To be upset that fellow holiday goer told me I'm too old for my hair?

That's just her personal view expressed in her forthright manner. She clearly does not understand that her plain speaking can offend. Absolutely ignore it.

Some people have some very deluded ideas about how someone else should look. I once had a colleague who was obsessed with my hair. She spent ages telling me I should dye it ("you'd look SOOOOO much younger!") and cut it short because for some reason long hair with grey bits is just awful. Once she realised she was getting nowhere with me l, she started contacting my friends at work and asking them to tell me to get my hair sorted out, and fell out with them and me when my friends told her to shut up. Ten years on I still have long hair and loads more grey, and she probably would be horrified (we don't work together any more thankfully.)

Just read your updates. I can only repeat what others have already said - you do you and forget that rude woman. I notice how she said it as a parting shot so you didn't have time to think about it and come back with a suitable response later! That was very cowardly and passive aggressive of her which I think speaks volumes. Anyway, f**k her, it’s Nigel we want to hear about now!

@MoneyPieceNotMoneyShot your fellow traveller sounds like my mum, except she was English.

DSis and me go through phases where our hair is a bob or longer. Apparently it was because we both wanted to emulate Kate Middleton. Not the case but no reasoning with mum.

Mum also said “older” women ought to have short hair or when someone sees your wondrous locks only for you to turn around revealing a haggard and wrinkly face, it’s a massive disappointment. 🤦‍♀️

DSis and I both have shoulder length hair, sometimes longer because that’s what we like. We didn’t mind that it annoyed her. My hair colour was another bone of contention. Usually a change was accompanied by “where did you get that wig?”

Do it for how it makes you feel. Not for anyone else.

Honestly ignore it. Their opinion is of no concern of yours, my lovely. I know easier said than done, though.

Your post reminded me of the time I was in Turkey 6 years ago on holiday, and some cheeky sod asked me how far along I was!

I wasn't with child, I was with an all inclusive food baby!

I brushed the comment off. So should you. ☺️

I personally deteste long hair on old woman (although as with everything I admit there are always exceptions to the rule), however, I would never tell a person as it is their choice.

I'm mid 60s with below shoulder length white/silver hair, and I bloody well love it. I bet yours looks fab too. We rock sister!

She's not a very nice person, spend time with people that are positive and make you feel good. She shouldn't care what you look like.

I'm delighted to know your Beloved Mum is rocking her waist length hair
Completely Concur With You, There's no such thing's age appropriate hair
Long lovely luxurious hair looks feminine & fantastic no matter someone's age
Everyone's unique & has the right to choose whichever style they wish
Thank you for your righteous enlightenments

I would be upset too. My Mum is nearly 70 and rocking waist length grey hair. There is no such thing as an age appropriate length!

She is a fuckwit and you should respond in kind. Tell her in your culture commenting on other people’s appearances (unless a compliment) is not acceptable. YABU for not doing so.

YANBU for having your hair however you want.

Oh dear she was suggesting what my mum and I refer to as a “man hair cut” we’ve never understood ladies of a certain age lobbing all their hair off. My mums well into her 60’s and hers is past shoulder length. It’s your crown whatever your age, and this goes for any age too that so long as it’s well kept no split ends and looked after it will look amazing I’m sure! Own it 😉

It's literally just 'her' opinion.

Think about someone famous - think about Kate Middleton (or someone you think is very stylish/beautiful) - stick 100 people in a room and ask for their opinion and you'll get some who think she's gorgeous, some who think she's ugly, some who says amazing body, some who will say too thin, some who will say dresses too old fashioned, some who will say super trendy. Old people will call her youthful. Young people will call her old. You literally cannot please everyone. For every single persons opinion comes a life time of influences and experiences that are entirely unique to them.

That's why the only opinion that matters on these things is your own.

If you were asked to go shopping and pick an outfit for 10 friends you wouldnt pick what they all wanted as you'd pick what YOU think they'd look good in. All of us have differing views. You just typed: I fricking love my hair... thats all the opinion needed... if you asked a cross section of people some would like it, some wouldn't... doesnt matter... its not their hair. Laugh at the cultural differences that makes them feel they can say it (rude to you) and move on.
Also... definitely say Fuck it and live your life ❤️

If your hair is well-cut by your excellent hairdresser and in good condition, you wear it how you like it! The only hairstyles I am not keen on are those which haven't changed since the wearer was 17 - and even then, a professional haircut, and some good conditioner would sort them out. 🙂

Rude and thoughtless. It's great you love your hair OP. Good for you. Honestly some people are unbelievable xx

1. She's wrong
2. Even if she wasn't wrong, then standards of appearance vary massively across different cultures. So she'd still only be right if you were from her country.
3. Even if she wasn't wrong and standards of appearance didn't vary massively across different cultures, then she'd still be a dickhead for mentioning it and you're (presumably) not, so you still come out winning.

Please take no notice of this female She's most likely really envious of your beautiful hair & jealous that she can't grow her hair like yours, or envious of your hair just being much more attractive than hers
You love your hair & this is all that matters - Bet she does too, but enviousness just simply got the best of her - Long hair is feminine, soft & attractive whatever your age & 60 isn't old anyway
Please please please, be true to yourself - Maintain your luxurious lovely locks & I would so love to tell her to stop being jealous & focus on her own appearance 🤗

Was she Dutch? They are so blunt sometimes it's shockingly rude.

Don't let it bother you, she sounds like a knob! Some people seem to think everyone wants their stupid, nasty opinions. A guy I worked with briefly once asked me totally out of the blue why I'd chosen the shortened version of my name that I had, because it was so childish! (Think Susie, instead of Sue or Suzanne) I was genuinely speechless and being very young I just laughed it off. Still regret not telling him to fuck off 2 decades later.

Congrats on your weight loss!

Try"I camn always change my hair but you're stuck with you ugly mug"

You do you solidarity with longer hair at 60.😍

I had a friend comment on the hair of a girl similar age to us:

What's she doing with hair that length at her age?

We were 28 at the time 🤣 I wonder what she thinks of my hair now - very long in my 40s

People will always have different preferences to us but it is only their preferences. The fact they choose to voice them does not make them accurate.

Enjoy your holiday and don't let anyone steal your sunshine!

You're definitely not being unreasonable. I'm rapidly approaching your age and have had my hair every colour under the sun! Having had surgery which meant my hair was shaved off, I now have the attitude that if you don't like what you've done with your hair, it will soon grow again! I've also had really terrible haircuts (hairdresser's mistake) and had experiences of a 'friend' making really hurtful & unnecessary comments. Ignore them.
It's YOUR hair and it's YOUR life and you should do exactly what makes YOU happy! Fuck everyone else!

My mil likes to think she’s v stylish and I’m not and variously makes pa comments about what I’m wearing. It doesn’t affect me as I don’t rate her style judgement at allI.

Give this no attention!

Obviously jealous

I'm 62 and have a no.1 all over otherwise I'd look like that twat Trump but without the orange skin, fuck what anybody thinks, go to a bar, have a drink and forget about it, at least you have hair, take your day back!!!