People who swear all the time

But where do you draw the line, when it comes to which words - that you very well know offend many, many people - you feel are their problem if they hear you freely saying them in public?

Would you tell a black person or a gay person that they have a perfect right to leave if they hear people using offensive racist or homophobic language - and that they have no place challenging or 'policing' other people's choice of language?

If the people using the contentious words aren't directing them towards anybody there or using them threateningly, but are 'just' referring to certain groups of people in general that way?

I mean, the words they're choosing to use clearly aren't offensive or taboo to everybody, if they themselves are merrily saying them; so do you think they're just freely expressing themselves too, and it's your issue if it offends you?

Replace the swear word used constantly as punctuation with any other word and it's instantly evident how stupid and irritating it sounds

I agree. There was a group of schoolgirls on my train the other day and one of them said f*ing almost every other word. It was ugly, and so boring. It took her twice as long to get to the point, because of all the unnecessary words.

'I rhubarb got up late so I missed the rhubarb bus and I was rhubarb late for rhubarb school so I got a rhubarb detention.' That's not what she was saying, but that's what her general conversation was like.

I was in a supermarket once and there was a youngish lad on the checkout and his friend was there chatting to him in between customers. Their language was dreadful and I did say something to the supervisor on my way out, because that lad needed to be told it wasn't appropriate where customers could hear.

I swear like a sailor…..but when it’s appropriate for that conversation/environment. I’ll occasionally have one slip in front of my kids like if I drop something in the kitchen and “bollocks” slips out. And I’ll admit I do have some flare ups in traffic 🫣🫣 I’ve only sworn directly AT one of my DC’s once. It had been a trying day, and my middle one was just antagonising all of his siblings simply because he was bored. In that moment, I just couldn’t find the right word to describe the behaviour, so it came out as “Will you please just stop being a dick?” 🫣🫠
I don’t litter every sentence with swear words - I’ll admit that annoys me aswell. I used to work with a woman where she said some variation of “fuck” every couple of words. It was weird. I think it was her way of filling the time before she could think of her next contribution to the conversation - the same way people “ummm” a lot between words.

Nothing invigorates me more, helps me process upset and anger, and re ground, than shouting...

You total cunt

I don't understand why it has such power for me. It's preferable not to be in company, or be heard during my declarations.

I sometimes have a session with a friend where we go on about the cunts we're presently dealing with. Incredibly cathartic.

@TheSassyTraybake So witty. Nah, I may be thick, but I don't think I'm a scumbag who can't carry on a conversation without dropping swearing into every second word.
Not saying that you are, of course......

At which point you could refer them to your posts on here and they’d be able to see how thick you are?

My brother’s toddler told him to “fuck off” when he was trying to strap her in her car seat.

My daughter hears occasional swearing. She’s never sworn. Oh, apart from once after watching Drop Dead Fred. She was ambling around the room and just blurted out “piss off.” 😂

I know I shouldn’t laugh but it was funny. And I know DDF isn’t really a kid’s movie but it does appeal to children and I know many who have seen it.

I will only swear in front of my DH and certain friends ( not at, in conversation). I have never sworn in front of my parents, in laws and friends who I'm not as close to as others. I like to maintain a certain standard in front of some people. I'm not really offended by swearing but when it's over the top or directed at children, it's unnecessary.

I didn't tie swearing constantly to the underclass to goad, I did it to reflect what I see and hear in real life which is something that all the virtue signallers on Mumsnet don't appear to have much experience of. It's reality for a lot of people.
I seem to have touched a nerve with all the posters who appear to think that constantly swearing in public is fine and that it's OK to swear at your kids, because, you now they've turned out all right.....
If I heard someone swearing repeatedly in public, yup, I'd think they were thick.

Where you say something deliberately inflammatory and then post something which contradicts your original statement, which you then refer people to when they respond.

For example - invoking deprivation (as in poverty) and social services (as in an inability to operate successfully within society and thus requiring assistance from the state) paints a picture of an underclass, which is the description you tied to those who swear, regardless of their intelligence.

You then made a following post which "rows back" on that aspersion, by claiming to know middle class and aristocratic swearers, which is apparently supposed to mitigate the fact that you initially very deliberately tied it to an underclass in order to goad.

I wouldn't paint you as an upright cow but I'd suggest you stop trying to police my language and leave my presence if my choice of language offended you. You have no right to tell people how they should communicate. You have every right to walk away if you don't like it.

I do swear quite a lot. It just comes out. I must be reaaallllly thick according to some posters here 🙄

I agree OP.

I didn't think I was that bothered by it and myself love a well dropped F bomb. But then in my dating days I went on a date with a man who every other word was fucking.
I'm not joking. Every. Other. Word. People were even turning around and looking at him as he was also uncommonly loud with it. It was a huge turn off and just made me think he didn't have a very good vocabulary.

I’m glad you’ve seen sense and don’t care to expand on your classist bullshit.

Words are words. The meaning attached to them differ from person to person. My kids were taught that swear words are just words but aren't appropriate within certain contexts - never at school or work and only with people who are like minded. I am sweary. I like swear words. I think they add emphasis. I don't swear AT people.

@Bundleflower And if you don't know what I was trying to say why did you think it was goady and inflammatory
@Verv What's a rowback post?

@Bundleflower If you think my post was goady or rather inflammatory you must lead a very sheltered life.
You know perfectly well what I was trying to say so stop pretending otherwise.

I love it too and most of the time it’s necessary.

The rowback one?
Yes, I saw it.

That sounds exactly like her 😆 I think I was the only one not offended by her because I knew it was how she was brought up to speak. Thankfully she wasn't customer facing haha

Then, again, what were you trying to imply with your goady post?
Perhaps the issue isn’t the comprehension of others but the clearness of your rather inflammatory posts?

Personally I don’t swear unless I’m really angry but my husband and kids do a lot , every other word . I guess it’s my age and my parents never did . It mostly goes in one ear and out the other now . I can understand it when you are emphasising a point but when it’s just part of a normal conversation I don’t get it . I know I’m in the minority here 😉

When needed. Not in every sentence because that takes away the emotional component of the swearword.

I don't like swearing around children. But find it liberating with adults.

I used to be a primary school teacher. I once had to talk to a parent about the bad language her Y2 child was using. She was most apologetic. She said she didn't know where he fucking got it from!