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To think my insurance should cover me nearly dying?!

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octavio1996 · 17/03/2025 09:05

Posting here because I’m at my wits’ end and don’t know what to do. Currently stuck in Australia after a total nightmare and my insurance company is refusing to pay out.

Basically, I was travelling here on holiday with DH and the DC (two teens, one younger), having an amazing time. Then out of nowhere, I got really ill massive pain, collapsed, rushed to hospital. Turns out it was a ruptured appendix and I ended up in intensive care for days, genuinely thought I was going to die. DH was beside himself, kids were terrified. The hospital care was amazing but obviously, this is Australia, and the bills are absolutely eye-watering.

Here’s the kicker: my travel insurance is now refusing to pay. They’re saying it’s a “pre-existing condition” (it wasn’t), or that I didn’t declare something minor from years ago that has nothing to do with this. I’ve been on the phone to them constantly, but they’re just fobbing me off. We’ve already had to put thousands on a credit card just to get me discharged. We were meant to fly home next week, but I’m not even sure I’m well enough to travel, and obviously, we can’t afford to stay indefinitely.

Has anyone been in this situation before? Do I have any chance of fighting this, or are we totally screwed? DH is trying to stay calm for the DC, but I can tell he’s panicking too. I just want to go home and not be bankrupt.

TL;DR: Nearly died from a ruptured appendix, travel insurance won’t pay, stuck in Australia with a huge bill. Help!

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Chenecinquantecinq · 17/03/2025 10:44

Blondiebeachbabe · 17/03/2025 10:33

Hang on. My travel insurance comes with my Bank account, and I've never been asked to fill out any disclosure forms. So how does that work then?

Op, I would fight this to the death. Even go to the press or one of those consumer TV programmes. Or take them to small claims court. Do not back down. Hope you feel better soon.

So does mine but if you read the policy you are under an obligation to proactively inform them of any pre existing etc the onus is on you to tell them not them phone you/write to ask.

StumbleInTheDebris · 17/03/2025 10:42

SirDanielBrackley · 17/03/2025 09:57

I didn’t declare something minor from years ago that has nothing to do with this.

Non-declaration is non-declaration. Whether you think it has anything to do with your current condition or not. The proposal forms are quite clear everything must be declared.

I would have refused a claim on this basis (& when I worked for a major UK insurance company, I sometimes did).

Frankly, I think there is more to this than we are being told.

The proposal forms are quite clear everything must be declared.

Do you mean that if they ask for everything in the last 5 years you need to ignore that time limit and provide everything before then as well?

Or do you mean everything within their stated time limit?

repellingmnvipers · 17/03/2025 10:42

Is it not presented as a list of ailments and you tick whether you have ever visited the dr. So if it said digestive issues and you ticked no visit to Gp then I assume that will be incorrectly declared. Hope you get it sorted Op and I wish you a speedy recovery

Chenecinquantecinq · 17/03/2025 10:41

You need legal advice not MN. It is always worth declaring EVERYTHING however minor and however historic as obviously insurance companies try and wiggle out of everything. Just not worth the risk, if you are charged a bit more for a policy then that's life. Have people looked at the wording of insurance policies to see what you should declare? Some of it is most bizarre!!

repellingmnvipers · 17/03/2025 10:38

Also if you weren't diagnosed with ibs then presumably it would be digestive pain you presented with that you failed to declare? So it wouldn't mention ibs on your notes

anyolddinosaur · 17/03/2025 10:37

@biscuitsandbooks You are giving misleading information. Fortunately I read Ombudman's decisions sometimes - so I know what insurance companies can get away with and what they cant.

repellingmnvipers · 17/03/2025 10:37

octavio1996 · 17/03/2025 09:19

@biscuitsandbooks I declared everything they asked for! I don’t have any history of appendicitis (obviously, or I wouldn’t have a bloody appendix to rupture!), and I’ve never had any issues that should be relevant. They’re saying I didn’t declare mild IBS from years ago, which was never even diagnosed properly and has nothing to do with this. How on earth was I supposed to know that would count?!

I thought travel insurance was meant to cover emergencies, not look for any excuse not to pay. Feeling completely trapped right now.

Get the Australian medical team to write a lower categorically saying the mild ibs was nothing to do with this hospital stay.

repellingmnvipers · 17/03/2025 10:35

Introducingme · 17/03/2025 09:10

How can appendicitis be an existing condition.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
Insurance companies will try and get out of paying
for the most stupid reason.
A friend had 5 stitches in his hand. Never declared it.
When he lost his bag they refused to pay out.

Having symptoms of a grumbling appendix that doesn't yet warrant removal?

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 17/03/2025 10:35

Hang on. My travel insurance comes with my Bank account, and I've never been asked to fill out any disclosure forms. So how does that work then?

Me too.

Blondiebeachbabe · 17/03/2025 10:33

Hang on. My travel insurance comes with my Bank account, and I've never been asked to fill out any disclosure forms. So how does that work then?

Op, I would fight this to the death. Even go to the press or one of those consumer TV programmes. Or take them to small claims court. Do not back down. Hope you feel better soon.

biscuitsandbooks · 17/03/2025 10:30

anyolddinosaur · 17/03/2025 10:29

Fortunately the Ombudsman also takes the view that it's ridiculous to expect people to remember every cough and cold. Ongoing conditions for which you receive medication - have to declare. An ear infection 20 years ago that responded to antibiotics - irrelevant as no reason to believe it was anything serious. I dont declare my broken ankle from 10 years back.

Something where surgery has resolved the issue - declare if within their time period for anything or if in their "anytime" declare list.

I would be really hesitant about not declaring your broken ankle. If you fall and injure yourself again they may refuse to cover you.

biscuitsandbooks · 17/03/2025 10:29

dairydebris · 17/03/2025 10:24

You're definitely not supposed to mention everything you've seen a dr for.

You're definitely supposed to mention pre existing conditions and any current treatment. And anything you have seen a Dr for recently and are still waiting to be resolved. Bloating and tummy aches from a few years ago wouldn't be a problem. Existing IBS requiring ongoing treatment might well be a problem.

It depends on the policy. Many do ask that you declare any doctors visits even if you never ended up needing treatment.

anyolddinosaur · 17/03/2025 10:29

Fortunately the Ombudsman also takes the view that it's ridiculous to expect people to remember every cough and cold. Ongoing conditions for which you receive medication - have to declare. An ear infection 20 years ago that responded to antibiotics - irrelevant as no reason to believe it was anything serious. I dont declare my broken ankle from 10 years back.

Something where surgery has resolved the issue - declare if within their time period for anything or if in their "anytime" declare list.

Mayflyoff · 17/03/2025 10:29

CantStopMoving · 17/03/2025 10:25

Exactly - I can’t remember all the tiny ailments I have been to the doctor with over the years. I have so many ENT problems investigated and all were benign but I could tell you anything about each one. I’d be more than happy to tell an insurance company they can simply have access to my medical records. It is way too onerous to make people list every single thing that might be relevant.

Absolutely agree, trying to remember the list of things that we've been to the doctor for, but have turned out to be nothing, for a family of 4 is really hard. I've no intention of misleading anyone, but may inadvertently do so. It took over a year to sort out a claim, so I'm really cautious now and probably won't ever go to the US again, in case I screw up and lose my house.

biscuitsandbooks · 17/03/2025 10:28

Borgonzola · 17/03/2025 10:23

The problem with IBS is it’s a blanket term used to describe a variety of symptoms and often in my opinion carelessly applied. I’ve had various gastric issues and a couple of doctors have used the term IBS to describe it without coming up with a definitive diagnosis - it’s not a diagnosis in itself really. So people on here saying you should have really disclosed it are perhaps not understanding that it’s barely helpful to use it in any form, let alone for insurance. And it sounds like some jobsworth at the insurance company would try to say they’re linked anyway, so disclosing it wouldn’t have helped.

The thing is, it doesn’t matter (in the eyes of the insurance company) whether X undisclosed condition is linked to Y incident. It’s about whether you’ve declared everything openly and honestly.

It’s a bit like how car insurers see you as a higher risk for accidents when your car is hit while parked. It may not be linked the later claim of your car being written off, but they still need to know about it.

Trolllol · 17/03/2025 10:27

The policies that come with banks you can often call them to declare existing conditions and they then send you a letter with the conditions listed per person. Usually “excluded” though from the policy.

Most people won’t be covered as they age with standard travel insurance anymore.

CantStopMoving · 17/03/2025 10:25

GrazeConcern · 17/03/2025 09:28

I think travel insurance is getting ridiculous who on earth can remember every tiny medical appointment where they discussed possible issues which are not even a formal diagnosis. There needs to be a better way for the consumer.

Exactly - I can’t remember all the tiny ailments I have been to the doctor with over the years. I have so many ENT problems investigated and all were benign but I could tell you anything about each one. I’d be more than happy to tell an insurance company they can simply have access to my medical records. It is way too onerous to make people list every single thing that might be relevant.

user1492757084 · 17/03/2025 10:24

Did you go to a private hospital or did you choose public?
Did you use your travel insurance? Maybe it would have been simpler to register for Medicare.

If you register with Medicare you should get some back if the treatment was in a public hospital.

dairydebris · 17/03/2025 10:24

biscuitsandbooks · 17/03/2025 10:19

It could do, I don’t know.

I just know that you’re supposed to declare absolutely everything you’ve seen a doctor for, no matter how minor and no matter whether it led to a diagnosis or not.

It’s the same as not declaring accidents to your car insurance even if you don’t claim. You’re still supposed to tell them and they can deny your claim and cancel your policy if they find out you’ve not been honest.

You're definitely not supposed to mention everything you've seen a dr for.

You're definitely supposed to mention pre existing conditions and any current treatment. And anything you have seen a Dr for recently and are still waiting to be resolved. Bloating and tummy aches from a few years ago wouldn't be a problem. Existing IBS requiring ongoing treatment might well be a problem.

Borgonzola · 17/03/2025 10:23

The problem with IBS is it’s a blanket term used to describe a variety of symptoms and often in my opinion carelessly applied. I’ve had various gastric issues and a couple of doctors have used the term IBS to describe it without coming up with a definitive diagnosis - it’s not a diagnosis in itself really. So people on here saying you should have really disclosed it are perhaps not understanding that it’s barely helpful to use it in any form, let alone for insurance. And it sounds like some jobsworth at the insurance company would try to say they’re linked anyway, so disclosing it wouldn’t have helped.

biscuitsandbooks · 17/03/2025 10:20

Astrabees · 17/03/2025 10:19

You need to have exhausted the internal complaints procedure before you can go to the ombudsman. If the complaint is rejected the Telegraph and Times consumer columns regularly help people in this situation.

Yes, this too. You have to complain internally first.

GrannyWeatherwaxsHatpin · 17/03/2025 10:20

Non-declaration is non-declaration. Whether you think it has anything to do with your current condition or not. The proposal forms are quite clear everything must be declared.

OP has stated that it was something mentioned in passing several years ago and for which nothing was taken any further, and that she'd genuinely forgotten. She completed her insurance proposal in good faith - that's the important bit from an insurance point of view - and the company are repudiating on those flimsy grounds and unfairly so, IMO (ex insurance bod).

OP, lodge a formal complaint as soon as possible (make sure you state that it's a complaint, all sorts of things kick in at that point for an insurance company under Financial Conduct Authority "Treating Customers Fairly" rules) and be prepared to take it to the Ombudsman. There's more information here: https://www.financial-ombudsman.org.uk/

I've known many an insurer try it on to see if they can get away with it, knowing full well they're liable. They can be absolute fuckers and it's why I will go with a reputable "brand" when buying insurance. They can all be slippery buggers but at least the big names have a reputation they're interested in protecting and established complaints handling teams.

Financial Ombudsman Service: our homepage

The Financial Ombudsman Service is a free, fair and easy-to-use service that settles complaints between consumers and businesses that provide financial services.

https://www.financial-ombudsman.org.uk

Puzzledandpissedoff · 17/03/2025 10:19

I am mindful to include everything - as I don’t want the risk not being insured, but worry that it would be easy to forget something

I'm the same, @CarefulN0w, but nearly came a cropper when I first had my hearing aids and honestly didn't think they'd be interested. I called them just in case and it turned out they did indeed want to note this on the policy - though happily they didn't charge me extra

TBH I still can't quite work out why they needed to know ... maybe they had some idea I wouldn't hear the bus that could have run me over? Confused

Typo

biscuitsandbooks · 17/03/2025 10:19

dairydebris · 17/03/2025 10:16

So might make a material difference whether it was an official diagnosis or just a visit for digestive discomfort with ibs mentioned?

I'd like to see my medical history in this case. If nothing was officially diagnosed like op says I think they'll have to end up covering her.

( used to sell insurance, and ibs was never an extra charge and digestive discomfort would certainly not have required extra screening! )

It could do, I don’t know.

I just know that you’re supposed to declare absolutely everything you’ve seen a doctor for, no matter how minor and no matter whether it led to a diagnosis or not.

It’s the same as not declaring accidents to your car insurance even if you don’t claim. You’re still supposed to tell them and they can deny your claim and cancel your policy if they find out you’ve not been honest.

Astrabees · 17/03/2025 10:19

You need to have exhausted the internal complaints procedure before you can go to the ombudsman. If the complaint is rejected the Telegraph and Times consumer columns regularly help people in this situation.

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