To report my son as missing?

Hi OP, is your son okay? I'm waiting to hear he is home!

I hope by now you are having a (gentle and calm) chat with him that he MUST NEVER DO THIS TO YOU AGAIN!!!

Wishing you all the best. You must be worried sick.

This is exactly what I'm thinking. Pls make certain he is safe and don't take the friend's word for it

I'd still not really be happy with that. Someone's told you he is at a friend. But assuming that's not the actual friend he is with. How does that friend know that if his phone is dead. Why is his phone been dead for DAYS?! Why is he just not going to work and not contacting his work?

I still think you should have phoned as soon as you got advice when posted. Not try to phone round again as now you have a random piece of info but no actual way of knowing he is OK just the say so of someone who isn't there.

Presumably his friends are telling the friend he is with how worried you are?!!!

Have you spoken to your son, OP? It sounds to me as if a friend told you he was with another friend. So you didn't call the police. Or speak to your son. Who hasn't charged his phone, or contacted his workplace. Am I understanding correctly?

Maybe he has been involved in something he is ashamed of. Maybe he has been attacked and isn't coping and has gone to ground. Maybe his 'friend' is not so much of a friend and is covering something up.

Please explain the situation to the police and ask them to do a welfare check at the house of this so-called 'friend'.

It sounds like you're in shock or unsure about boundaries. Young men are at risk of all sorts of violence. Please check in on him directly and strongly -- don't feel silly, you are not overstepping!

Glad all is ok. You can sleep happily now 😌😊

Gosh not surprised you were stressed. Hope you hear from him soon and find out why he didn't go to work or charge his phone. Hope all is OK.

What strange behaviour, has he been unwell? Did he call in sick at work? I hope he will understand why you were so concerned.

@stucky

I haven't spoken to him, I messaged everyone I could think of to get information before i called the police and someone said he's at a friends with a dead phone. I am both furious and incredibly relieved.

So you have heard back from police now - and they say your son is OK. I hope he is. How did they track him down?

Like several others here, I've got more questions than answers now though...So he's just been at a mate's house for 4-5 days with a dead phone, not been at work, and not been in contact with you at all?? All this time?? And he has still not actually phoned you himself or been in touch?

Is this normal behaviour for him? It sounds worrying. He is a 22 year old man, not a 14 year old. This behaviour seems quite odd to me. Did he not think to contact you? Did he not think you may be worried? As I said, I hope he's OK.

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So glad all is ok, you’re right, managing what to do when your child is only just an adult is very hard, it was something my mum definitely struggled with when DB pulled this nonsense. I hope the adrenaline wears off and you can get some sleep

Very unusual. My boys go for about 10 mins and they’re looking for a charger. Also very odd why he didn’t go to work. Did he ring in sick? I’d definitely be snooping some more.

I’d also be phoning the friend he is allegedly with and asking to speak to him.

@stucky So glad all is ok. It seems this parenting becomes tougher the older they become. At least you will rest easy tonight.

Hopefully you get hold of him soon, definitely report it.

Totally agree. This poster isn’t the only one either!

Have you read the message???

You and all these others berating the mum for not reporting it earlier should be ashamed of yourselves! Don’t you think she feels bad enough? Please be kind (as she requested, bless her)

Do they know this for sure?

it seems unusual in this day and age to go for days without charging your phone. Make sure your intel/info is good on this and he’s definitely at his friends

They will. I agree it seems odd but I tracked my elderly aunt down by tuning a number of hospitals.

That will make his poor mum feel SO much better! Well done!

Glad he's safe. You must be relieved. Was he meant to be in work? If so is it strange he's not charged his phone or gone to work?

Another voice saying report. It's really scary when your child (no matter their age) goes missing, particularly if it's out of character.
Hopefully he's just been at a mate's house or something and will turn up soon.

Edited to say: just read your update- that's fantastic news, what a relief

So pleased he's OK. I'm amazed he hasn't charged his phone.

You must be really relieved.

Sorry, just noticed that you said his phone was dead. Apologies.

I can fully understand your panic. I’m assuming you have tried his mobile, if he has one.
I think that this is a long time to be uncontactable when it’s unusual and, given his age, (and you don’t mention any mental issues), I would be worried too. Before calling the police, i would try ringing local hospitals, in case he has been hurt or taken ill. If he doesn’t show up there, then I would certainly call the Police. I hope it all turns out to have a good outcome. 🍀❤️