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Petty neighbour moaning about me getting water on his fence

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Andrea18 · 17/03/2025 14:31

I was washing out my greenhouse yesterday and some other things and my neighbour, who was out front washing his car suddenly decided that his little fairy lights along the to of the dividing fence needed attention in the middle of washing his car.

All you could see was the top of his head above the fence, it looked hilarious.

Then he decided to speak to me, "make sure you don't fucking get water on my fence."
I just said "pathetic" and wandered into my greenhouse.

Of course, after winter the fence around my garden needs painting, which I will be doing but I won't be painting my side of his fence, which I normally do and he expects it.

Would you?

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YouveGotAFastCar · 21/03/2025 11:40

Whose fence is it? Or is it double-fenced but you usually do both sides?

If it's his fence, as he says, you need his permission to paint it.

If it's your fence, but you also usually paint "my side of his fence", he won't see it, so he probably won't care...

Solaire18381 · 21/03/2025 11:38

Has he got nothing better to do?! My petty neighbours did something very petty yesterday. Well she did. They are a retired couple, never really go anywhere or do anything despite having their health and not short or a bob or two either.

I would just put it down to boredom/pettiness/curtain twitching and having nothing else to do.

Devianinc · 19/03/2025 00:46

Devianinc · 19/03/2025 00:45

Yes he will. His side won’t painted.

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Read the thread again.

Devianinc · 19/03/2025 00:45

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2025 00:26

But he won't see it...

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Yes he will. His side won’t painted.

user1492757084 · 19/03/2025 00:37

Did he think he would be electrocuted by the wet fairy lights?

Was it just a momentary ask or did he mean - Don't ever get water on my fence?
I would have askled him whether he was talking to the clouds or me.

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2025 00:26

Devianinc · 18/03/2025 15:01

He’s painting his own side of the fence. He’s not going to paint the fence on the neighbors side so he can look at a ugly unpainted fence.

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But he won't see it...

Devianinc · 18/03/2025 15:06

Annascaul · 18/03/2025 11:49

Why would op punish herself because the neighbour was a dick?

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She’s not punishing herself. She’s painting her own side, just not the neighbors like she usually does

MissyB1 · 18/03/2025 15:04

Easterbunnygettingsorted · 18/03/2025 12:57

Paint the fence. All of it. Put wind chimes and twinkling light up.
Maybe hand make a sign :
NO RAIN ALLOWED ON THE FENCE

Ha ha this! 😁

Devianinc · 18/03/2025 15:03

Devianinc · 18/03/2025 15:01

He’s painting his own side of the fence. He’s not going to paint the fence on the neighbors side so he can look at a ugly unpainted fence.

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He usually paints the neighbors side but now he won’t bc the neighbors a dick

Devianinc · 18/03/2025 15:01

Nanny0gg · 18/03/2025 11:06

That's still cutting your nose off.

The neighbour won't care

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He’s painting his own side of the fence. He’s not going to paint the fence on the neighbors side so he can look at a ugly unpainted fence.

Cancelthebreak · 18/03/2025 14:13

I doubt this is the first conflict between the two of them but if it was then he is obviously unreasonable to be swearing at her.

Easterbunnygettingsorted · 18/03/2025 12:57

Paint the fence. All of it. Put wind chimes and twinkling light up.
Maybe hand make a sign :
NO RAIN ALLOWED ON THE FENCE

Crazybaby123 · 18/03/2025 12:55

He could have said 'oh can you please not get water on my fence' which is stupid anhway as it rains 😂
But he chose to be a dick.
I wouldnt not paint my side and have one shitty fence side in my garden though.

Cancelthebreak · 18/03/2025 12:42

I wouldn’t want to live next door to either of you. What happened to courtesy and consideration for other people?

MissMoan · 18/03/2025 12:37

It must be hell over at his when it rains!

Needspaceforlego · 18/03/2025 12:24

Op was it the pressure he was concerned about. Because obviously a pressure washer is completely different to just rain water.

orangegato · 18/03/2025 12:22

What does he think happens when it rains?

Thetrainer · 18/03/2025 11:59

I wouldn’t allow a nasty comment to change my behaviour. Do what you always do and ignore him.

Nasty neighbours is a really uncomfortable situation. I would be trying to de escalate this rather than fuel it.

satsumaqueen · 18/03/2025 11:59

I’d put some hanging baskets up on the fence and water them daily 😁

Getitwright · 18/03/2025 11:53

Sadly some adults maintain a playground mindset for most of their lives………

Annascaul · 18/03/2025 11:49

Devianinc · 17/03/2025 21:36

Bc the neighbor was being a dick.

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Why would op punish herself because the neighbour was a dick?

Needspaceforlego · 18/03/2025 11:46

Ach the rain will wash it off.

Scampuss · 18/03/2025 11:43

What does he do when it rains?

Nanny0gg · 18/03/2025 11:06

Devianinc · 17/03/2025 21:36

Bc the neighbor was being a dick.

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That's still cutting your nose off.

The neighbour won't care

Devianinc · 17/03/2025 21:36

Nanny0gg · 17/03/2025 14:58

Why would you want one fence in your garden to look awful?

Bc the neighbor was being a dick.