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To report my son as missing?

459 replies

stucky · 18/03/2025 21:23

Wondering when to start panicking? DS 22, hasn't been home since Friday day time. He usually lets me know what's going on. It's not unusual for him to spend time at a friends for a day or two, however I've messaged his closest friends, no one's seen him since Friday. His phone been dead since Saturday morning. I know he's not a child, but he's my son and I'm concerned about his wellbeing. Should I report him as a missing person? Or am I overreacting? I just don't know what to do.

Please be kind, I am currently feel very fragile.

OP posts:
Climbinghigher · 18/03/2025 21:33

Yes - I had to report a friend as missing - it was a long but straightforward process.

i hope you hear from him soon. I have sons of similar ages and would be very worried.

Gundogday · 18/03/2025 21:33

Yes, report.

Tiswa · 18/03/2025 21:33

Yes contact police and hospitals

Onlyvisiting · 18/03/2025 21:33

stucky · 18/03/2025 21:30

No. He's not been to work either.

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So he hasn't been home or to work and his phone is off?
Yes, definitely report ASAP. I'd be so worried.
How is your relationship generally?
Does he have any MH issues or any history of taking off without letting you know? Where was he going on Friday?

GretaGip · 18/03/2025 21:32

Please phone the police, have you got support and comfort there with you?

Do not feel obliged to come back and update here, you do what is best for you.

ItsUpToYou · 18/03/2025 21:32

Yes I would report. I don’t think the “Why haven’t you already?” comments are particularly helpful.

wherever123 · 18/03/2025 21:32

wherever123 · 18/03/2025 21:30

Have you rang round his friends?

Sorry you said this - but what about people he was last out with?

kungfoofighting · 18/03/2025 21:31

Quinlan · 18/03/2025 21:25

You haven’t already? With what you’ve said, i’d have reported it sunday night or yesterday. Why have you waited until now?

Leave OP alone. Totally unnecessary comment.

wherever123 · 18/03/2025 21:30

Have you rang round his friends?

Onlyvisiting · 18/03/2025 21:30

Def report.

I'd also contact any friends you know again stating clearly that you haven't heard from him since Friday and his phone is off, please can they check with any mutual friends etc as you will be reporting him missing.

Just as if you originally messaged asking if they had seen him they might have just said no and thought no more about it just then.

This is all assuming he lives with you?
Does he have a job? Car?

Original poster
stucky · 18/03/2025 21:30

TheQuietestSpace · 18/03/2025 21:25

Has he been to work yesterday/today? I think I would report.

No. He's not been to work either.

OP posts:
CatsWhiskerz · 18/03/2025 21:29

He's probably just fine, but definitely get police help today - good luck

YourElatedLimeShark · 18/03/2025 21:29

Report!

faerietales · 18/03/2025 21:27

I would have done it on Saturday! Of course you need to report Flowers

Createausername1970 · 18/03/2025 21:27

Yes, definitely.

Overthebow · 18/03/2025 21:27

phone dead since Saturday? I would have reported as soon as I knew that. Do it now!

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 18/03/2025 21:26

It's been 4 days. Of course you need to report him missing! I would have done it 2 days ago, even 3!

(I really hope he is OK!)

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FiatMultiplaWhopper · 18/03/2025 21:26

Absolutely report it asap! Hope you find him.x

fromthevault · 18/03/2025 21:26

I would absolutely report.

I hope he is ok.

titchy · 18/03/2025 21:26

Quinlan · 18/03/2025 21:25

You haven’t already? With what you’ve said, i’d have reported it sunday night or yesterday. Why have you waited until now?

Same Confused

IMissSparkling · 18/03/2025 21:26

Quinlan · 18/03/2025 21:25

You haven’t already? With what you’ve said, i’d have reported it sunday night or yesterday. Why have you waited until now?

This! I would have done it on Sunday.

constantlylactating · 18/03/2025 21:26

I'd have reported him missing the next day, do it ASAP

DontWantNoScrub · 18/03/2025 21:26

YANBU!!!!

If not being in contact like this is unusual for him then absolutely report him missing. Do not hesitate a moment longer.

ilovelamp82 · 18/03/2025 21:25

Absolutely. Hope everything is OK.

Chocolateismylovelife · 18/03/2025 21:25

Yes I would, hope he’s ok, please let us know x