To report my son as missing?

Three, plus an older man, in the last month or so (one of them had been missing several months) plus still a big campaign locally from the family of Jack O’Sullivan who vanished a year ago. Nothing has been said by the police about any of them beyond announcing a body was found in the search for… so it may be a very sad coincidence, but at least one of them phoned 999 before disappearing.

I have not read all the replies yet, but I voted UABU purely based on the fact he appears to have been missing for nearly 6 days! Post implies he lives at home, none of his friends have seen him and his phone has been off so he is not contactable. Please call the police and report him as missing!

hi everyone, he's home and unscathed. He's not in a great headspace and has asked for some counselling. We have quite a complex history with DV and I think he's being impacted by unresolved trauma.

I read some comments about gentle parent and how it can create lazy, complacent adults or something to that affect.

I am not a shouter, I don't like punitive measures and I trust my son. We have a good relationship and are very close. I don't feel and have never felt the need to breach his privacy as an adult until this weekend.
When he was jumped, he was with his girlfriend and they called me and let me know what had happened. We FaceTimed and I offered to go over, I wanted to be with him. I respected his decision to not have me there. I try to be respectful of his decisions and by no means claim to be a perfect parent. I really wasn't coming on here to have my parenting judged from snapshots of information.
Colleagues and friends of mine are police officers and I know how stretched services are. I didn't want to involve them unless it was absolutely necessary and all other avenues of enquiry had been explored. I was right in my decision and my actions yesterday have resulted in him coming home,
for what it's worth.

I can tell you that I was worried about a million things and had concerns about his welfare last night. Felt like an awful mum and in those moments, which I believe we alll have, I did not want or need affirmation of my darkest fears and failings from strangers on the internet.

I am going to remove this thread at 8pm but wanted to thank those posters that were supportive and kind. It really helped, as I said I needed unbiased opinions so thank you so much.

i hope you all have a peaceful, uneventful evening. I will not be responding to any more posts but am appreciative of the concern felt for my family and I.

You are definitely not over reacting, you must be worried sick, report it xx hoping for him to come home safe

You must definitely report this even if he turns up safe, why risk it

*he’s

You must definitely report this even if he turns up safe, why risk it

Sorry everyone,thanks for all the responses. I didn't over the weekend because he does sometimes stay at his friends. His best friends share a house and he crashes there sometimes so it's not unusual for him to be gone till Sunday. I only became alarmed when his close knit group of friends said they hadn't seen him since Friday and he hadn't been to work when I called. I found these things out today when I started to become increasingly alarmed and did some sleuthing. As others have said it's hard to know when it's okay to breach your adult child's privacy and what consitutes reasonable contact with friends. Some of whom I've met, and many I haven't that I contact via multiple platforms to ascertain if he was alright.

I haven't spoken to him, I messaged everyone I could think of to get information before i called the police and someone said he's at a friends with a dead phone. I am both furious and incredibly relieved. Planning to attempt to sleep once the adrenaline wears off.

thanks for all the support. I know it seemed odd to post on here I just needed some perspective from people outside the situation who weren't bias.