To report my son as missing?

I don't feel and have never felt the need to breach his privacy as an adult until this weekend.

I'm glad he's okay OP, but it's NOT a breach of his privacy to want to know that he is okay, it would be if you wanted to know where he was who he was with and what he was doing, but going completely 'missing' from home and work seemingly out of the blue is completely different, he should be able to have some space away without putting you through all those days of worry and panic of not knowing if something has happened to him, it sounds like you may have had some trauma in your lives and it could have skewed your sense of what are normal and acceptable boundaries.

Wanting to know your son is safe is NOT in any way a breach of his privacy.

Well done Mum, a tough time handled well .

I think all our young uns are going through some tough times collectively I think.

When I was 14, I went to the school dance on a Friday night.
It was over at 11pm and my ride fell through. I caught a ride with a couple of friends. I got home at 11:20, and as I gripped the doorknob, a hand came out and grabbed me by the front of my shirt and yanked me into the house — and at the same time punched me right in the face.
I saw that fist coming at me again, and I ducked and BAM!! my mum slammed her fist into the thick front door, which stunned her enough to stop.
It turned out she thought the dance was over at 10pm and she thought I was out getting up to no good.
So the next day, I had a black eye and Mum had a bruised hand.
Over the years, Mum’s version was much embellished where she heard a siren and then many sirens and how worried she was for me.
I call bullshit.
How many of your Mums rewrote history?

Bless you OP. Glad he is safe and returned home.

Bless you. He might have taken something at the weekend that’s messed his mind - he’s still very young and tbh best to overreact reporting him missing than underreact and regret it. Especially given poor mental health history. The fact he wants counselling is really good. But if he goes missing again then please do report to the police. They have a risk assessment process based on history and present day risks and would react accordingly. Don’t worry about over reacting. My own son went missing years ago twice & both times they located him and I fear he may have not had a positive outcome if not. He’s great now though. Got help and is so resilient now. Bless you both

Can't believe people have put you are being unreasonable.

I'm so glad he is home safely. You must be so relieved. Best wishes to you both for the future. You seem like a lovely, kind, caring mum x

Maybe if you took the trouble to at least read the OPs updates you would be up to speed with what has happened.

Okay, he's home. That's great but it's v bizarre for a parent to not worry when there is radio silence from their young adult dc who it's now been revealed is very mentally fragile. Son didn't turn up for work either. I would be out of my mind.
Glad he's home though.

What a relief 💐

So glad he’s home. I have a 21 year old going through a tough time so I can imagine your fears. Sending you love. x

I have not read all the replies yet, but I voted UABU purely based on the fact he appears to have been missing for nearly 6 days! Post implies he lives at home, none of his friends have seen him and his phone has been off so he is not contactable. Please call the police and report him as missing!

Glad your son’s ok.

Yes definitely report now. Had similar with my 19-year-old daughter. The police were fantastic. Luckily she was found in a pub

So glad he is home xx

This …what is wrong with people?

I think you sound like a wonderful mum. I hope me and my kids have a relationship like yours when they are in their 20s. Sounds like it's based on respect and trust. Although I also hope they check in if they're going to be away from home because im not sure id be as calm as you. Even if they don't want to talk yet.
I'm glad he's home x

Good news. You are a great mum.

Well done OP. I am glad he is home.
Don’t take the judgments here on board.

I'm SO pleased to hear that your DS arrived home safe and sound OP, you must be incredibly relieved. I hope that he's able to get the help he needs, and life gets better for him.

Oh FGS, lay off eh? The OP says he is home now, and has explained everything in her last post.

Agreed. It would be on the news surely? How could a mother have "peace of mind", happily posting on MN whilst her ds has been missing for days and not turned up for work?

Glad he’s ok. Believe me you still worry about them when they’re 45!

Hope he can get counselling and it helps.

So glad he’s home OP. You did all the right things. He’s lucky to have such a supportive mum xx

He has.
Which you'd know if you'd read the OP's posts.