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To think leaving UK is the best Option now

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LeavinUK · 17/03/2025 10:51

We are thinking of leaving UK now to move to Dubai or USA. We have two young children who are in nursery, not in School yet and one will start school next year.
The reasons are the state of UK. Looking at the state of NHS, the waits are so long if you ever have to go to A&E, you can access better healthcare of you have insurance in any other country. Another reason is the ever increasing tax, we both work full time and I have the potential to earn six figures but I am staying at a flexible job to earn under 6 figures and I am forced to not get a promotion or switching to High paying jobs by the fact that I won't be eligible for 30 funded hours of Childcare which I I think is very unfair on hard working people who want to progress in career while having young children. UK doesn't feels like a family friendly country overall.
We also don't feel safe now going out to city centre etc which have become a ghost town and so much of illegal immigrants loitering around and so much increase in crimes.
Our friends who moved to Dubai are able to afford full time house help, nanny and a driver while earning similar to ourselves. While, here we are struggling with young kids and paying huge taxes. I have family in USA who are earning big bucks and paying much less taxes and being able to save and invest better for retirement while we will be working till 68 potentially 70 which is totally insane.
AIBU to feel leaving UK is the best option now and have you made a move or considering moving?

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 17/03/2025 10:56

While I can see why you might want to leave The UK if the reasons you state are genuine I have no idea why you would pick Dubai or The US

EveryKneeShallBow · 17/03/2025 10:56

Agree with previous comments. I’d rather stay here than live in either of those places. But if you fancy it, go for it.

Fountains · 17/03/2025 10:55

Applesandpears23 · 17/03/2025 10:53

If your reasons are healthcare, childcare costs and public safety it makes absolutely no sense to move to USA.

This. Also, I used to live in Dubai and loathed it so much that I moved back to London with no job! I still remember the feeling of happiness that came over me as I looked out the car window at a rainy Holloway Road.

FrenchandSaunders · 17/03/2025 10:55

How do you know they are 'illegal immigrants' and not just 'immigrants' ... which you will be if your plan goes ahead.

LeavinUK · 17/03/2025 10:55

We are considering USA because of career prospects and have family there.

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Radiatorvalves · 17/03/2025 10:54

If you can get a decent job in Dubai covering rent, schools and other costs… go for it (although rest of MN will say it’s a terrible place). But the USA?? Now??? IMHO you’d be beyond mad to move there for better health and a safer lifestyle.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 17/03/2025 10:53

Of all the place you could go you have probably picked two that are actually less appealing! I can't imagine ever choosing to move to either of those places.

randomchap · 17/03/2025 10:53

Go on then head to the USA where schools have shooting drills, or Dubai, a misogynistic state propped up by slave labour.

Applesandpears23 · 17/03/2025 10:53

If your reasons are healthcare, childcare costs and public safety it makes absolutely no sense to move to USA.

Chariots77 · 17/03/2025 10:52

Why not just get private health cover here? I wouldn't move to the USA right now if j was paid to. Thea UAE sounds like my idea of hell, but each to their own.