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Sell the story, if so to who?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

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Traitorrotiart · 18/03/2025 21:07

I would say to first think of this if the genders were the other way around.

If you were male and you had got chatting to a woman on a dating site and then hunted for her number and text her and she sent nudes of herself and you were considering sharing them … well, you would be flamed for even thinking of it .

What did he do that was so wrong, that’s what to consider . Unsolicited nudes are not nice, but people do it. Did you ask him to stop and he didn’t ? Did he say anything that you find concerning ? Did the discussion go down a dark path that makes you think he’s dangerous ? If yes to any of these then it changes things. However , if it’s not then he’s a person who’s allowed to be interested in sex .. does he deserve to have his career ruined because of it?

what specifically has he done that has made you think he shouldn’t be in his position ?

Quitelikeit · 18/03/2025 21:07

fgs the op has repeated herself on every reply!

rtft!!!!!!

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:07

mumda · 18/03/2025 21:05

@cupsandcupsoftea
What party?
That'll influence price and what paper will be interested.

Lib Dem.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:06

Skinnylattenosugar · 18/03/2025 21:04

So when he started the vulgar chats, you said 'no, I'm not interested', and blocked him I assume?

You didn't think that you'll continue and 'sell' your story, as your title suggests?

Why would you think about 'selling' your story instead of making a complaint to the council and police? Would this not be more appropriate, as action can be taken against him should the police deem necessary?

Be very, very careful as this could backfire hugely if you go public. If he is found to have done nothing wrong, I'd be pressing charges against you for slander and possibly stalking. Go down the proper channels if you really believe he did wrong and make an official statement against him.

Don't embarrass yourself.

Don't embarass myself??? Really. I shouldn't be the one who is embarrassed.

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mumda · 18/03/2025 21:05

@cupsandcupsoftea
What party?
That'll influence price and what paper will be interested.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:05

PerkingFaintly · 18/03/2025 21:02

Whatever you do DO NOT FORWARD THE NUDE PICTURES to anyone.

I'm pretty sure that's an offence in itself, and one which has landed well-meaning people in huge trouble.

If you want to alert the council or the police (which might be appropriate), just state in words that they are nude pics.

Thank you, I won't forward.

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Skinnylattenosugar · 18/03/2025 21:04

So when he started the vulgar chats, you said 'no, I'm not interested', and blocked him I assume?

You didn't think that you'll continue and 'sell' your story, as your title suggests?

Why would you think about 'selling' your story instead of making a complaint to the council and police? Would this not be more appropriate, as action can be taken against him should the police deem necessary?

Be very, very careful as this could backfire hugely if you go public. If he is found to have done nothing wrong, I'd be pressing charges against you for slander and possibly stalking. Go down the proper channels if you really believe he did wrong and make an official statement against him.

Don't embarrass yourself.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:04

BrandonFlowersEyesWithEyeliner · 18/03/2025 21:01

I don't trust you to be honest - you sound like you lured him in for nefarious reasons. Your post isn't worded particularly eloquently. I'm not buying your 'i don't want money ' line.

You stalked him and encouraged him to send pics for all we know.

He probably sorts who collects your green bin on a Thursday. Nobody will particularly care and will skip straight to 'births marriage and deaths' in your local rag after reading your story, to see if Margaret from number 4 died.

Stop playing games and move on.

I've not lured him into anything, and this is why women who are victims get blamed.

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PerkingFaintly · 18/03/2025 21:03

IANAL, and I'll happily stand corrected, but I just wanted to get in quickly to stop you doing that until you've had time to check the legal situation about sending nudes.

RedCatBlueCatYellowCat · 18/03/2025 21:03

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:29

They do

I have just checked the list on my council website

not one single mobile number. All landlines or email

Edited

Just checked several of my local councils, including the group leader for one party. Loads of mobile numbers.

PerkingFaintly · 18/03/2025 21:02

Whatever you do DO NOT FORWARD THE NUDE PICTURES to anyone.

I'm pretty sure that's an offence in itself, and one which has landed well-meaning people in huge trouble.

If you want to alert the council or the police (which might be appropriate), just state in words that they are nude pics.

ACynicalDad · 18/03/2025 21:02

The order blog might be interesting or point you in a suitable direction. Private Eye too.

BrandonFlowersEyesWithEyeliner · 18/03/2025 21:01

I don't trust you to be honest - you sound like you lured him in for nefarious reasons. Your post isn't worded particularly eloquently. I'm not buying your 'i don't want money ' line.

You stalked him and encouraged him to send pics for all we know.

He probably sorts who collects your green bin on a Thursday. Nobody will particularly care and will skip straight to 'births marriage and deaths' in your local rag after reading your story, to see if Margaret from number 4 died.

Stop playing games and move on.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:01

Poppyseeds79 · 18/03/2025 21:00

Right, so local councillor whose face, name, and apparently personal number are out there. Are on a dating site, and sending women filthy messages/nudes?...

On Whatsapp which you can save pics/screenshot. Not via Snapchat (which wouldn't leave a trace). I'm not exactly buying this story, and I don't think the Sun would either 😆

Neither was I which was why I thought it was a fake account.

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Poppyseeds79 · 18/03/2025 21:00

Right, so local councillor whose face, name, and apparently personal number are out there. Are on a dating site, and sending women filthy messages/nudes?...

On Whatsapp which you can save pics/screenshot. Not via Snapchat (which wouldn't leave a trace). I'm not exactly buying this story, and I don't think the Sun would either 😆

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:00

Is his conduct on a dating site / WA relevant though? That's my question.

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Teanbiscuits33 · 18/03/2025 21:00

Why would a councillor’s personal mobile number be listed on the government website? He could have all sorts of people texting him if that was the case. They don’t just put mobile numbers on public websites. It doesn’t make any sense.

RedCatBlueCatYellowCat · 18/03/2025 20:59

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 20:52

Sorry.. why do you want to do this exactly? A grown man sends nudes to a grown woman and consequently you want to publicly shame him and for him to loose his career? Under the guise that he ‘shouldn’t be representing us’. Think there’s more to this tale than meets the eye here. Careful you don’t get done for slander and libel.

It would absolutely be a breach of the Council Code of Conduct. Being a councillor is not a career, it is an elected position within the community and those who are elected are expected to maintain certain standards. Sending unsolicited nudes is illegal.
One of my local councillors recently got sanctioned for swearing at a junior council officer. This is many times worse, if true.

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:59

Ted27 · 18/03/2025 20:58

@cupsandcupsoftea

If your motivation is really not about money then you need to complain to the monitoring officer at the LA.
This might help
https://www.lgo.org.uk/make-a-complaint/fact-sheets/other-topics/complaints-about-standards-and-member-conduct

Thanks, I will.

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fearlessTV · 18/03/2025 20:59

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:29

They do

I have just checked the list on my council website

not one single mobile number. All landlines or email

Edited

I just checked one fairly local to me and all their mobile numbers are listed

Binglebong · 18/03/2025 20:59

PineappleCoconut · 18/03/2025 20:42

Just report him to his council and party, & the police

if they don’t act and sack him for this, then I’d contact the local papers on his area.

I wouldn’t want money to sell the story.
He deserves to be held accountable for his actions and reprimanded. You don’t deserve money for his actions.

Edited

Best bet.

Ted27 · 18/03/2025 20:58

@cupsandcupsoftea

If your motivation is really not about money then you need to complain to the monitoring officer at the LA.
This might help
https://www.lgo.org.uk/make-a-complaint/fact-sheets/other-topics/complaints-about-standards-and-member-conduct

https://www.lgo.org.uk/

https://www.lgo.org.uk/make-a-complaint/fact-sheets/other-topics/complaints-about-standards-and-member-conduct

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:57

x2boys · 18/03/2025 20:56

Hes, a councillor not an Mp who has any power
Would anyone care?

I'm not sure, that's what I'm asking.

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x2boys · 18/03/2025 20:56

Hes, a councillor not an Mp who has any power
Would anyone care?

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 18/03/2025 20:55

Itsoneofthose · 18/03/2025 20:52

Sorry.. why do you want to do this exactly? A grown man sends nudes to a grown woman and consequently you want to publicly shame him and for him to loose his career? Under the guise that he ‘shouldn’t be representing us’. Think there’s more to this tale than meets the eye here. Careful you don’t get done for slander and libel.

Best case scenario it shows terrible judgement on his part. Not someone that should be in his position

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