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DS was hit in the face by a child at school

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Lifestooshort1542 · 18/03/2025 14:54

AIBU to be feeling quite upset about this? 😢
There was an incident at school where DS (7) and some other children followed a year 6 child to an area of the school field where the year 6 child had gone ‘to cool down’ due to feeling overwhelmed and over stimulated.
DS and others have gone over to see if he’s ok, and this boy has lashed out at DS who was in the firing line and hit him twice across the face.
School rang me and informed me of the incident and said he was ok but quite upset so sat with a teacher. The head was aware and the boy in question is being ‘dealt with’.

Im quite upset by this, Do I just accept this happened and let it go?
WWYD?

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ThejoyofNC · 18/03/2025 15:11

Teach your child to hit back.

Moonnstars · 18/03/2025 15:10

The school has dealt with it. You have been informed and the school is aware of what happened. Not sure what you want to now happen.

As others have said, if anything you speak to your son about being where he should be. It sounds like they were following him off onto a field when they should have been on the playground or with the rest of their year group. If anything, explain that if worried about someone to go and tell the teacher.

TobaccoFlower · 18/03/2025 15:08

Diarygirlqueen · 18/03/2025 14:58

I don't think the blame lies with the boy, who had the wit to go off alone to cool down and try and settle his emotions.
The school should have been monitoring this situation and it's their neglect that your child got hit.

I agree with your first paragraph but don't think the school can be watching all the kids all the time, so don't see it as neglectful

NoKnit · 18/03/2025 15:07

The problem here is this older boy probably said more than once to leave him alone and the others probably didn't.

My son has described many times when a kid has asked him to play/if he's ok and he's said no leave him alone. Two seconds later, child asks again and again and again.

How would you react if someone was repeatedly asking you to have a drink with them and you were repeatedly saying no thank you? By the 10th time you are not quite as nice and polite are you?

I'm not saying your son is at fault but you could take this opportunity to reflect with him and let him respect other people's feelings.

Snorlaxo · 18/03/2025 15:00

What Ds should have done is left the kid alone and alerted an adult.

He meant well and is obviously only age 10/11 but needing to cool down is code for someone being close to exploding and needing a time out. Being crowded by all the kids would have set off the child. I’m not saying that your Ds was unkind and it was his fault he was hurt but if someone asks to be left alone then they should.

CurlewKate · 18/03/2025 15:00

The older boy shouldn’t have hit. The younger ones should have left him alone.

CaptainFuture · 18/03/2025 15:00

TotallyAddictedToCoffee · 18/03/2025 14:57

Sounds like you need to teach your DS to respect other peoples space and not follow someone who is "cooling down" - I get that he meant well, but he's just exacerbated the situation

Wait and see what school say, @TotallyAddictedToCoffee blaming of your son only works if the 7 yo has knowledge that that's what the year 6 was doing, and they shouldn't, should they, given the usual MN response of 'it's none of your business other child's needs'?

Writerbiter · 18/03/2025 14:59

The school are dealing with the incident, what more could you do?

MidnightMillie · 18/03/2025 14:59

I think you need to get to the bottom of whether they genuinely went to see if this child was ok, or to gawp/wind him up further.

Does he know the child well considering he's 4 school years above him?

Diarygirlqueen · 18/03/2025 14:58

I don't think the blame lies with the boy, who had the wit to go off alone to cool down and try and settle his emotions.
The school should have been monitoring this situation and it's their neglect that your child got hit.

TotallyAddictedToCoffee · 18/03/2025 14:57

Sounds like you need to teach your DS to respect other peoples space and not follow someone who is "cooling down" - I get that he meant well, but he's just exacerbated the situation