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To want to bloody scream....!!

31 replies

Playinwithfire · 17/03/2025 23:48

It's a teen one!

They are vaping.. tried everything to educate and stop them BUT no. They know better.
They have decided they are vaping in my bathroom or in their room (it flippen stinks). I continually bring it up that it is NOT ALLOWED. They ask for proof they are actually vaping as obviously my smell (and others that have smelt it) are actually lying because there is no smell 🫣🤔

What do I do?! We have genuinely tried everything... We have tried every approach, said teen gives no f***

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autisticbookworm · 18/03/2025 06:40

Tell them no more vaping in the house and if they do they will lose money/tech. Then next time you smell it , punish them remove phone/console for say 3 days. Then continue everytime. Search room and bin anything you find. Don’t argue, you are the adult your house, your rules.

TheHerboriste · 18/03/2025 06:23

Unplug the WiFi and end their phone contract.

Agix · 18/03/2025 06:21

Just to play devil's advocate... Stinks of what? It's not just teen body spray smell is it? Cus that fucking stinks to high heaven too (and lingers much longer than vape smell) . I don't know why we allow that either. All the Impulse I used as a teen definitely widened the hole in the ozone layer.

Smokeyblueblack · 18/03/2025 05:06

What age teen are you talking about?

Because if they are old enough to leave home then that's what I would be asking them to do: they are not only putting their own health in danger, they are damaging the health of everyone else in the household. Not to mention wasting money and making life horrible with the disgusting sickening smell.

If they aren't old enough to leave home then as pp said you need to sanction them in any way possible.

I find it hard to comprehend living with a son/ daughter who holds their parent in such contempt.

NewMagicWand · 18/03/2025 04:16

If they don't care, I doubt you'll be able to say anything to persuade them. They'll just keep vaping when you're not looking.

You could try giving them some nicotine gum to have in the house. Nicotine is very addictive - literally no one is going to quit it cold turkey because you personally think they should. People have to want to quit an addiction.

Maitri108 · 18/03/2025 04:12

Confiscate the vapes and consequences. Stop pocket money if they're spending it on vapes. Take tech away, no lifts to meet friends etc