Would you leave 14yo alone in the country for one night?

What was her reason?

I have my tin hat at the ready but people who say they have NO support network. No other parents at child's school, no friends, just nothing whatsoever.

I would never leave myself so vunerable and make sure I had some back up plan.

Surely as a parent we need to ensure that there is something. Not just you?

I wouldn’t leave a 14 year old alone overnight even if I was staying in the country. What if your flight was cancelled. What if you were in a car accident whilst you were over there.

i think many 14 year olds would cope provided everything went right. Many, even confident kids would be quite anxious alone overnight.

No I wouldn’t leave a 14 yo over night.

My child almost 14 asked to stay home alone while we were only 20 minutes away from from her, We had only just got to the place that we were going to when she text us wanting us to come home, and this was after months and months of her nagging is to be left home alone, would I risk being out of the country No

Absolutely not, because you are saying there is no back up in emergencies. The lack of network doesn't justify leaving him alone - it's actually the reason you shouldn't IMO.

Without sounding harsh, why is it falling on your shoulders to help a relative abroad? Has that relative no other family or friends around? I cannot see how a very short visit is going to help. I certainly wouldn’t be leaving my children behind, especially as they’re too young. Your priorities are with your OWN family.

Practically would say it depends on the 14 yr old. I was left alone overnight at 14 a few times. No issues, I loved having the house to myself and knew what to do if I needed help.
My younger brother however would probably have burned the house down or some such disaster if he'd been left alone 😄

Saying that I probably wouldn't do it with mine as times have changed, we're all more cautious.

DC does not have one friend he/she can spend the evening with? I don’t really know my DD’s friends parents but they would definitely let her sleep over at theirs in an emergency and I would do the same for them.

Has DC actually asked any of their friends?

I wouldn’t do it. Being an hour or so away in a car with the ability to get back quickly would be alright but being in a different country? Too much at 14.

There's a huge difference in maturity between 14 and 16, and when your children reach that age you really see the changes. Legal adulthood is actually 18, anyone under that age is still considered a child.
Leaving a 14 year old on their own for and out of the country trip is not OK. Given the circumstances that's its an emergency situation type visit means that the trip may need to be extended as the situation is a bit unknown on the other side.
It's terrible decision making if the OP decides to go.
The OP even states - no support network so it looks as though there's no one even close by!

Don't be daft . 14 is far to young

I’m sorry for your situation but there isn’t a predicament on this planet that I would feel warrants leaving my 14 year year old alone for 30 hours especially whilst I’m not in the country. Absolutely not.

I would let literally any of my DC's friends come and stay for a night, feed them and get them to school the next day, if their parents so much as put a message on the local parents whatsapp group saying they had a family emergency and needed to be away. People might surprise you OP! Other than that I'd take them out of school for a day.

Even if the answer to all those questions is yes, I still wouldn't do it. There’s a first time for everything and emergencies are not something you can plan for. Imo it’s unfair to put that burden on a 14-year-old.

Really, you'd fly abroad and leave them alone with no way to contact a nearby adult if needed?
You'd risk not being able to get back on time and have them maybe stay alone another night, again with no adults nearby to help if needed?

I left my eldest at 14 overnight. We've got a few smart cameras round our house which I check religiously when we're out for extended periods of time, his dad is a 10 min drive away, his step grandparents less than 5 mins away, we're in a very urban area and the neighbours have our phone number. He's lazy af so would never attempt to use the kitchen above sliding a pizza in and out of the oven (which is what we leave for him), nor would he ever answer the door. We're dragging him to stay with grandparents 3hrs away at Easter for 5 days and he's absolutely fuming (he's approaching 17 now) but I wouldn't leave him for that amount of time yet because he'd just turn into a mummified pizza on his gaming bean bag. We're also toying with the idea of leaving him overnight to supervise our 12yo in a couple of months but the 12yo gets anxious so...... Basically, it's all totally subjective isn't it. There is no wrong or right answer (within reason) in my opinion.

If there’s an adult they could go to in an emergency, and this is an emergency, can’t they stay overnight with that adult, even if it means sleeping on the sofa (or the adult come to stay with them)?

Absolutely not.
If something happens to your DC whilst you are away, you'll be in trouble, possible police and Social Services intervention.
14 is too young.
Surely your child has a school friend she can stay with for one night? Many school friends parents would help out.
Or hire a nanny/babysitter?
You could even speak to your child's pastoral care team for advice.
But don't 'risk' it - you're going to be out of the country - not even a drive away.

Any neighbours you could ask just for one night?

I wouldn't do it
Most 14 year old have a friend they can stay with, I would have happily had any of my DC's friends to stay in those circumstances

Gosh no I wouldn’t do this. We had a similar situation years ago when DD2 was 16. We are semi rural, had no relationship with near neighbours at the time and I asked my mum to come and stay the night so she wasn’t on her own. Likely everything would’ve been fine but it gave me and DD peace of mind.

If there is genuinely nobody who can help them in an emergency then you have to take them with you.

I would leave a sensible teen at that age, but only with someone in proximity who would help them out/take them in if the worst happened.

I wouldn't leave them, no.
If they're 14 and at school, surely they have a friend they could stay with?!
Do you not have any family or friends or work colleagues etc?

He must have a friend he can stay over with!!

No definitely not. What if you're delayed or there's an emergency...

Can you take your DC with you instead?