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Children not in her care

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Mummaonherown · 18/03/2025 09:06

I have had issues with my lying cheating ex for months.
He's got a new girlfriend and he has lied about her name, where she is from and whether she had children, all really small issues that I don't think someone really needs to lie about. It made me think he had something to hide.
Right, now I have found out (he admitted it) that she doesn't have her 3 children in her care full time. Am I right to be concerned about this? I thought it was strange as I've spoken to him a few times during the week and he's in the pub with her at 9 at night, she she seems to always be able to drive him around (this was before I found out she had kids) but now I know she's got kids, I was wondering where they were.
I questioned him last night and he admitted it.
From my understanding it takes quite a lot for a mother to loose custody of her children.
My ex asked me not to say anything about his "colourful past" as she would walk.
Now I understand why he has lied so much, he/they are hiding something.
Should I be concerned about her being around my child 4/5 months in?

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Mummaonherown · 18/03/2025 09:16

@crackashark would she know that I've done this?

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Jellycatspyjamas · 18/03/2025 09:16

Sarah’s Law is for child sexual offences which is less likely with a female parent. Social services can’t tell you anything about her or why her children aren’t in her care but they may need to know she’s in a new relationship where children are involved, so worth letting them know.

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Mummaonherown · 18/03/2025 09:13

@JacquesHarlow I honestly don't know, but the lies have been something else.
Life happens, but surely if it was all innocent then lies wouldn't need to be told. My son doesn't even know her real name.
I just think there's more to it - doesn't sit right with me.

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crackashark · 18/03/2025 09:13

Can you do a Sarah’s law application? Contact local social services to see if they can advise you?

TY78910 · 18/03/2025 09:12

I think you're right to have questions, I certainly would along the lines of - has she abused her children for them to be taken away.

I would ensure your kids are never alone with her.

JacquesHarlow · 18/03/2025 09:09

Should I be concerned about her being around my child 4/5 months in?

What can you expect to do about any of this @Mummaonherown if you do substantiate your concerns?