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Why are people so angry on here

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YourChirpyCoralAnt · 17/03/2025 19:08

I've seen a few posts where people are asking perfectly normal questions and the responses are insane.

I made a jokey post myself this afternoon and was met with one lady questioning my work ethics and my driving capabiliites, all because I said my husband sent me flowers at work after an argument.

It was completely not in context to what I'd posted and just seemed outright vicious.

Is this the norm here?

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HomeBodyClub · 19/03/2025 17:09

Menopausal I presume.

LivesinLondon2000 · 19/03/2025 17:04

Totally agree and it really puts me off posting or giving my opinion.
I post on a few other sites and never see the sort of angry responses to fairly uncontroversial posts that I see here - though I admit I don’t post on Reddit which does sound worse.
Rather than just saying ‘I don’t agree with you’ etc people often come out with an angry tirade.
Though someone recently replied to one of my posts with ‘What rot!’ which made me laugh as I didn’t think anyone had said that since about the 1950s!

Boomer55 · 19/03/2025 16:43

Keyboard warriors have always existed online. Best ignored. 🤷‍♀️

Surfstow · 19/03/2025 16:40

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SemperIdem · 17/03/2025 23:12

AIBU has always been the sharper end of MN. But tends to be the first one that new posters stumble across.

Other boards are generally calmer - though the baby names board can also get a bit terse!

LUBAR · 17/03/2025 23:09

A lot of damaged individuals on here. You can spot them a mile off. Just don't bite.

Longtimeloiterer · 17/03/2025 20:36

Some people are deliberately obtuse (if not its amazing how they've reached adulthood.

Keyboard warrioring is live and kicking here 🥴

Lentilweaver · 17/03/2025 20:32

Well that's awful. Usually Chat is ok. I have had a lot of support from the sub forums.

Tanyaaah · 17/03/2025 20:28

Just on Chat.

Lentilweaver · 17/03/2025 20:27

Where did you post @Tanyaaah?

Tanyaaah · 17/03/2025 20:18

I posted last week when I was feeling incredibly down and probably seemed quite pathetic but the 1st 2 responses were so mean that I deleted the thread and cried at work. There was no reason to be horrible, they could have just said nothing if they thought me that awful.

Kolin · 17/03/2025 19:43

Balhammom · 17/03/2025 19:14

My only tip is to choose the forum categories you read/post in. It doesn’t completely solve the problem but it helps!

Some parts of MN, such as anything discussing trans issues, are well known to be pretty vile, so any sane and balanced posters have long since left those bits to the usual extremist types.

I’ve learned a lot about “trans” issues on here, none of what I’ve learned was “vile”. It’s been more about how women and girls are affected rather than “trans” itself.

Calling people discussing this “extremist types” sounds quite intolerant of you!

coxesorangepippin · 17/03/2025 19:38

Toxic place

Youagain2025 · 17/03/2025 19:35

breakfastdinnerandtea · 17/03/2025 19:16

It’s crazy isn’t it? The first few posts definitely set the tone. Sometimes, on longer threads, other posters come along and offer a different opinion and can occasionally change it, but not always.
I took a long break from MN, I’ve only come back on because I’m pregnant after a huge gap, but contemplating deleting it again because people are just awful.

It's odd that the first few replies set the tone . Almost like some don't have their own opinion just follow the crowd.

Lentilweaver · 17/03/2025 19:35

Clearly I haven't encountered the really awful.ones or I am one of them!
I never post in AIBU though.

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 17/03/2025 19:31

There are some pretty warped people on here. I edited a post to correct a spelling mistake yesterday and someone told me they just saw me posting child abuse then deleting it and they are reporting me 😳

Createausername1970 · 17/03/2025 19:30

I do think there are a small number of posters on here who delight in being as unpleasant as they can be.

I give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they have problems in their private lives that they have no control over, so they take out their frustration on here.

gamerchick · 17/03/2025 19:28

Personally I don't think people get laid enough. Makes people frustrated and mad at the world

sometimesmovingforwards · 17/03/2025 19:27

I think it’s a window into the fact that a huge amount of people are indeed nutters.

A phone plus an anonymous forum identity just gives their inner weirdo has a place to chat.

PickledElectricity · 17/03/2025 19:26

breakfastdinnerandtea · 17/03/2025 19:16

It’s crazy isn’t it? The first few posts definitely set the tone. Sometimes, on longer threads, other posters come along and offer a different opinion and can occasionally change it, but not always.
I took a long break from MN, I’ve only come back on because I’m pregnant after a huge gap, but contemplating deleting it again because people are just awful.

Have you tried Reddit? Absolute cesspit. I feel like forum options are really limited these days.

vodkaredbullgirl · 17/03/2025 19:25

Nothing new here 😆

Lentilweaver · 17/03/2025 19:22

It's one of the least angry places on the internet. Which is why I am here. Probably because it's mostly women. I have had death threats elsewhere.

NicolaCasanova · 17/03/2025 19:20

Anger or rudeness?

NicolaCasanova · 17/03/2025 19:20

Because most of us are women and women being angry in public are not taken seriously and even ridiculed, etc. Society doesn’t allow us anger, (or our anger is mislabelled ‘emotion’) unless it’s fake anger in the male gaze like a woman slapping a man before fucking in a porno.

merrymelodies · 17/03/2025 19:19

Unjustified nastiness has been around for years. I’ve learned to ignore it.

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