To be upset that fellow holiday goer told me I'm too old for my hair?

Hahaha I knew she had to be dutch! Yes, as @AnxiousAnnie1984 said, kort pittig is the horrible haircut this lady was referring to. It has to be too short to suit your face (if it's not, the hairdresser will make sure it is), and ideally dyed a shade of red or purple. It's a bit of a 90s/early 2000s cut to the rest of the world.

Please tell this Dutch lady that Linda de Mol is 60 now, and seems to be pulling off the long blond hair very well. (No doubt she'll reply jaaaa buttt that's different, she's famous 🙄). When you tell her she's being rude, she'll say she's just being honest. I've found that the best way to deal with these remarks is to say 'well, I love it and it looks beautiful, and I don't care what you think. Don't be such a trut.'

(Dutch has some great swears)

I’m 50s with short hair, OP — and am very envious of anyone my age with long locks. I did try growing mine once but the growing out stage aged me so much, I gave up. I know if I could just get through that, I’d be happy, but it’s making myself persevere that I find hard. So if she says anything to you again, please tell her that Pockets not only disagrees with her but is very envious of you!

I think maybe this random person has time travelled from the 1950s.
If you can say it fuck it and go on a wonderful holiday you can say fuck her opinions and ignore her.

You sound like great fun OP! Don’t let some negative Nelly get you down. This age appropriate stuff is crap designed to make older women feel bad about themselves and keep them in their place. It’s misogyny. It’s shameful that other women buy into it.

I’m 59, slimmer and fitter than I’ve been in years, and have long hair and wear mini-skirts and don’t give a fuck. If anyone made a comment I’d assume they were jealous and laugh in their face.

You do you OP, and care not what anyone thinks. And congratulations on your weight loss 👏

sod that! Your body your choice! Weird when people come up with ‘rules’ like this for age grps, even weirder when they try to impose those rules on others.
You sound fab, so just keep doing you!

Ignore!

(Does she work in a perfume department and say “no offence” quite often?)

Aww OP don’t be upset, it’s a shame she made her opinion known, I am sure your hair looks great, and as long as you are happy with it no one else’s opinion matters. I wonder if the lady was Italian, they can be very direct. A friend of mine had an Italian neighbour, she did her best to avoid her, as she just couldn’t take the criticism, some of the things she used to say to her really rocked her confidence.

I think lots of women end up getting the chop as they get older because of thinning hair. I’m late 40’s and hate that I can’t wear my hair long like I used to.

If you have the hair to make long hair work at 60 more power to you. If you’ve got it, flaunt it. Maybe others are just jealous.

I’d assume she is a jealous cow

You sound fab. Your daughter sounds fab. Your hair sounds fab.

As someone in their mid forties going rapidly grey with long hair, I have embraced not giving a fuck and encourage you to do the same 😁

Ignore it might be jealousy. I once had a friend who told me my birthday gift to myself, that I had saved years for, was ugly and too big. I stopped using it as I was so embarrassed. A few months later I saw her with the exact same one.

Taught me an important not to accept unsolicited opinions about my personal taste from others. As long as I get joy from it I’m fine.

Totally ignore her! What matters is that you like it.

rude cow.

Why on earth do you care what one person out of several billion thinks?

All that matters is what you think.

It is entirely up to you what your looks like. I would only comment if you had asked me and really wanted some feedback. I do not believe all women "of a certain age" look better with short hair, etc etc. If you feel good with your hair however you have it, it really doesn't matter what she thinks.

First of all, I’m so envious of you heading off on your holiday of a lifetime, that sounds wonderful. This other woman is a nasty bitch. I don’t care what culture she is from, she was downright rude. I would have been very stung by a remark like that too.

However, she is no one to you, just an insignificant person you have met briefly. I certainly wouldn’t seek out her company again or give her any more of my time. Are you travelling independently or in a group? If in a group, just try to be open and friendly with others and I’m sure you’ll have opportunities to socialise with the wider group.

Don’t give her any more headspace. You have done brilliantly to achieve all you have, you should be very proud of yourself. Go out there and enjoy the rest of your holiday and have a wonderful time!

I dunno....an off the cuff comment about age appropriate hairstyles can be a cultural mismatch, but when people "feel they have to tell you" something, surely that's rudeness whatever the culture?

Posting to see OP’s lovely hair. I’’m going to be you @MoneyPieceNotMoneyShot I’m 51 and growing my hair from shoulder length to a bit longer at the moment. My hair is wavy/curly and any experiments with short hair in my teenage years were complete disasters and still would be. At the weekend a random teenage girl in a shopping centre complimented me about my hair and it was so lovely to get a compliment on it for once, even from a stranger. I saw a woman on the street last week with long straight grey hair and it was beautiful. I’ve seen a LOT of older ladies with short hair which really doesn’t suit them so I’m not making that mistake! Well done on your glow-up and ignore that miserable b*tch!

Some people think 'older' women shouldn't have longer hair - it's a very old fashioned view but it persists. Think of grandmas in the 80s - they all had the same short, permed hair which was considered 'respectable' (and to be fair is a good option for thinning hair).

My mum doesn't really like it when I grow my hair past my shoulders, and I'm in my 40s. I think the only time it was acceptable was when I was in my 20s (I also wasn't allowed long hair as a child).

Anyway. Do what you want. If you like your hair and it's in good condition, have it as long as you want.

Oh FFS, what a cow. Ignore her and enjoy your lovely hair. I have no intention of adopting an ageing haircut style.

I'm 57, and had the super short man cut of disaster September 23. It's now past my shoulders and it is going to grow LONG (it was long before the stupid haircut).
I also got my nose pierced at 55. Because I wanted to.
Live your own best life :) I'm never having short hair again!!!
And mine is grey!

That’s her subjective opinion.

She could be wrong
She could have different tastes to you
She can have a different opinion to you
She could be subject to different peer pressures and fashion trends to you

She’s allowed a different opinion to you.

But It’s your hair so your own opinion is the only one that counts.

So shrug and acknowledge that everyone is different and enjoy your holiday.

Well done on making changes to your life, but ignore this stupid woman and enjoy your lovely hair! I still remember my Dad telling me on my 30th birthday that at my age, I should cut my hair and get a nice perm like my mum. 😆. Needless to say I ignored him and still have near waist length hair now I’m 67. Some people have odd ideas about how you should look and dress when you get older, but you know when you feel comfortable. My long hair is part of me, and I can’t imagine it being any different but long, wavy, and loose. I’m just as happy with it now that it’s mostly grey as I was when I was in my 20s.

She also picked your hair to go at because you are pleased with it. It’s not an accident. Next will be whatever else you’re proud of yourself for

Watch these type of people, even better, cut them off and forget they exist

I lived in Holland and she was just rude.
The older I get the more I applaud the the firm harsh comeback to rudeness.

"Dont be so fxxking rude"
"Who asked you your fxxking opinion? No one!"

I am polite and fortunately haven't really experienced it but I have witness it a few times and whilst at the time I was shocked, now I look back on the sharp fxxk you come back, and believe it really is the way to go.

Rude people need putting in their places.

In all cases they have looked shocked, aghast, taken a back by the harsh comeback.

I bet it gave them pause the next time.
I think it is the way to go.

Someone so rude is not someone to pay attention to.
Well done on all you have achieved and do not allow this to derail your holiday.