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AIBU to continue turning in the school gate?

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NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 14:18

I drive my dd to school everyday and once I drop her off I turn around and drive home. I approach the back gate of the school and use this entrance to turn my car round so I can head back home.
The school have now put up a sign saying keep our children safe, no stopping, dropping off or turning in the entrance.
So where am I supposed to turn around? If I carry on I reach the front gate which is busier and has the busses. If I turn before I reach the back entrance I am doing a three point turn in busy school run traffic with lots of children walking and cycling.
So AIBU to say I am safest turning in the large double gate and ignoring the new sign?

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Lovemycat2023 · 19/03/2025 16:58

Maybe the school think you should go on to the area where the buses are as that way it’s clear it’s an area with traffic and that risk can be managed, and the back gate is clear of traffic. Keeps the risky area to one place.

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NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 16:57

Sheeparelooseagain · 19/03/2025 14:48

"This can’t be serious…"

Especially with including driving home afterwards for good measure.

I work from home, where else m I supposed to go?

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NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 16:55

Nowvoyager99 · 19/03/2025 16:54

And how far from the bus stop for all these buses you mention?

No buses from our very rural location.

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NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 16:55

offyoufuck · 19/03/2025 14:52

There's this thing called "walking." 🙄

Live 6 miles away, must be lovely to live so near your school.

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StoorieHoose · 19/03/2025 16:54

Ah I remember the oldie days when high school aged children were too embarrassed to have their parent drop them off any where near the school gates!

Thecatatemyplants · 19/03/2025 16:54

It's simple. If the school say don't do it, don't do it.

Just...don't be a dick. It's really quite simple when you try!

Nowvoyager99 · 19/03/2025 16:54

And how far from the bus stop for all these buses you mention?

Redpeach · 19/03/2025 16:53

Could you join the ones cycling to school?

MontanaPink · 19/03/2025 16:53

How far from the school do you live, OP?

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NortonBuns · 19/03/2025 16:51

Ok so to answer some of your questions;

All the other parents do this, it is literally a queue of cars waiting to turn around to avoid carrying on towards the main school gate where busses are dropping off.

The school is about two miles up a straight road full of high school children walking and cycling to the school. No side roads to drop off or turn around.

I really am a very considerate driver, would never block drives, stop on yellow lines or zebra crossings. I just don’t know what the safe alternative is.

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NewsdeskJC · 19/03/2025 16:50

Ah, fuckwit from fuckwit city.
At dds school, despite the school being in the town centre, next to a huge carpark which is free a child was run over by a parent trying to reverse by the school gates because they didn't want to queue for the car park.
Fuckwit.

luckylavender · 19/03/2025 16:40

This is a joke, right?

DingDingRound3 · 19/03/2025 16:35

A child was run over in a local school by someone doing this.

OP, let’s hope some random child understands the manoeuvre and doesn’t end up under your wheels 👍🏻

lastminutetrip · 19/03/2025 16:33

Get out the car and walk, and stop being a lazy, dangerous and illegal arsehole

PlanningTowns · 19/03/2025 16:29

Given your position in the community and importance of you just generally, I would suggest that the sign is not intended for you but for every other parent at school. Therefore ignore the sign and continue turning there because why on earth would they expect you to have to turn somewhere else?

handsdownthebest · 19/03/2025 16:28

Please tell me this is made up or a reverse 🙄

fitzwilliamdarcy · 19/03/2025 16:28

Surely there must be a street nearby with drives you can park across? There might be some cross residents but they'll be fine once you tell them you'll only be 10 minutes!

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 19/03/2025 16:25

I always wonder if people are just totally oblivious to how selfish they are being…. This answers it 🤣

Guinessandafire · 19/03/2025 16:20

The saddest thing about this thread, even though it's obvioulsy someone being mischievous, is that it's an all too familiar and real scenario that most of us see on a daily basis.

No matter how many messages the school send out, how often parking enforcement officers spot check, how many pupil initiatives there are ...parents and grandparents just do what they want as they are that selfish.

A house on the same road as my DS school had a fire at school drop off time. The fire engine couldn't through due to inconsiderately and illegally parked cars. A huge warning and last chance email was sent round by the school. The cars were back parking in the same places for school pick up.

You can never underestimate how selfish and stupid people are.

viques · 19/03/2025 16:14

Lulubo1 · 19/03/2025 15:40

What part of "its for the children's safety" do you not understand!? Are you that stupid?? If your child was injured because an idiotic, selfish parent ignored a sign what would you do? How would you feel? I'm blown away at your selfishness! An injured child or a couple minutes behind a bus....think about it!

But the OPs child won’t be injured because she is parking so close to the school she could hand her in to the teacher through the classroom window. How is it her fault if the other stupid parents haven’t worked out how to keep their own children safe.

Luddite26 · 19/03/2025 16:13

I would hope this is a joke but over the years I have seen every parental entitlement going when it comes to parking at schools and drop offs.
So just in case it's not made up...
Crack on as long as your child is safe nothing else matters.

ShroudedOrchard · 19/03/2025 16:12

Also make sure you have a personalised number plate.

ShroudedOrchard · 19/03/2025 16:12

Ideally you carry on what you’re doing - but first pull over for a few minutes. Take a phone call while leaving the engine running. Let the kids and staff breathe the exhaust fumes in. The whole air pollution “problem” is just made up by the global elite anyway. Make sure to still be holding the phone when you pull off. Everyone else will soon learn who’s most important!

ClaredeBear · 19/03/2025 16:11

You are the minority that caused this sign to go up in the first place. I can’t believe you didn’t write this and decide not to click “post”.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 19/03/2025 16:10

JandamiHash · 19/03/2025 14:23

I think we need a diagram OP

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