To want to bloody scream....!!

And yes, she knows I do the search as she has to hand me her bag, and stand over me whilst searching her room …

Teens buy it if other teens (18+?) quite often.
or online as they only have to tick the box to say they’re over 18 🤯

Yes, they don’t vape in the house, as I have applied the consequences when i could smell it just after we had agreed this approach.
It’s been a boundary I am not willing to cross so had to be clear I meant it.

It’s not easy to stand your ground but I think it’s worth the battle. Just keep telling yourself you are absolutely within your right to do this and know that you’re not on your own!

Where are all these teens buying their vapes from?

Dd (17) vapes. We’ve spoken about the risks however me and dh both vape. 😐

She has a job and pays for it herself, I can’t exactly force her to quit. I’ve made her aware it’s her health she’s ruining.

My friend had similar issue, get 16yo started vaping, my friend went ballistic. She sat her down and said - if you think you're adult enough to smoke and waste your money on it then you will be treated like an adult in this house meaning: you buy your own food, you pay rent for your room, and I'm not doing anything for you etc. You want to be an adult? Then you get adult treatment.
Worked a charm.

You could approach it from another angle?

Vaping - like smoking - will cause wrinkles around the mouth and age the skin.

She stinks, her clothes stink.

It looks moronic - Sucking and smacking away for dear life on plastic vapes.

Talk about popcorn lung - although at 16 kids think they're immortal :(

Paul Danan’s cause of death was recorded as:-

“His provisional cause of death has been recorded as combined toxicity of heroin, methadone, codeine, pregabalin, cocaine and zopiclone, contributed to by benzodiazepine use, the court heard.”

That's what vape companies want you to think. Paul Danan died from excessive vaping. He was 46.

Change the WiFi password.
I sadly check ds's room often. Vapes are binned. Cash is not given.

I just can't believe how some teens do what they like in the home! They will need to be warned that if they vape in the house they leave at 18.
I don't think you can force them to give up though, just enforce going outside, come rain or shine.

I think at 16 you’ve lost this battle already. I found vapes at that age and played it down, no big deal I pretended and when she realised the cost every week it stopped. But I think your maybe past that point.
I would say it’ll not be mentioned again but if you do it inside then room sweeps will take place and everything will be binned. If it’s kept out of the house that’s all you can ask for now

You can’t do anything.

Tell them you don't want to breath in the fumes from their vapes that you can quite obviously smell. They thought smoking inside was fine 40 years ago. Vapes are new and no one knows much about them yet or the long term affects.

Tell them it's their choice if they want to do it outside of the house but not inside. Do they pay you any board? Your house, you are the adult, your rules

Not inside the house, no. But yes otherwise, broadly it’s their body, their choice.

It’s tricky at age 16 I realise but I think at some point as parents you have to step back and accept they’ll make their own choices.

Also I have to be honest that at 16 I used to smoke and drink. Vaping doesn’t seem too terrible by comparison.

@Donotgogentle so if a member of your household decided they wanted to smoke cigarettes at home that's fine?
Is 16 not under age purchase of vapes?

I like @Glowinglights approach re not vaping inside.

They’re 16, over the age of consent for medical procedures. They earn their own money.

You've done your best to explain consequences, I’d leave them to make their own choices tbh.

My teen vapes too despite all the talks we’ve had.
We also have the rule not to vape inside. I’ve said I’ll leave the vapes alone if she doesn’t vape inside. If she vapes inside, I’ll throw everything I find out, and I’ll conduct daily bag searches for a week.

If you can’t stop pocket money, perhaps you can stop giving lifts ? I’d be ruthless and if you suspect they’ve vaped, apply the consequence- you don’t need court evidence, trust your nose on this one. They will likely call you unfair and tell you they haven’t vaped inside, but you need to take yourself and your rules seriously and if you strongly suspect it, stand firm.
It’s your house, you do not need to live with this smell.

Meh - there are much worse things

Time to come down harder. If they continue to do this they are out on their ear the moment they hit 18.