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Sell the story, if so to who?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

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MyGardenHasGreatTits · 18/03/2025 20:31

Ah, OP not engaging with anyone who says ‘you’re both a pair of idiots’ and only those whose questioning allows the OP to dig deeper on why and how she tried to expose him.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:31

It was his mobile number.

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Whoarethoseguys · 18/03/2025 20:31

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:29

They do

I have just checked the list on my council website

not one single mobile number. All landlines or email

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They won't be their personal numbers though, just their office numbers

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:30

Okay, my original theory was he was using another person's photos hence the verification.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:30

Yes, off Google just put his name and councillor it came up.

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scoopoftheday · 18/03/2025 20:30

A local paper wouldn't publish this.

parietal · 18/03/2025 20:29

If you want to expose him, write to the local paper in the area. But don’t expect to get any money for it. Just do it for the good of the local community.

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:29

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:27

And yes councillors have their numbers online.

They do

I have just checked the list on my council website

not one single mobile number. All landlines or email

MyGardenHasGreatTits · 18/03/2025 20:29

It’s not ideal that you’ve received messages that you don’t like or want.

It’s also not ideal that you tried to ‘out’ his ‘impersonator’ by searching for his professional details.

Just let this one go OP. No-one is covered in glory here.

Whoarethoseguys · 18/03/2025 20:29

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

We chatted on the site, he then got a bit horrible. Then I thought I'd find his number on government site to verify was him, I assumed it wad a fake profile. It wasn't as he got back to me off the proper number

Councillors' details are not available on the Government site. Only MPs.
Do you mean the local authority site?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:28

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:27

And yes councillors have their numbers online.

So what are horrible messages? Was he threatening you?

Kibble29 · 18/03/2025 20:28

Send him an email with a list of your demands. 😈

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:28

What Did he do that was “a bit horrible” on the app that made you stalk his number (and no way did you get it off a gov website)

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:27

And yes councillors have their numbers online.

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StillweriseLH · 18/03/2025 20:27

Yeah, I think this will backfire worse on you.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:27

I thought it was a fake so I messaged but it wad him.

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Josiezu · 18/03/2025 20:27

Why would his life be relevant? Honestly getting to know someone in a dating capacity and then going to the press about nudes or whatever is gross and horrible behaviour on your behalf.

Rachie1973 · 18/03/2025 20:27

I think I’d just block and move on.

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

We chatted on the site, he then got a bit horrible. Then I thought I'd find his number on government site to verify was him, I assumed it wad a fake profile. It wasn't as he got back to me off the proper number

What is “a bit horrible”?

and no way did you find his mobile number off a “government website”

ItsaMeMummio · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

We chatted on the site, he then got a bit horrible. Then I thought I'd find his number on government site to verify was him, I assumed it wad a fake profile. It wasn't as he got back to me off the proper number

So he showed some red flags, and instead of blocking him and moving on, or reporting him to the dating site, you decided to find his mobile number online and contact him via a different platform?

This is very strange.

ExtraOnions · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

So, I don't want money but I don't think he should be in a position of power.

He’s a local councillor … the most power he has got is deciding what days your bins are collected on.

Also, check out “revenge porn” laws if you are thinking of sharing intimate images

Rachie1973 · 18/03/2025 20:26

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:22

We messaged on the dating app then I found his number via the government website. He replied, verified himself sent me nudes, horrible messages. I just don't think this is right.

So if you hadn’t hunted him down he’d not have been able to?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:26

With you seeking him out and messaging him he probably thought you were interested… why did you contact him?

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:25

ItsaMeMummio · 18/03/2025 20:24

WTF? So you basically online stalked him for his number?

Neither of you are coming out of this very well tbh. He sounds like a creep but your behaviour was also quite inappropriate.

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Exactly

added to which, mobile phone numbers aren’t provided.

this is sketchy op. He didn’t give you his number. You stalked him

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:25

I thought originally someone was impersonating him so messaged the real guy to let him know. Turns out it was him.

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