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Primary and bullying

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Pnxjwy · 17/03/2025 17:45

DC is in y3 and since the start of the year has been targeted by a child in their class - verbal threats but also physical violence particularly at playtime. We've spoken to the school and they are aware. Promised they will keep an eye on it.

At pick up today, the teacher came to me to tell me about yet another incident. DC was thrown to the ground and kicked. Am fed up but not sure what more that we can do.

The child in question has developmental issues so it's not a question of him needing him to be told off. However, what else can we do?

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Pnxjwy · 17/03/2025 18:03

I spend quite a lot of my time at the school and I get that the child has issues. However, they need to monitor him. But beyond telling them yet again that there are issues, it doesn't change things. They know about the incidents and the kid spent the rest of the day in the head's office.

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Silvertulips · 17/03/2025 17:59

Look up the complaints procedure it will outline all the courses of action open to you.

Formal complaints these can be used to help asses and get help for the child causing the issues - write them carefully as they will be shared.

Ask to speak to the head teacher and say what you want to happen, child away in the class, incidents to be recorded and they must call you immediately.

Playtimes to be supervised.

Honesty - I wish I had moved DD - biggest regret now.

Wowzel · 17/03/2025 17:58

Ask them what they intend to do to safeguard your child at school

lunar1 · 17/03/2025 17:55

Ask them, in writing to outline their plan for keeping your child safe in school both physical and mentally.

don’t mention the other child, their needs are irrelevant to their responsibility to your son and his wellbeing in school. Make it very clear that you expect a solution and for it to never happen again.

GRex · 17/03/2025 17:50

Please don't buy into the line about how another child's development issues mean that your child's injuries and feelings don't matter. We went through that loop for a long time, unfortunately escalations lead to school treating parents of the victim as the problem. If teachers at your DD's current school are determined not to prevent him from being hurt, then all you can usefully do for your son is to move him to a different school.