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To wonder if all those gleeful about PIP cuts are going to welcome people with serious mental health conditions as colleagues and employees?

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Somethingthecatdraggedin7 · 19/03/2025 09:39

Given the amount of ableisism I see on MN I think the likelihood of people welcoming people with serious mental health conditions into their workplace is pretty low.
And yes, these people will very likely now be forced to try to work even though their condition makes it impossible. We are not just talking about some lazy twenty year old who expects to sit at home gaming due to his “anxiety” as many people seem to believe is the case. It will be people with significant impairments to social functioning.
Even if they get support to apply for jobs, and even if they then get the position (doubtful) how accommodating will colleagues or customers be if the person seems a bit odd, or gets adjustments workmates deem unfair?
This is going to be a total shit show.

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OriginalUsername2 · 06/05/2025 09:08

Yuopl · 19/03/2025 09:53

No they won’t. I once got a job, that was a partnership between a disability charity and a large corporation, with the intent of helping to get people with my disability into the workplace, I lasted a week the hostility was off the charts tbh. I’m lucky I now have an incredibly understanding boss who’s disabled and very very very pro hiring other disabled people and understanding that comes with that. (But that is sadly very very rare imho)
but for a large portion people are like, get off benefits and into the workplace but not my workplace.

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Reminds me of NIMBYs (not in my back yard)

Now we’ll have NIMPOWs - not in my place of work!

LadyKenya · 06/05/2025 08:44

Inthetyreshop · 06/05/2025 00:57

Mental health needs to be taken seriously more so then a druggy or alcoholic who can claim pip cause they have diabetes but still able to walk fine..
Mental health isn't a choice like the choice to take drugs or alcohol

Do you honestly believe what you have written? If so, may I suggest that you do some basic reading about addictions. And about diabetes as well, while you are at it. Having that disease does not mean that you can't walk fine!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/05/2025 08:05

My local Sainsbury's has a number of differently abled staff. The guy that collects the trolleys has zero social/customer skills (he's really quite rude
As are many able-bodied retail staff members. 🙄

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/05/2025 08:03

Retail, childcare and care work are ideal jobs for people who earn low wages, they pay okay too, I am a low earning employee as are a lot of my neighbours, I am grateful that the jobs exist, I know people who really enjoying doing them, my Dsis went back to train as a dementia carer, she loves it, she loves the residents and the work, it can be messy, but it is very rewarding
Many older women work in early years, 400 a week is a decent wage for some people.
My DH works in retail for 20 years, granted, he has climbed the ladder but from work experience, not education.

TigerRag · 06/05/2025 07:44

ThisOldThang · 05/05/2025 22:47

My local Sainsbury's has a number of differently abled staff. The guy that collects the trolleys has zero social/customer skills (he's really quite rude and I've witnessed him shouting at people looking for trolleys). There are people working within the store who are (to my layman's eyes) almost certainly autistic.

Plenty of people, with a variety of disabilities, can and do find work.

"differently abled"? Are you aware how insulting that is?

ThisOldThang · 06/05/2025 06:21

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 23:22

Because customers going to the supermarket should not expect to have to be abused...it's amazing this needs explaining. Retail is a customer facing job, there are many trolley workers that don't need to communicate with customers much and that's fine but being rude and shouting at customers should never be accepted.

I remember him spraying down the trolleys during COVID, so he's held down that job for at least five years. It appears that the customers and his employer are willing to make allowances for his disability.

It seems that you're desperate to find reasons why people can't/shouldn't work.

mathanxiety · 06/05/2025 01:09

JenniferBooth · 05/05/2025 23:20

Yeah Ive noticed the horror displayed at the fact that ppl unsuitable for the job are ending up in childcare
Not many gave a shit when it was care homes!

To be fair, some posters on that thread have mentioned care homes too.

The policy is a fine example of the triumph of pie in the sky over reality.

Firefly1987 · 06/05/2025 01:06

XenoBitch · 06/05/2025 00:49

Sorry to hear that.
That is what happened to me pretty much... was told "everyone hates their job"... like it is something you have to accept. If it is causing you that much pain, you need to leave.
I stuck with it, and ended up sectioned. You can only cope until you can't anymore.

Yes there is a massive difference between not particularly liking work and not being able to cope with it at all. So sorry that happened to you, no one should be forced to reach breaking point.

XenoBitch · 06/05/2025 01:01

Inthetyreshop · 06/05/2025 00:57

Mental health needs to be taken seriously more so then a druggy or alcoholic who can claim pip cause they have diabetes but still able to walk fine..
Mental health isn't a choice like the choice to take drugs or alcohol

Mental health and addiction are very often intertwined. One can mask the other, and sadly the different services will not deal with someone if they think there are MH/addiction issues.
I know a few people that are alcoholics... MH services wont touch them as they say it is an addiction issue. Addiction services wont touch them as they say they are self medicating a MH issue. Same with drugs too.
So these people fall in the gap and get no help from anywhere.

And yes, it is a choice to take that first drink or drug.. but no one chooses to be addicted.

Inthetyreshop · 06/05/2025 00:57

Mental health needs to be taken seriously more so then a druggy or alcoholic who can claim pip cause they have diabetes but still able to walk fine..
Mental health isn't a choice like the choice to take drugs or alcohol

XenoBitch · 06/05/2025 00:49

Firefly1987 · 06/05/2025 00:39

Exactly. I know someone who killed herself because she hated her job so much. I'm sure everyone around her and society told her "learn how to deal with it." and look at the result. You can't force people who genuinely can't cope to cope. But what are a few suicides eh?

Sorry to hear that.
That is what happened to me pretty much... was told "everyone hates their job"... like it is something you have to accept. If it is causing you that much pain, you need to leave.
I stuck with it, and ended up sectioned. You can only cope until you can't anymore.

Firefly1987 · 06/05/2025 00:39

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:10

Some people are ND and can't "learn to deal with it!"

Exactly. I know someone who killed herself because she hated her job so much. I'm sure everyone around her and society told her "learn how to deal with it." and look at the result. You can't force people who genuinely can't cope to cope. But what are a few suicides eh?

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:30

Jjjjyy · 05/05/2025 23:28

Lots of ND people manage to hold down jobs.

Look up the employment rate for autistic people. It is not that much at all.

Jjjjyy · 05/05/2025 23:28

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:10

Some people are ND and can't "learn to deal with it!"

Lots of ND people manage to hold down jobs.

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 23:22

ThisOldThang · 05/05/2025 23:02

I honestly don't know what point you're trying to make here?

Are saying that a man who has all the hallmarks of a brain injury should be sacked because his condition has left him lacking in social skills? Should he take one for the team and sit at home on benefits for the rest of his life, so that you have 'proof' that there's no place for disabled people in the workplace?

Because customers going to the supermarket should not expect to have to be abused...it's amazing this needs explaining. Retail is a customer facing job, there are many trolley workers that don't need to communicate with customers much and that's fine but being rude and shouting at customers should never be accepted.

JenniferBooth · 05/05/2025 23:20

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:07

Also, the job market is dire right now. Plenty of threads on here about it.

Employers are going to be taking on the people with the best skills and experience... and there are plenty of those people right now. Disabled people being binned off of benefits and into the job market don't stand a chance.

And we have threads about having to deal with colleagues with MH issues... or people forced to work in childcare.

It seems to be that some people want the unemployable to be forced into jobs so they can then complain about them when they can't do those jobs.

Yeah Ive noticed the horror displayed at the fact that ppl unsuitable for the job are ending up in childcare
Not many gave a shit when it was care homes!

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:18

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 22:56

And you think customers being abused on a daily basis by this guy is a happy medium? Probably not happened to you yet so it's fine...

There is a community hub where I live, and it is run by volunteers. A lot of them are ND, and they have had to "sack" some for being rude to customers.
You can provide reasonable adjustments for lots of things, but some things you can't adjust or accept away.

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:10

Jjjjyy · 05/05/2025 23:05

If they can't deal with it, they should learn how to deal with it instead of living off the taxpayer.

"Cant deal with it." Learn how to deal with it.

Some people are ND and can't "learn to deal with it!"

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 23:07

JenniferBooth · 05/05/2025 22:51

Absolutely. When an employer pays NMW what they are really saying is "i would like to pay you less but i cant get away with it" They are hardly going to be scrambling to do adaptations or reasonable adjustments

Also, the job market is dire right now. Plenty of threads on here about it.

Employers are going to be taking on the people with the best skills and experience... and there are plenty of those people right now. Disabled people being binned off of benefits and into the job market don't stand a chance.

And we have threads about having to deal with colleagues with MH issues... or people forced to work in childcare.

It seems to be that some people want the unemployable to be forced into jobs so they can then complain about them when they can't do those jobs.

Jjjjyy · 05/05/2025 23:05

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 22:55

Well time isn't the issue is it? Some people just can't deal with the stress and expectations of work. Having to complete work in a certain amount of time and having to keep a cool head under stress. Having to think outside the box and problem solve, these are all things above some people's skillset. I don't see how going to a convention occasionally has any relevance to anything. You could take a toddler to a convention doesn't mean they can hold down a fulltime job either...

If they can't deal with it, they should learn how to deal with it instead of living off the taxpayer.

"Cant deal with it." Learn how to deal with it.

ThisOldThang · 05/05/2025 23:02

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 22:56

And you think customers being abused on a daily basis by this guy is a happy medium? Probably not happened to you yet so it's fine...

I honestly don't know what point you're trying to make here?

Are saying that a man who has all the hallmarks of a brain injury should be sacked because his condition has left him lacking in social skills? Should he take one for the team and sit at home on benefits for the rest of his life, so that you have 'proof' that there's no place for disabled people in the workplace?

Itsoneofthose · 05/05/2025 22:59

You are so right OP. There’s been a lot of effort in reducing stigma of mental illness, but just by raising ‘awareness’. ‘It’s ok not to be ok’ and all of that…. But people in general don’t have a scooby do what to do and how to react if someone has a panic attack for example, or behaves in any which way outside of social norms. Even people who consider themselves really switched on and aware seem to describe pretty low level depression and anxiety and parade themselves as experts in mental health or so called wellness coaches. They wouldn’t have a single clue about anything more serious and probably couldn’t spot it a mile off . I hope it back fires greatly, but sadly, again, the most vulnerable in society pay the price. It’s extremely awful and sad. We are no near good enough at understanding mental illness, addiction? Forget it. We’re in the dark ages.

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 22:56

ThisOldThang · 05/05/2025 22:47

My local Sainsbury's has a number of differently abled staff. The guy that collects the trolleys has zero social/customer skills (he's really quite rude and I've witnessed him shouting at people looking for trolleys). There are people working within the store who are (to my layman's eyes) almost certainly autistic.

Plenty of people, with a variety of disabilities, can and do find work.

And you think customers being abused on a daily basis by this guy is a happy medium? Probably not happened to you yet so it's fine...

Firefly1987 · 05/05/2025 22:55

Jjjjyy · 05/05/2025 17:10

I remember once having a twitter fight with someone who was unemployed for years , "couldn't work" or "couldn't find work" but had time to dress up in silly superhero costumes and go to conventions.

Well time isn't the issue is it? Some people just can't deal with the stress and expectations of work. Having to complete work in a certain amount of time and having to keep a cool head under stress. Having to think outside the box and problem solve, these are all things above some people's skillset. I don't see how going to a convention occasionally has any relevance to anything. You could take a toddler to a convention doesn't mean they can hold down a fulltime job either...

JenniferBooth · 05/05/2025 22:51

XenoBitch · 05/05/2025 22:43

They would have to get a job to start with.

For someone who is disabled and high skilled, their employer will make adaptions and concessions. For some unskilled NMW job.... they will employ the people most capable with no adaptions. So not the disabled.

Absolutely. When an employer pays NMW what they are really saying is "i would like to pay you less but i cant get away with it" They are hardly going to be scrambling to do adaptations or reasonable adjustments

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