I've been bothered by this for a long time: I think my husband overshares way too much. Whenever I mention it, he dismisses my concerns by saying something like, "Oh, let's all be quiet and secretive, I'm just making normal conversation'.
As an example, he will tell friends we catch up with how our business is doing to quite a detailed degree. While I think it's fine to say business is good (or bad). I don't think any more about it should be discussed. After all, I see it as bad press about the brand if he's discussing something negative even if it is amongst friends. There are other things that he shares which annoy me, such as if he got stopped for speeding or any other negative things. The odd share - no problem. However, I do feel, increasingly, that whenever we meet up with other couples it does become the 'X (my name) and Y (DH's name) Show' where we ask friends 'So how's it going?' and immediately they reply with, 'It's all fine, no change really with us. But how's it going with you, and how did it go with X? And what happened that time with Y?' Friends immediately catch up on every detail of our lives while theirs seem uneventful and drama-free. I understand that everyone has their ups and downs, but I can’t help feeling that he’s giving away too much every time.
Am I wrong for thinking he overshares? How private are you as a couple with your friends when you catch up? How much do you reveal about your personal lives? I've always believed in keeping things to myself and confiding only in some individuals, as sharing too much with everyone can sometimes do more harm than good.
I think a lot of it is tied to him liking to be seen as some kind of funny storyteller who has loads of anecdotes, but the joke ends up being on us as a couple. He might not mind, but I do.
What do you think?