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Sell the story, if so to who?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:15

I'm unsure about this but I'm on dating sites and as we all know it's full of parasites.

I was speaking to an elected councillor who I thought was decent, he sent me nudes, vulgar text etc. He swiftly deleted it but it's really wrong, I have screenshot etc. He was disgusting.

I'm not on about selling per se for money but we shouldn't have creeps like this representing us.

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Moonlightfrog · 18/03/2025 20:42

I had similar happen to me when I started online dating (around 10 years ago) but it was a high ranking police officer. He sent me photos of him having sex with a young woman 😬 and asked me to meet up for group sex with him and his colleagues. I checked him out online and he was who he said he was. I wasn’t in a great place at the time so I stupidly deleted everything and blocked him. I regret not reporting it or outing him but with him being in the police I doubt I would have got far with it.

PineappleCoconut · 18/03/2025 20:42

Just report him to his council and party, & the police

if they don’t act and sack him for this, then I’d contact the local papers on his area.

I wouldn’t want money to sell the story.
He deserves to be held accountable for his actions and reprimanded. You don’t deserve money for his actions.

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:41

CaptainFuture · 18/03/2025 20:40

Using his nude pics?!

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No, they arrived via WA

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GivingUpFinally · 18/03/2025 20:41

Unsolicited nudes are a crime. I'd report to the police and take it from there. Its a form of sexual assault

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:40

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:39

What do you mean?

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You are ignoring other questions to repeat the same point over and over and over again. How would anyone get an article out of that?

CaptainFuture · 18/03/2025 20:40

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:38

Yes, I thought someone was using his pics and wanted to tell him.

Using his nude pics?!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 18/03/2025 20:40

I would delete them.
You both sound potty.

Mydahliasareshit · 18/03/2025 20:39

Can you do a good photo sadface for the article op?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:39

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:38

You’ve said this about 12 times, and ignored many other questions. There’s no way you’d be able to get through the interview for this article

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What do you mean?

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ExtraOnions · 18/03/2025 20:38

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:36

I got his mobile as I assumed someone was impersonating him and using his pics so wanted to inform him.

Who goes round impersonating local councillors?

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:38

This is toe curling embarrassing

I’ll leave you to it

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:38

Yes, I thought someone was using his pics and wanted to tell him.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:38

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:36

I got his mobile as I assumed someone was impersonating him and using his pics so wanted to inform him.

You’ve said this about 12 times, and ignored many other questions. There’s no way you’d be able to get through the interview for this article

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:37

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:36

I got his mobile as I assumed someone was impersonating him and using his pics so wanted to inform him.

Modern day Robin Hood

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:37

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:35

Yes, if it's okay for you for a guy to be awful then that's okay and disgustingly rude then send unsolicited nudes fine. Not by me.

You contacted him. Wholly unsolicited

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:36

I got his mobile as I assumed someone was impersonating him and using his pics so wanted to inform him.

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Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:36

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:35

Yes, if it's okay for you for a guy to be awful then that's okay and disgustingly rude then send unsolicited nudes fine. Not by me.

You go girl

explain to the journalist that someone was a “bit horrible” on a dating app

so you stalked their number
then messaged them thereby giving this person your number
whereupon the person who had been a “bit horrible” that you had pursued sent you a nudey

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:35

Yes, if it's okay for you for a guy to be awful then that's okay and disgustingly rude then send unsolicited nudes fine. Not by me.

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Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:34

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:32

Well they do, that's how I messaged from his mobile.

Is that what you do when someone is horrible on an app.

give them your own mobile number?

op you’ve made a twit of yourself on this thread. We’ve saved you from doing that in RL

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/03/2025 20:33

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:32

Well they do, that's how I messaged from his mobile.

Could you answer some of the other questions?

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:33

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:31

Hence I have it all on WhatsApp

So he was horrible on the app

you found / stalked his mobile

and then messaged him thereby giving this person your mobile number. The person who was a “bit horrible” on the app

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:32

Well they do, that's how I messaged from his mobile.

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OneWaryCat · 18/03/2025 20:32

What was horrible about the messages? If they were 'just' vulgar then sadly that is a lot of men on dating sites. What is vulgar to you might be a turn on to someone else. Sending unsolicited nudes is obviously gross, but unless this man is married, you were on a dating site and talking to each other for the purposes of romance. He's clearly misread the signals and might be a bit inappropriate, but is any of it really a crime? Or are you breaching his privacy because of his job?

Haricots · 18/03/2025 20:32

cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:30

Yes, off Google just put his name and councillor it came up.

His personal mobile number came up
sure op
moving on….

what was a “bit horrible” that made you decide to contact him and thereby give him your own mobile number? That doesn’t seem…a sensible response to someone being a “bit horrible” on an app OP, now does it?

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cupsandcupsoftea · 18/03/2025 20:31

Hence I have it all on WhatsApp

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