Sat with the DH and tell him my plans to take my 6 month old to a soft play tomorrow. Husband (not for the first time) comments that I've not done this before and that I should do it more. I'm not that bothered I say - I'm not really a huge fan of soft play and don't feel like either of us are missing out.
He then starts telling me how I am so negative and he feels sorry for me. I tell him he doesn't need to, if he's that bothered that DC is missing out on some formative experience then he is always welcome to go. He then goes on and on, adding that he sees other mothers in soft play having such a lovely bonding experience and he's just so sorry that I don't get that.
I mean....wtf!? I say that it sounds as though he is criticising my parenting/ability to bond with my child (I'm good on both these fronts). I try to get him to understand why his words might be upsetting and he says I'm oversensitive, crazy, spiralling, overreacting, going crazy at him....I am literally none of these!
I told him that this is gaslighting and he's denied saying what he did, or if he did, that's not what he meant and then left the room because I can't have a sensible conversation and turn everything into an argument....
I'm pretty sure I'm not but AIBU here?? What is going on and why has he said this!?