and there are so many near misses with the children, I honestly don't know how one hasn't been knocked down so far. The school are constantly asking parents to stop doing this but they don't listen. Your kids school have asked you to stop because it's dangerous, find somewhere else to turn around and stop being so selfish.

TickingAlongNicely · 19/03/2025 15:48

Maybe you could reverse up the road instead?

FatherFrosty · 19/03/2025 15:47

I don’t think the ops coming back

No33 · 19/03/2025 15:47

My kids school have started to refer car details to the police because some aren't listening to the rules.

So go ahead, but expect consequences.

tanstaafl · 19/03/2025 15:46

Drive through the gates and use the playground to turn around?

Kids these days can’t be too young to learn about road safety.

Wear some hi-viz and have your hazards on, no one will bat an eyelid.

LastHeraldMage · 19/03/2025 15:44
Biscuit
SallyWD · 19/03/2025 15:41

I would stop further up the road and walk further. Even if I had to walk for 5 minutes I'd rather do that than turn around in the school gate when there are loads of kids around!

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 19/03/2025 15:41

NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 14:18

I drive my dd to school everyday and once I drop her off I turn around and drive home. I approach the back gate of the school and use this entrance to turn my car round so I can head back home.
The school have now put up a sign saying keep our children safe, no stopping, dropping off or turning in the entrance.
So where am I supposed to turn around? If I carry on I reach the front gate which is busier and has the busses. If I turn before I reach the back entrance I am doing a three point turn in busy school run traffic with lots of children walking and cycling.
So AIBU to say I am safest turning in the large double gate and ignoring the new sign?

Absolutely ignore the safety of other people’s children and carry on in your self entitled ways. Or park further away and walk your child/children to the school gate like normal people.

ButterCrackers · 19/03/2025 15:41

Park correctly further away and walk. Simple.

Lulubo1 · 19/03/2025 15:40

What part of "its for the children's safety" do you not understand!? Are you that stupid?? If your child was injured because an idiotic, selfish parent ignored a sign what would you do? How would you feel? I'm blown away at your selfishness! An injured child or a couple minutes behind a bus....think about it!

MrsMitford3 · 19/03/2025 15:40

I can't believe the comments you are getting.

Of course that sign is not intended for you!!!!
Just all the other parents.

Please ignore and carry on just as you please.

Daisymae23 · 19/03/2025 15:40

LTS(chool)!!!!!!

TicklishCrab · 19/03/2025 15:38

Oh this used to piss me right off when my daughter was at primary...I used to have to finish work at 1.30 to ensure I got there in time to pick her up at 3.15 (I don't drive), if the bus was on time I would arrive at 2.40 ish and have to sit there in all weathers eating my lunch if I didn't get a chance on the bus (too busy etc) and then when school was finished we would walk almost a mile home, hail, rain or shine. The amount of parents who thought their little darlings couldn't walk further than the car park gates was ridiculous - they would cram their cars onto every space available, almost knock everyone over in their mad rush to get home, and one little boy who was in a wheelchair had to start either waiting in the car park for the gates to re open at 3.30, or his parents had to park in one of the streets nearby.
It's not going to kill you parking a little further away, but parking where you shouldn't just might kill someone else! I'm sure if your child was hit by someone driving/parking where they shouldn't you would be the first to complain.

Winniethepooh50 · 19/03/2025 15:38
Grin
Derbee · 19/03/2025 15:36

Outrageous. The school should be much more accommodating to you and your DCs. Could you suggest (or insist) that everyone else starts school 15 mins later to leave the roads clearer for your drop off?

Perhaps the council could close the road for you, and you just call when you’ve done your drop off/pick up so they can reopen the road?

Could they rebuild the school much closer to your house, so you don’t need to drive/drop off?

Those are just three obvious solutions, and the fact that the school haven’t even suggested any of these before putting up a sign disrupting your driving is quite frankly ridiculous.

MarioLink · 19/03/2025 15:35

Park further away and walk. It is mayhem in the immediate area of the primary schools round here but arbour school and others if you walk 5 minutes there is loads of easybon street parking. The supermarkets also allow parents to use their car parks to drop at the nearest schools.

Quinlan · 19/03/2025 15:33

Walk.

Pull over at any point within walking distance of the school, let her out, drive around the nearest block. You don’t need to drop her at the doorstep of the school. Walk.

sandyhappypeople · 19/03/2025 15:33

Is the school in a cul de sac? Surely you would just keep going and find an appropriate place to turn around if you need to go back the way you came? Or you drive a circular route that is slightly out of your way to get where you are going?

babiesinthesnowflakes · 19/03/2025 15:33

Park further away and walk, obviously.

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