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What is your household income, how much is benefits, and how are you coping?

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Gabrilla · 19/03/2025 11:16

Genuinely curious after so many threads on here about benefit changes. Please feel free to name change!

I’ll start:

Salaries for both of us total 90k. Only benefits are £102 month child benefit, though we also get tax-free childcare and 15hrs free at nursery.

Total income is about 6k a month, mortgage and bills 3k, nursery 1k, commuting costs £500, groceries cost £500, husband pays CMS and other bits to his children totalling about £500 leaving us about £500 for everything else.

Feels like we’re constantly penny-pinching.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 10/10/2025 21:59

That may Be so - tho as she pays it in one go - it’s still an expense and should be added to the monthly bills

Kuretake · 10/10/2025 21:09

LBFseBrom · 10/10/2025 20:40

Yes, I expect the poster meant monthly and typed yearly by mistake.

Edited

I think she's mistaken - she was very clear it's annual

LBFseBrom · 10/10/2025 20:40

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 10/10/2025 19:06

Even with a single person discount mine is £130/ month

I can’t imagine where it’d be around that for a whole year. Is there no bin collection or street cleaning or lighting?

Yes, I expect the poster meant monthly and typed yearly by mistake.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 10/10/2025 19:06

Even with a single person discount mine is £130/ month

I can’t imagine where it’d be around that for a whole year. Is there no bin collection or street cleaning or lighting?

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/10/2025 18:48

I’m in shock council tax for the year is £140 where I pay more than that a month

has to be having subsidised by uc/discount surely

Parker231 · 10/10/2025 16:00

9fthighfence · 10/10/2025 15:51

The welfare was designed to be contributory. You worked, you paid your NI and for that you got benefits if you lost your job and a pension. But now it’s swung too far the other way. If you’ve never worked and never paid any NICs you still get a pension. If you’ve never worked you still get unemployment benefit. Unemployment benefit is about 11% of pervious salary in the UK. In most European nations it’s 50% or more of the previous salary.

We need to scrap all benefits and reintroduce them as a split benefit. Mere subsistence benefits for those that have never worked or barely worked, and higher benefits for those temporarily unable to work. The work incentive has been eroded in our welfare system and needs to be reintroduced.

You’d have those unable to work due to mental health problems, long term sick, disabled on subsistence level benefits?

9fthighfence · 10/10/2025 15:51

Parker231 · 10/10/2025 15:15

The welfare service is for those who need supporting and it’s obvious that more funding not less is needed for social care particularly the elderly, mental health, the disabled and long term sick. The state pension also needs increasing to a level the retired can live on without worrying about not being able to put their heating on.
What services would you cut to reduce the welfare bill?

The welfare was designed to be contributory. You worked, you paid your NI and for that you got benefits if you lost your job and a pension. But now it’s swung too far the other way. If you’ve never worked and never paid any NICs you still get a pension. If you’ve never worked you still get unemployment benefit. Unemployment benefit is about 11% of pervious salary in the UK. In most European nations it’s 50% or more of the previous salary.

We need to scrap all benefits and reintroduce them as a split benefit. Mere subsistence benefits for those that have never worked or barely worked, and higher benefits for those temporarily unable to work. The work incentive has been eroded in our welfare system and needs to be reintroduced.

Parker231 · 10/10/2025 15:15

Xenia · 10/10/2025 14:33

Parker "You’d be happy to loose your state pension - it’s a part of the welfare bill." - Yes, if my tax went to a third of what it is now (because the only pension I will have if I live to age 67 will be state pension and as I will work until I die it will then as to about half be taken away from me in income tax anyway. So if my income tax bill reduced by two thirds but I got no £12,500 a year state pension (the figure before tax) I woudl be better off as I am just losing about £6k a year after tax by that and gaining a lot mjore under my scheme of reducing tax by 2./3rds.

The welfare service is for those who need supporting and it’s obvious that more funding not less is needed for social care particularly the elderly, mental health, the disabled and long term sick. The state pension also needs increasing to a level the retired can live on without worrying about not being able to put their heating on.
What services would you cut to reduce the welfare bill?

Londonmummy66 · 10/10/2025 15:14

I agree @SleeplessInWherever - I've just done a bit of googling and am told that wandsworth has the cheapest council tax in the country - and the band A charge is more than £300pm - even allowing for a single person discount that is more than £140 a year....

SleeplessInWherever · 10/10/2025 15:09

Londonmummy66 · 10/10/2025 15:01

Also feeling hard done by - my monthly bill is more than double @ToffeePennie 's annual one....

Before I made the expensive error moving to Cheshire (😂) my council tax was £120pcm, but that was in the North East which is probably one of the cheapest places to live.

Staggered that it can be just more than that a year somewhere else, because I thought the NE was one of the most affordable areas already.

Londonmummy66 · 10/10/2025 15:01

springintoaction321 · 10/10/2025 09:03

EEEEEkkkkk

Feeling hard done by as ours is £246 a month (over 10 months)

Also feeling hard done by - my monthly bill is more than double @ToffeePennie 's annual one....

Xenia · 10/10/2025 14:33

Parker "You’d be happy to loose your state pension - it’s a part of the welfare bill." - Yes, if my tax went to a third of what it is now (because the only pension I will have if I live to age 67 will be state pension and as I will work until I die it will then as to about half be taken away from me in income tax anyway. So if my income tax bill reduced by two thirds but I got no £12,500 a year state pension (the figure before tax) I woudl be better off as I am just losing about £6k a year after tax by that and gaining a lot mjore under my scheme of reducing tax by 2./3rds.

MiddleAgedDread · 10/10/2025 14:10

ToffeePennie · 10/10/2025 08:11

Yes. I don’t know what else to tell you. It’s £140, we don’t live in a big house, but it is on a new build estate, so maybe it’s because of the eco friendliness of the buildings or something but we have a very easy price of £140 per year.

where on earth do you live? I can't find anywhere that's that cheap, even at Band A!

springintoaction321 · 10/10/2025 09:03

ToffeePennie · 10/10/2025 08:11

Yes. I don’t know what else to tell you. It’s £140, we don’t live in a big house, but it is on a new build estate, so maybe it’s because of the eco friendliness of the buildings or something but we have a very easy price of £140 per year.

EEEEEkkkkk

Feeling hard done by as ours is £246 a month (over 10 months)

ToffeePennie · 10/10/2025 08:11

Kuretake · 10/10/2025 08:02

So your council tax for the year is £140!?

Yes. I don’t know what else to tell you. It’s £140, we don’t live in a big house, but it is on a new build estate, so maybe it’s because of the eco friendliness of the buildings or something but we have a very easy price of £140 per year.

Kuretake · 10/10/2025 08:02

So your council tax for the year is £140!?

ToffeePennie · 10/10/2025 08:01

Blondeshavemorefun · 09/10/2025 17:26

Bills are 200 a month. For

council tax
gas
electric
water
tv license
WiFi

as the basic ? Obv area depending but most peoples council tax is £200 a month

We don’t have a TV licence, we pay our council tax in one go in April, so I don’t include that in our budget because I basically work extra to pay that in one go so we don’t have to think about it.
We also don’t pay for WiFi, my husband gets it as a “perk” as he works from home it’s classed as a necessity, therefore nothing to pay.
Our gas bill is small as we don’t use the central heating in our house, we have a new build and are sandwiched between two houses, one is an elderly lady who keeps the heat on constantly, which keeps our house base level warm.
Our water bill is partially written off due to my company and the same for electric.
So yeah my bills are about £200 pcm, in April they’re around £340, but we don’t count that as our “regular” expenditure.

Parker231 · 09/10/2025 20:46

Xenia · 09/10/2025 13:07

10% of the UK has the highest tax burden in 70 years (under Tories and now Labour) - those on £70,000 + before tax (which is £3928 a month after tax/NI and student loan). 50% of UK households now pay no income tax. Not surprisingly the 90% are often more than happy the top 10% pay more tax but the result of the current system is that that top 10% have had imposed on them such a disincentive to work in case they lose their personal tax allowance or 30 free hours for 9 month year old or lower down income level lose child benefit that the system means those people work less and there is less available for the less well off. So it really is not working very well to tax those on £3928 net a month so very much.

I would certainly support a much much smaller welfare state.

You’d be happy to loose your state pension - it’s a part of the welfare bill.

MellowPinkDeer · 09/10/2025 19:45

Londonmummy66 · 09/10/2025 17:47

I suspect that the split between your salaries might be relevant here - if one is on £40k and one on £160k the marginal rate of tax will be pretty cruel.

Equal split.

thisishowloween · 09/10/2025 18:18

We earn approximately 65k, no benefits, no kids.

Own our house, run two cars and have multiple animals. No issues here.

Boomer55 · 09/10/2025 18:17

Gabrilla · 19/03/2025 11:41

Not looking for sympathy, but I’d have expected a better lifestyle on 90k.

We get by but can’t afford holidays or to get my hair dyed at a salon. MOT months are very stressful (car is seven years old). Clothes are mostly second hand from Vinted.

You can’t afford to get your hair done on £90k a year?

Oh do leave off. 🙄

Kuretake · 09/10/2025 18:15

Some of the bills amounts are amazingly low. My council tax alone is £250. My gas/electric is £130, broadband is £21, phones (X2) are £18. Not sure what the water is it's quarterly but I think about £30 a month.

Oh and I spend about £300 a month on trains to commute!

Id struggle to reduce any of that. My mortgage is stupidly high but that's my own fault obviously. Food is about £600 but I could get that lower if I had to I think.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 09/10/2025 18:10

ThatGladTiger · 09/10/2025 17:48

What are luxuries? I think social media is just making us look at other people and what they have.

I grew up in a relatively poor household in the 80/90s. Foreign holidays were not a thing and mum was adding up the food shop in her head before getting to the till.

Mass consumerism has meant we now believe we should be driving a new car, have a new iPhone and multiple holidays a year. How did we get here?

I count luxuries as anything that’s over food/ heating/ transport/ bills.

That means no Netflix or fast broadband. Phones kept for years until beyond the updates stop. No
hiludays, day trips are too expensive, lunch out too. No coffees out. Yes it’s miserable. But no choice.

ThatGladTiger · 09/10/2025 17:48

What are luxuries? I think social media is just making us look at other people and what they have.

I grew up in a relatively poor household in the 80/90s. Foreign holidays were not a thing and mum was adding up the food shop in her head before getting to the till.

Mass consumerism has meant we now believe we should be driving a new car, have a new iPhone and multiple holidays a year. How did we get here?

Londonmummy66 · 09/10/2025 17:47

MellowPinkDeer · 19/03/2025 12:23

We have 4, I have 2, he has 2 :)

I agree on paper it should be loads , but it doesn’t feel like loads anymore and I guess that is what the OP was about

I suspect that the split between your salaries might be relevant here - if one is on £40k and one on £160k the marginal rate of tax will be pretty cruel.

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