DS was hit in the face by a child at school

Well obviously hitting is not ok and the school have said they are dealing with things.
it would be a good opportunity to teach your ds that when someone is feeling overwhelmed and is rightly removing the self, leave them alone. Your ds is only young so wouldn’t know but it’s a good time to help him understand

the other child is also young and learning to manage themselves. Removing themselves was the correct thing to do. They couldn’t cope with the overstimulation. They needed to be left alone to regulate themselves.

Of course it should be about victims. Them being ok doesn’t minimise what’s happened.

Its not about the ‘who’s the victim’.

the seven year old was cared for. He’s fine. The 10 year old was dealt with - he’s fine.

Arguably they could both be considered victims.

if they were hit by an adult, or a much older child I would see your point. But they weren’t. It was an incident which can be chalked up to a learning event because they are kids. One learned not to poke the bear, the other learned not to lash out at the poker.

im not sure what else you are hoping for here?

No one is condoning child abuse - it’s a playground spat. A non event.

Are you going to answer why it’s different for kids or keep making short flippant statements like they mean anything?

Sounds like you’re raising them to say if they’re hit it’s their fault.

And no that’s not the answer - I’m asking why child victims are treated with a different narrative than adult victims?

I'd be very surprised if the OP bothers coming back since her thread has just been turned into pages and pages of meltdown.

Well the child is at the age of criminal responsibility so it is a crime.

Again I’m talking about victims - is someone less of a victim if they’re punched by a child - even a much younger her child? Would a baby or be a victim?

And so what if the school is dealing with it - if they’re downplaying it, which schools do do, should the OP just sit by an STFU and not advocate for her son?

I’m talking about the 7yo as a victim. What don’t you understand? If you wouldn’t tell an adult victim of violence they’ve “learnt a swift lesson” why would we tell a 7yo that? Does it hurt less when you’re 7? Does it hurt less if the perpetrator is ND?

What age does violence become unacceptable then?

I mean I don’t have any ND or violent children. Just try and raise mine not to be nobs and respect others boundaries 🤷‍♀️

What answer is it you want?

Do you seriously not understand the difference between an adult thumping someone (crime) and a primary aged child thumping someone (not a crime)???

Trying to match the ridiculous analogy you’ve made. You can not compare a 10 year old child trying to calm down in a playground to an abusive man in a DV relationship.

I never said they weren’t a victim of violence. I said they would have learned a swift lesson. I said I would be furious to know my child hadn’t respected another’s boundaries. I said I would have little sympathy for my child in that situation.

it sounds as though the other child is being dealt with by the school. They are not going to try him as an adult.

Massive yawn at another non answer.

You don’t want to answer because you’re a hypocrite who thinks ND children should get a free pass for bad behaviour and NT children should count their blessings and STFU when they get hit. Right?

I’m sure you think you’re hilarious but at what age do your children know they don’t deserve to be the victim of violence? Is it the same for a ND child? Can someone thump a 7yo ND child for whatever reason they see as acceptable?

Yeah you’re right - lock him up and throw away the key.

What age do you stop excusing violence then? 17 years and 364 days is the last day it’s acceptable as long as they were provoked? And the day after theyre a criminal?

What about the age people are seen as being victims who shouldn’t be blamed?

How is the 10-15 years relevant? Are you saying young people don’t deserve to be seen as victims because they’re young? Because all you’ve just told me is a number. What do you actually mean?

I plan on charging my toddler for gbh for biting me. He drew skin.

whilst we’re at it, my 10 year old is going to get done for fraud. He took £10 from me after he said he’d cleaned his room. Spoiler/ he did not.

My daughter left her roller skate at the top of the stairs. Suing her for gross negligence.

yes I’d be furious at my child for bothering another on purpose. A seven year old would definitely know what they were doing.

Doesnt mean to say I think she should have been punched. However she would most certainly learned a swift lesson.

It sounds like the school are taking appropriate action so no I wouldn’t need to get further involved.

You can’t hold kids to the same standards as adults.By your argument we should charge my toddler for gbh for biting me.

I have 3 lovely children that I hope don’t go round poking bears so to speak. Get off your high horse and go to bed.

About 10-15 years.

What’s the difference then in the context of both being a victim of violence or abuse? Do enlighten me.

You don't understand the difference between a child and an adult. Have you ever met a child?

I’m talking about the 7yo as a victim. Why is the narrative different for a child victim than an adult victim?

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For the same reason you don't hold children accountable to anything that would be considered a crime for an adult.

Drawing on walls = normal childhood discipline/teachable moment
But for an adult it's a criminal offence (vandalism)

Stealing a sweet = normal childhood discipline/teachable moment
But for an adult it's shoplifting/theft

Toddler peeing on a tree at the park when caught short and no public toilets nearby = acceptable
But for an adult it's not

Child following another child around = needs teaching of social skills
But for an adult it's stalking or harassment

Child walking in on you in the bath/shower/toilet = pretty standard part of parenting
But if it was an adult it's creepy pervert behaviour

I would not be worried. It's done. Hope your DS is okay. Y6 is quite old to be hitting. I'd ve worried if my Y6 child was hitting younger children, regardless of whether he was cooling down or not.