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Gonk123 · 19/03/2025 12:42

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

We messaged on the dating app then I found his number via the government website. He replied, verified himself sent me nudes, horrible messages. I just don't think this is right.

Why would you look for his number on a government site? Odd.

Picklelily99 · 19/03/2025 12:40

DaringTurtle · 19/03/2025 06:34

Report him to the council he sits on and also the political party he represents. If they fail to take appropriate action then possibly contact a radio/tv/newspaper that covers the local area. If your concern is removing him from his position of power then go through official channels rather than the media.

Can you hear yourself?

GrouchyMe · 19/03/2025 11:40

Sadly Mumsnet, won’t take this down, but it’s grubby, and shows you in a very bad light too, OP

13Ghosts · 19/03/2025 09:44

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 18/03/2025 23:25

I really don't think a women's charity would want to be associated with the profits of a sleazy story in the press

Charitable donations can be anonymous.

13Ghosts · 19/03/2025 09:39

All of my local councillors have mobile numbers on the Council's surgeries page.

They are work mobiles not their personal numbers.

@cupsandcupsoftea Most likely be a council issue if he using a work number for explicit imaging. Gross misconduct.

StasisMom · 19/03/2025 09:31

Toothicktounderstand · 18/03/2025 20:53

Sorry if this has been mentioned but isn’t it an offence to send unsolicited nude pictures? I don’t know, just thought it was.

Not finished the thread but yes, it’s called Cyberflashing, it’s a relatively new crime.

BringMeTea · 19/03/2025 09:25

@LittleCharlotte there are several menz crawling over this thread. They know it's illegal but they want to berate women and downplay this scummy behaviour. Best to ignore the saddos.

Localres · 19/03/2025 08:20

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 22:12

She also said she screenshoted the messages before he deleted them so I’m not sure why that’s confused you.

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Ah I missed that, sorry.

I think there’s some really weird reactions on this thread. He sounds vile and I’m glad you have evidence to report him to the right people - eg his work and the police.

I suppose the issue some people have is that they are concerned your first thought seemed to be (albeit that you clarified later) to report to the press for money rather than to the police as a crime. And as i have done myself, people then do miss follow up comments. So please - report him!

wanderingandwonderingnow · 19/03/2025 06:34

If he sent unsolicited nudes that's a crime, report it to the police. It's called cyber flashing

DaringTurtle · 19/03/2025 06:34

Report him to the council he sits on and also the political party he represents. If they fail to take appropriate action then possibly contact a radio/tv/newspaper that covers the local area. If your concern is removing him from his position of power then go through official channels rather than the media.

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Latenightreader · 19/03/2025 02:33

Gruttenberg · 19/03/2025 01:58

I've just checked three local authorities in my area - every one of them has mobile numbers for members. They are mobile phones which are paid for by the council but used by the individual councillor. The numbers are listed so their local constituents can get hold of them. OP is correct. She may well think it's his personal mobile but he's actually using council property to share his dick pics and should obviously be reported for being a pervert.

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How do you know they are paid for by the council? We were never given phones (ex-councillor), just used our own. A couple of people had a second phone number for their council work, but they provided that themselves.

Gruttenberg · 19/03/2025 01:58

Teanbiscuits33 · 18/03/2025 21:00

Why would a councillor’s personal mobile number be listed on the government website? He could have all sorts of people texting him if that was the case. They don’t just put mobile numbers on public websites. It doesn’t make any sense.

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I've just checked three local authorities in my area - every one of them has mobile numbers for members. They are mobile phones which are paid for by the council but used by the individual councillor. The numbers are listed so their local constituents can get hold of them. OP is correct. She may well think it's his personal mobile but he's actually using council property to share his dick pics and should obviously be reported for being a pervert.

LittleCharlotte · 19/03/2025 01:19

Once more for those at the back: sending unsolicited nudes is a CRIME regardless of which phone it's on, or which site you're on.

Why are so many women struggling with this?

MsAmerica · 19/03/2025 01:04

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

In what context? Was this on a dating site? It seems to me that if you're on a dating site you can't legitimately fault someone for being sexual, even if it's not to your taste. And he shouldn't be outed. Now, if you were emailing him as a constituent, asking for help in his professional capacity, that would be different.

chaosmaker · 19/03/2025 00:30

Did he send those messages and nudes from his constituency mobile? THAT is totally inappropriate and probably should be reported to whichever party he's from.

Picklelily99 · 19/03/2025 00:29

So, you want to 'out' him because he 'was a bit horrible' to you? And he's a creep? And you think it's your civic duty, as a responsible citizen, to let the world know?? And of course, you'll donate any monies received, to a charity? Give your head a wobble and move on ffs!

Gremlins101 · 19/03/2025 00:25

I'd go with the local papers but the one that's local to him rather than you.

Franjipanl8r · 19/03/2025 00:20

We need more women like you OP to take action against disgusting men for the sake of other women everywhere 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 please report the crime and also complain to whoever you feel able to.

MyTattooIsBetterThanYours · 18/03/2025 23:54

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:42

Thanks, I worded it wrong. I don't want money I just wanted to expose. Thanks.

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“expose” is the wrong word to use in this context, OP.

andthat · 18/03/2025 23:43

JaniceBattersby · 18/03/2025 21:44

I am a local newspaper reporter. No local papers in this country pay for stories.

This councillor (and many do have their mobile numbers on their council profiles) has potentially committed a criminal offence so you should go to the police, his party, and the council’s monitoring officer.

I’m sure your local newspaper would also appreciate a tip-off, although they likely won’t be able to run anything until the charging stage due to privacy laws (thanks Cliff!)

This is an excellent post

Ilikeadrink14 · 18/03/2025 23:40

Annascaul · 18/03/2025 20:16

You really want to make a profit on this??

What are you on about?? She said she doesn’t!

andthat · 18/03/2025 23:40

L0bstersLass · 18/03/2025 23:18

As is you hunting him down and contacting him off-app.

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She hasn’t hunted him down ffs. He’s a public servant!! He’s details are in the public domain!

What a ridiculous comment.

andthat · 18/03/2025 23:39

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 21:42

Thanks, I worded it wrong. I don't want money I just wanted to expose. Thanks.

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I wouldn’t judge you if you did. He sounds like a total sleaze.