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To report my son as missing?

459 replies

stucky · 18/03/2025 21:23

Wondering when to start panicking? DS 22, hasn't been home since Friday day time. He usually lets me know what's going on. It's not unusual for him to spend time at a friends for a day or two, however I've messaged his closest friends, no one's seen him since Friday. His phone been dead since Saturday morning. I know he's not a child, but he's my son and I'm concerned about his wellbeing. Should I report him as a missing person? Or am I overreacting? I just don't know what to do.

Please be kind, I am currently feel very fragile.

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YesHonestly · 18/03/2025 21:47

Livpool · 18/03/2025 21:46

Why have you left it this long?

How is this helpful?

Changeyourlifes · 18/03/2025 21:46

I would report because more than enough time has passed for him to make his own way home after a hectic weekend. The fact he hasn’t been to work is concerning

Livpool · 18/03/2025 21:46

Why have you left it this long?

PinkiOcelot · 18/03/2025 21:46

Ahh OP. You must be frantic. Hope he returns safe and well x

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 21:45

Yes I think you should. Could you take to Facebook to spread the word?

YesHonestly · 18/03/2025 21:45

I have no useful advice to add, other than please report him missing now.

I hope he’s home soon OP, I really do x

Stripeyanddotty · 18/03/2025 21:45

Thinking of you and hoping he’s ok

wowwhataday · 18/03/2025 21:44

Hoping it all turns out ok, Op. Let your network know you’re worried as well as the police and hopefully someone knows something.

StScholastica · 18/03/2025 21:43

The Police will be able to support you and use their resources to find him. Sending love.

Pumpkinspice13 · 18/03/2025 21:43

You must be going out of your mind with worry, yes definitely call them!! Hope he is found safe and well soon!!

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 18/03/2025 21:43

OP, yes I echo others, you should report it. My DB had a habit of doing this at the same age when he decided he fancied some headspace, a week was the longest time and the police always found him. He’s grown out of it 🙄 but I remember the fear. I hope all is ok x

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 18/03/2025 21:41

IMissSparkling · 18/03/2025 21:26

This! I would have done it on Sunday.

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Oh incredible! Not to derail the thread but you’ve invented a Time Machine so the op can go back to when you would’ve reported it? That’s amazing! How did you do it?! You utter spanner.

Terracottafarmers · 18/03/2025 21:41

Oh OP. I'm so sorry to hear. Yes report him. Ignore the rude comments about how you should've done it earlier. Until you are in that situation you don't know how you will react and you also don't want to overreact in case. Sending lots of hugs x

Doggymummar · 18/03/2025 21:39

Definitely report it, assuming you've tried everyone you can. It's very worrying he hadn't been to work.

zeibesaffron · 18/03/2025 21:38

Sending you a hug and hoping that all is okay ❤️❤️

SpringIsNearlySpringing · 18/03/2025 21:38

Agree with everyone else. Report to police, then start ringing round hospitals.
Hope he’s ok.

Has he done anything like this before?

Mingenious · 18/03/2025 21:37

I would report too.

kungfoofighting · 18/03/2025 21:36

Hope he turns up safe and well quickly OP, you must be worried, is there someone there with you 💐

Sunshineandrainbow · 18/03/2025 21:36

Absolutely do it now.
If you ring hospitals and give his name they will tell you if he is a patient.

Really hope he is ok 🥰

TreeCake · 18/03/2025 21:36

Hope all is ok.

SwerveCity · 18/03/2025 21:36

So many unnecessary comments 🙄
Hope all is ok OP. Definitely ring around hospitals once you’ve reported.

MadeForThis · 18/03/2025 21:35

Report him missing now. And phone local hospitals.

Devianinc · 18/03/2025 21:34

Yeah, I’d be freaking out. Better the faster it’s reported

Climbinghigher · 18/03/2025 21:34

And yes ring hospitals. I have had to do that for my friend a few times (the missing one). I had to check A&E and the main hospital separately.

BMW6 · 18/03/2025 21:33

Police. Now. I hope everything is OK.

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