People who swear all the time

Apart from the use of various slurs whose offensiveness is self-evident, I think the idea that there are "bad words" is ridiculous.

I don't know whom by, certainly not by me!

But if I asked you not to swear, I’d be painted as an uptight cow, for stopping the cool kid expressing themselves.

I have an utter potty mouth, but as I wfh it's usually just me talking to myself, or under my breath. Wouldn't dream of directing it anyone, and never in front of kids. But it does have a place I think,

I completely agree. I'm not somebody at all who says that swearing is always a sign of limited vocabulary; BUT when half of the words you say consist of swearing - often the same swear words too - you're clearly very lacking in eloquence.

Replace the swear word used constantly as punctuation with any other word and it's instantly evident how stupid and irritating it sounds (genuine conditions such as Tourette's notwithstanding).

If you're going to swear, at least own it and show that you understand when it's appropriate to swear and when not to - or indeed use any other word - just like you presumably wouldn't start a job application cover letter with "Oi, wotcha!"

At the moment, there must be so many people out there who use swear words as punctuation - quite possibly having been brought up by parents who do the same - who (as PP recounted) genuinely don't understand why they always struggle and maybe get rejected in a whole load of situations where good, appropriate communication is key.

The thread is 'people who swear all the time', not 'people who swear'. Don't think OP has a problem with swearing per se.

Why the assumption that people who swear are trying to be clever?

On the contrary, I grew up with parents who were very careful not to swear around me.

Been an accountant for 15 years and thoroughly believe you can’t do accountancy without swearing!

Same as some others have said, I love swearing. I actually remember being a kid and thinking that I couldn’t wait to be a grown up so I could swear more.

In front of children is agree, but I also have to say I have no time for adults who claim to be offended by swearing. We’re all adults, we all know these words - grow up. Studies have also shown that people who swear frequently are more trustworthy and more intelligent. So turns out they might be being clever!

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2021/01/26/health/swearing-benefits-wellness

I don't think anyone that swears thinks they are being big or clever, it's just something they do, probably because it's what they've grown up with.

I swear - quite a lot - sometimes swearing is the only way to add the emphasis needed.

One of the problems with swearing these days is that people seem less aware of context and do not switch it off when it is not appropriate - ie around children - people you don't know. I don't swear at anyone (although I do about people) - I swore around my children (but infrequently) but never at them. My partner swears less - apart from when driving when he is triggered by other drivers. They have never sworn (in my hearing) but would be surprised if they didn't at times with friends.

Same, it’s just normal.

Same as me. It’s just my vocabulary and forms the pattern of the way I talk. I don’t swear and look for reaction.

I went to see Book of Mormon and thought that’s exactly what they were trying to do, use swearing as a way to seem edgy and cool.

Totally agree, I swear quite a bit but never at people or in front of kids...I don't think I'm cool, it's just natural

I swear, lots and probably too much for some on here. Years of working in male dominated environment. Never swear AT my children, occasionally around them, which is a bit more now they are teens.

It's an assumption to think that people think they're being both big and clever when they swear. For me it's just a part of the vocabulary I use, I don't think, "ooh, get me, I'm sooo cool".

I’ve never met an intelligent person whose every second word was a swear word. Only the ignorant and inarticulate speak like that.

Swearing doesn’t bother me - some of the rudest people I know have never sworn in their lives.

Swearing doesn't bother me, I swear, either in humour, because I've hurt myself, or maybe in response to something awful that's happened.
It doesn't bother me to hear it, but I don't like people who use swear words in place of a full stop in general day to day conversations. Sometimes there is absolutely no need for it and it isn't appropriate
But it is very rare that am I offended by hearing it, & wouldn't swear around children.

It depends how you're using it. It's not okay to swear at others. And there are obviously some places you wouldn't swear e.g. work meeting with a client.

Day to day language with other adults is fine. Swearing at your child is vile. Saying 'oh shit' because you dropped something in front of a child is different. Swearing is part of life. Teens will inevitably swear because all young people do at some point. They need to learn when it's acceptable. My child is only a baby, but I'll have no issue with hearing 'Mum, Mr X really pissed me off today at school', when she's a teen, but I won't accept being sworn at. I think sometimes letting someone describe how they feel in their own words is more important than policing language.

I don't like hearing it as every other word, and I think it loses its potency. I reserve swearing for if someone truly has been a c or if something really is f* annoying!!

Completely agree. You can be horrendously rude/horrible/cruel/mean without swearing at all. And you can say “oh fuck” if you break something, and it’s not directed at anyone and I don’t really see why it’s any more offensive than saying “oh bother” when the sentiment is exactly the same.

Growing up I was very timid and being raised in a house with very strict rules and parents who never swore. I found when I did hear this language it made me anxious and regardless of how anyone used it, I found it aggressive.

So, I chose to disarm swearing in my home. I never allowed my children to do it, just hear it. They would never jump at the words and they were never taboo. So to them it was never some secret rebellious fun to use them.

This has really chimed with me, I hadn't really thought about it but I've done the same thing for the same reasons. Swearing was forbidden when I was growing up, and my mum would turn films off etc if there was any hint of bad language. She slapped my face when I was 20 because I forgot myself and swore in front of her (we had just been involved in a car accident!).

We swear, not at people and not in front of children. I don't like constant swearing, when it's more a verbal tic - it cancels out its purpose. My young adult kids swear in front of me. For example they'll tell me when they're pissed off, or if they think someone on the TV's a dickhead (usually a fair observation considering we watch the news together). The only time one of them's said fuck to me was when, coincidentally, they'd had a car crash - he rang me and said 'My car's fucked!'.