Would you leave 14yo alone in the country for one night?

Do you or she really have no friends or neighbours or even colleagues or her old nursery workers?If not you will have to take dc with you.

I would contact the school and see what they can recommend, I assume he has a form tutor.

They might know a sensible VI former have their own baby sitter.

Yes I would op.You know your child.I was totally independent living away from home at 16 as were many of my friends.If she is happy to do it and you know she is sensible it will be fine.You have mobile phones and can check in regularly.She will enjoy the independence and being responsible.

No. What if something happens at school and your child is suddenly sick and needs picking up. Or some. Thing happens at home when they're on their own. Or to you.

This is too risky.

You're the best person to know if your 14-year-old can be left alone because of his maturity levels etc. Not all 14 year olds are exactly the same, nor does every child miraculously change into an ultra capable individual on their 16th birthday.

If I was in your predicament I would assess how my child felt being left for so long to manage their expectations, explain why you're doing it so their emotions are in the right place and most importantly see how they feel about it. Îf they're not happy in any way I wouldn't do it. However if they are comfortable and confident enough about it, I would tell them to stay away from using certain things in the house that could pose a danger to them and give them a list of emergency numbers.

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/in-the-home/home-alone-quiz/

Absolutely not in this case. If it's only one day why don't you just take the child and say it's an emergency or have them pull a sickie? Airports get closed, emergencies happen. What if DC broke their leg while you were gone? What happens when someone realized their parent had left the country?

No I wouldn't. I would bring them with me if there was no where else for them to stay and I really had to go.

Can you afford a nanny for a one-off? Speak to his teacher and ask who is best mate is, then see if she can point mum of mate out in the playground. Has he never had a sleepover? If he has then ring them, explain and say you will do a reciprocal sleepover whenever suits them.
All else failing take him with you. Explain to the school before you leave. Missing 1-2 days is not going to ruin his education.

I know you're in a tough situation op but you can't leave a 14 year old totally alone with no emergency contact while you are in a different country. Even in the same country it would be fairly unreasonable.

Im not sure people are as forthcoming in real life as they seem to be on here about helping out

A parent you dont know, and know nothing of their circumstance, says can you have my child to stay overnight as Im leaving the country for 30 hours, and I'll be back later

You can imagine the threads on here asking AIBU to say no!!!

Don’t do it. If anything happens you will get reported to social services or much much worse. Whatever your reason, Flying abroad and leaving a 14 year old home alone us a bad idea. They don’t have a friend you can ask for a sleepover.

I think you are better to try solve the situation at the other end of this. I’m also a lone parent so I know it hard but no I wouldn’t leave DD15 on her own overnight

This, what if they lose their house key, boiler breaks down, smoke /co2 alarm goes off?
Who would they contact for help?
And absolutely not expecting you to share, but it doesn't sound like a health emergency for the family member abroad, do you need to be there in person?

No, because you can’t get back easily if something does go wrong. If it was in this country and you could drive back quickly or call on a neighbour my answer might be different.
14 is still very young, however sensible the child.

what is a contingency plans DS has an emergency? Who would he call or go to?

the issue isn’t the overnight per se. It’s what he will do and who will contact if he needs an appropriate adult while you are away.

you do not have a single friend or family member n the whole world who he can call upon while you are a abroad for a day?
if yes then have the conversation with them and him.

if not, then no. He needs an adult he can call
on if he needs help.

I wouldn't. You've said there are no friends she can stay with. This means you're leaving a14 year old alone overnight with no- one around to help if anything happens .
Does she really have no friends at all ?
Do you have any friends she can stay with?
I'd help my child's classmate in this situation

No can’t they stay with a friend?

I wouldn’t. Dd was left alone overnight at 16 for the first time for one night and we were in the country. She’s sensible.

I might possibly if there was a friend or neighbour of mine they could contact in an emergency who could help.

I would. Providing she is sensible, it will be fine. I was regularly left for up to a week at that age and, whilst I wouldn’t recommend that (it was lonely!) one night as a one off will be fine. We very occasionally left DSD overnight at that age and it was fine, she actually enjoyed it.

I couldn’t do it as I’d just worry the whole time. I appreciate it’s a tricky situation but is there really no one? A classmate, coworker, neighbour.

what is the setup at home? Nice neighbours? I am thinking about leaving my kids home alone for the first time for a few hours - we know all of our neighbours so I’ll check who will be around so my kids know where to go just in case. What’s the backup plan if the key breaks, power goes out, etc etc.

Sorry too young. Could you arrange a sleepover with one of her friends. I'm sure their parents be happy to help. Hope the situation abroad is ok x

I actually think there is a big maturity difference between 14 and 16. I can even remember feeling more grown up myself by 16.

Can they not go with you? Tell the school it's the only option other than leaving them alone.
I wouldn't leave them tbh. You're not local and anything can happen. Seems really irresponsible to leave the country and leave your child at home without any support.

It's the "what if" factor. The answer has to be, No.

I wouldn't unless he had someone close by to call on. Also being alone at night when you're not used to it could be very unsettling for him.

In your situation (is there really no one at all?), I'd take him with me.

Has he no school friend you could ask? Even if you don't know their parent. I'd readily help out my child's friend in that situation.