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Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. Fed up of hearing this expression.

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girlfriend44 · 18/03/2025 21:18

I keep hearing people say people who choose not to work. Target them.
Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. I wonder if some people actually know what they are talking about?

Nobody is allowed to just lounge around and not look for work.

Able bodied people on UC who don't have a paid job are harassed all the time.
They will probably be attending interviews at the jobcentre once a week, where they have to provide evidence they are jobsearching 35 hours a week.

They can be sanctioned over any little thing.
They have to attend any courses they are sent on, even if they are useless courses. Non attendance will end in a sanction.

The staff can arrange interviews on their behalf if the employer has a tie up with the jobcentre which some do.
If it's deemed you didn't try hard enough at the interview, the employer can discuss this with the staff,and you'll be hauled up and sanctioned for not trying.

Those who think people choose not to work please be educated.
It's a hostile environment for anyone out of work.
Not every able bodied person can find employment.
Your not just allowed to sit at home and choose not to work though.

You'll have a claimant commitment and you have to provide evidence of jobsearching. 35 hours too.

I think alot of people who comment don't really know. Everyone is under pressure.
The days of just signing on once a fortnight and not having to.prove your doing everything you can have long gone.

OP posts:
CelRa · 19/03/2025 22:31

NotVeryFunny · 19/03/2025 19:02

Really? That’s hard to believe. The rules are really specific and having worked in a job centre, applied to everyone. If you are fit and well and without any caring responsibilities you have to attend job centre appointments with a work coach once a week for the first 13 weeks. You also have to evidence work searching for 35 hours a week. You are also really required to do various activities such as see someone to help you with a CV, attend courses and job fairs, help with literacy etc, and as the pp said sometimes you have mandatory job interviews, sometimes in the job centre within earshot of the work coaches.

it really isn’t easy to just not work if you are not unwell/disabled (and you have to prove that, you can’t just make it up), or you have caring responsibilities (ie a very young child, or a disabled person who receives a qualifying disability benefit).

You will have read my post above.

What do you suggest regarding a fit and able, single 34 year old, who hasn't worked for five years? What are the reasons for him being able to do this?

He isn't under pressure to find work, he doesn't even mention work. Lives cheaply, enjoys his hobbies. Has completed one training course.

Being out of work isn't good for him and isn't good for the tax payer, when so many other services and people could benefit from the money.

Is he fraudulent? Could you be found out or reported by others?

ThePurpleBuffalo · 19/03/2025 21:58

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:48

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Or they could get jobs.

If they're incapable of working? No. They'll just go hungry.

Are you always like this?

Gingernan · 19/03/2025 21:57

A neighbour of mine has recently retired, apart from a retail job in her late teens , she has never worked. Her husband, likewise. The thought of work absolutely terrified her. I have to bite my tongue a bit as I'm still getting up at 4 am to clean offices to supplement my pension at 75.

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 21:52

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:48

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Or they could get jobs.

What jobs? Are you in a cushy job right now?
It is awful out there for people looking. A few threads about it right now.

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:48

ThePurpleBuffalo · 19/03/2025 21:36

No, they'd just starve.

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Or they could get jobs.

ThePurpleBuffalo · 19/03/2025 21:36

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:25

If they didn't have benefits, they'd be forced to sort out their attitudes or they'd go hungry.

No, they'd just starve.

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 21:30

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:25

If they didn't have benefits, they'd be forced to sort out their attitudes or they'd go hungry.

I did go hungry and had to have intervention and admit I needed benefits.

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 21:30

Ilovecleaning · 19/03/2025 21:23

If someone started a #MeToo online campaign where people could cite real life examples of people they know who milk the system, I wonder what the response would be; so many people claim to know “lazy benefit claimants.” How many actually exist?

I would like to see a #MeToo campaign of peopel that are being affected by the proposed cuts. There are already lots of them.

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 21:28

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:27

I'm indifferent to shirkers that refuse to work living in poverty.

Good for you. It could be you one day. Because who the government sees as "shirkers" keeps changing

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:27

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 19:37

You sound awful. You would like to see someone in poverty?

I'm indifferent to shirkers that refuse to work living in poverty.

ThisOldThang · 19/03/2025 21:25

hellohannah · 19/03/2025 19:05

I wouldn’t want to work with someone who didn’t want to work and did only the bare minimum they could get away with. I’m not saying they shouldn’t have to work but having no work ethic and a can’t be arsed, disinterested attitude is not productive or valuable in many cases and just causes a toxic environment for the people who have to work with them.

If they didn't have benefits, they'd be forced to sort out their attitudes or they'd go hungry.

Ilovecleaning · 19/03/2025 21:23

If someone started a #MeToo online campaign where people could cite real life examples of people they know who milk the system, I wonder what the response would be; so many people claim to know “lazy benefit claimants.” How many actually exist?

ColdWaterDipper · 19/03/2025 21:19

I know a family that choose not to work. The mum supposedly has anxiety and agrophobia, but is regularly posting on FB about going out and about all over the place and going clubbing with her friends. The dad was her ‘full time carer’ despite the fact that she had no care needs, but then decided he had his own disabilities, and has managed to claim disability benefit himself. Both also receive PIP, and despite neither working, they fail every morning to get their child to school on time (a short 15 minute walk away from their house but a taxi calls for the child every day, and is kept waiting at least 20-30 mins). They absolutely choose not to work and in fact the mum brags about it openly. I have a serious illness (cancer) and yet would not qualify for PIP as I would be honest on the forms.

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 21:04

girlfriend44 · 19/03/2025 20:46

This is what I've been saying. It's not that easy...

When I first went to the job centre to claim UC I was told I would have to apply for EVERYTHING. Including driving jobs when I am not allowed to drive.
Thankfully, my work coach was really understanding. She saw me and said she could not in any good faith make me apply for jobs as it was plain to see I was struggling. Before I had sick notes, she switched off the work requirement thing. One time, I was a no show and she didn't even mention sanctions. She told me to avoid the press. She was actually a really nice and understanding person.

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 20:59

Flavourful · 19/03/2025 20:42

I think you need your eyes opened.
A lot of people on benefits are bringing in a damn site more than someone working full time on minimum pay, a lot are bringing in over £3,000 a month and more.
A lot are on lcwra so don’t have to do anything to get their benefits.
A lot who have kids under a certain age are not expected to look for work.
a lot of messages about places hiring or offers of placements are followed by messages saying to ignore it if you’re not interested in the message.
a lot are sat on their backsides thinking I’m not going to work to pay my rent if upwards to £1,000 depending on area when the government are paying it for me and paying me more on top that I couldn’t earn.
Think about it, rent £800 standard allowance £400 lcwra £415 pip minimum £405 that’s before throwing kids allowance into the mix £297 for each child and then the child needs care for adhd another £400 being able to claim carers allowance and DLA for the child.
Making sense yet!
a lot don’t want work and the minority get hit because of it.

I am on benefits and am not bringing in anymore than anyone working. My income is £800 each month. If you are on your own with no kids then you don't get much.
I am on LCRWA because I am classed as high risk to myself and others becose of a combination of autism and mental illness. I would change that if I could.
I don't sit on my backside. I do crafts in the day and have a dog that I care for. I go to several different support groups in the week. I have a boyfriend that does all of my life admin and makes sure I am safe when I go out. My mum takes me shopping and to other places if needed.
I am not on PIP. I used to work. I worked a lot of jobs and got bullied, fired or managed out including the NHS.
I am not on PIP so will lose the LCRWA. Who is going to employ me? If I get overwhelmed I either shutdown or meltdown. I already have a police record for meltdowns. I am scared to go out alone incase it happens again.

Vynalbob · 19/03/2025 20:49

Mmm is this rage bate for daily fail readers?!
Probably not meant to be.

girlfriend44 · 19/03/2025 20:46

NotVeryFunny · 19/03/2025 19:02

Really? That’s hard to believe. The rules are really specific and having worked in a job centre, applied to everyone. If you are fit and well and without any caring responsibilities you have to attend job centre appointments with a work coach once a week for the first 13 weeks. You also have to evidence work searching for 35 hours a week. You are also really required to do various activities such as see someone to help you with a CV, attend courses and job fairs, help with literacy etc, and as the pp said sometimes you have mandatory job interviews, sometimes in the job centre within earshot of the work coaches.

it really isn’t easy to just not work if you are not unwell/disabled (and you have to prove that, you can’t just make it up), or you have caring responsibilities (ie a very young child, or a disabled person who receives a qualifying disability benefit).

This is what I've been saying. It's not that easy...

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Juniegirl · 19/03/2025 20:44

Flavourful · 19/03/2025 20:42

I think you need your eyes opened.
A lot of people on benefits are bringing in a damn site more than someone working full time on minimum pay, a lot are bringing in over £3,000 a month and more.
A lot are on lcwra so don’t have to do anything to get their benefits.
A lot who have kids under a certain age are not expected to look for work.
a lot of messages about places hiring or offers of placements are followed by messages saying to ignore it if you’re not interested in the message.
a lot are sat on their backsides thinking I’m not going to work to pay my rent if upwards to £1,000 depending on area when the government are paying it for me and paying me more on top that I couldn’t earn.
Think about it, rent £800 standard allowance £400 lcwra £415 pip minimum £405 that’s before throwing kids allowance into the mix £297 for each child and then the child needs care for adhd another £400 being able to claim carers allowance and DLA for the child.
Making sense yet!
a lot don’t want work and the minority get hit because of it.

Spot on. And generation after generation see it as a way of life and on and on it goes.

TENSsion · 19/03/2025 20:43

ThistleTits · 19/03/2025 20:36

Not having empathy is not morally right, yet here we are.

What percentage of claimants committing benefit fraud would be an acceptable/ unacceptable number?

What’s the tipping point for you?

Juniegirl · 19/03/2025 20:42

ThistleTits · 19/03/2025 20:36

Not having empathy is not morally right, yet here we are.

No, I don’t have empathy for anyone who cheats the system. For anyone who genuinely needs it then I have no problem

Flavourful · 19/03/2025 20:42

I think you need your eyes opened.
A lot of people on benefits are bringing in a damn site more than someone working full time on minimum pay, a lot are bringing in over £3,000 a month and more.
A lot are on lcwra so don’t have to do anything to get their benefits.
A lot who have kids under a certain age are not expected to look for work.
a lot of messages about places hiring or offers of placements are followed by messages saying to ignore it if you’re not interested in the message.
a lot are sat on their backsides thinking I’m not going to work to pay my rent if upwards to £1,000 depending on area when the government are paying it for me and paying me more on top that I couldn’t earn.
Think about it, rent £800 standard allowance £400 lcwra £415 pip minimum £405 that’s before throwing kids allowance into the mix £297 for each child and then the child needs care for adhd another £400 being able to claim carers allowance and DLA for the child.
Making sense yet!
a lot don’t want work and the minority get hit because of it.

Juniegirl · 19/03/2025 20:39

WhatAdisaster · 19/03/2025 20:23

She’s saving the taxpayer a lot then in nursery fees ?

Don’t be so short sighted. The child will be in full time school in two years time. She’ll be still claiming many years down the line. I hope she’s reassessed soon and it’s taken away. It’s not fair or right.

ThistleTits · 19/03/2025 20:37

This!

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Nobody is allowed to choose not to work. Fed up of hearing this expression.
ThistleTits · 19/03/2025 20:36

Juniegirl · 19/03/2025 20:33

Because it’s not morally right and I have more self respect.

I don’t know why people think it’s so difficult to get benefits. If you’ve got a thick skin, are brazen and are happy to lie and embellish and have family who are happy to go along with the embellishment too it’s easy. A lot of the things people claim for are cannot be diagnosed.

Not having empathy is not morally right, yet here we are.

ThisCyanTurtle · 19/03/2025 20:35

The thing is so many of us know people where this is not the case. Or where people have cited poor mental health when it's a lie. I knew someone who literally boasted about the fact that they claimed they had anxiety to claim benefits. It's terrible as there are people who are genuinely suffering and cannot work, but the system seems unable to differentiate them from those who just seek to abuse the system.

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