Primary and bullying

Then the school need something else in place. Other child cannot be on the playground whilst hurting children repeatedly. Why should the school expect the other child to have playtimes at the expense of your child. You are being too kind. Up this now!

Is this bully targeting any other kids, or just yours?

Sounds very tough, OP, especially with your DC asking to stay off school so they don’t need to be scared. That would break my heart and make me seething with rage simultaneously.

Your difficulties sorting this out are indicative of why people tell their kids just to hit back harder and not to stop until the other one learns their lesson.

School will do nothing. Time to unlearn all the kind hands crap. Tell DC to fight back

Phrase it like this ‘if I went to work and was physically assaulted everyday I would not put up with it and would call the police. So why should I expect my young child to put up with it?’ I had similar with my child. I’m sick of hearing that a SEN child has physically assaulted another child and we’re all just meant to accept it. Parents also need to take more responsibility for their children, if they are prone to aggressive outbursts!

It's a good suggestion but emails appear to have failed and now the child has been thrown to the ground and kicked. I think a face to face meeting with the HT is required.

Tell the school if they don’t resolve the situation you’ll be complaining to OFSTED, as you’re concerned they don’t have robust and effective safeguarding process in place

Email them daily. "I am still awaiting a detailed plan of what you plan to do to keep my child safe from harm whilst he is in your care?"

That's not good enough. They need to supervise the child at break times to ensure the safety of the other children. Make an appointment with the Headteacher and tell him/her that the school is failing to safeguard your child at break times and you want to know what the school intends to do about it. Don't be fobbed off with 'we don't have the staff' because they do - they'll be having their toilet/tea breaks while the child with behaviour problems is outside. The HT can arrange for the child's one-to-one to have their break before or afterwards or assign a rota of TAs to cover the child's breaks. Don't let your child's safety (or happiness at school) be compromised by the school's lack of funds/staff. It's not your problem, it's theirs (and I'm saying this as a retired HT myself). Good luck!

Why does a child’s development issues mean it’s ok for him to throw another child to the ground and kick them? If he’s in a mainstream school and year 3, he does need be ‘told off’ and taught better coping skills.

Excusing this behaviour is doing him no favours. The sooner he can play with other children in a resilient and reasonable way, the sooner those skills will benefit him in all sorts of other areas.

I would take my child out until you have answers

go to the police, Ofsted

i have seen many children take their own lives due to bullying

In your reply email where you ask for specific details regards how they can keep your child safe, I'd be asking for total clarity regards break and lunchtime. Exactly what can school do and will do so she feels safe.

It is absolutely reasonable to say in writing, copying in the relevant Governor, that you require specific details of how your child will be safe from bullying each day they're in school. That specific detail needs to include who they can go to at any time, a safe place they can go to etc.

Sounds like the other pupil requires a 1 to 1, but it sounds like there's no EHCP and the school don't have the resources ( they're saying) to provide the 1 to 1.

Do you have incidents presented like a diary log. So on this date my child reported x,y,z.

I didn't see if you've gone to the Governors?

It's not a question of the other child needing to be told off?

You're being far too lenient

Of course it is.

This.

Report everything!

Email head and CC in safeguarding staff etc ask what they are doing about it and what they do if it doesn't stop. Xx

Do what I did. Type a very authoritative email into school demanding that the bullying stops now as it is affecting your child's mental health. If it doesn't stop immediately you will be approaching the child's parents and also complaining to the local authority and local MP.
Within an hour of sending the head of the key stage will be phoning you and putting a bullying action plan in place. Make sure every single incident you child reports to you is emailed into school so you have a record and can prove it. Do not be all nicey nicey they have a duty of care towards your child and they are failing.

Their action plan to keep him safe while in their care

It’s easy to fob you off when you focus on the other child, because they can’t tell you anything. Focus only on your own and they will have to answer properly.