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Threw an egg at a car in an insomnia fuelled rage. AIBU?

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EggVigilante · 17/03/2025 08:58

I live in a block of flats with a turning square for cars outside. It’s painted with double yellow lines.

Unfortunately, this space attracts antisocial behaviour, especially during warmer months. We tend to get cars parking up and people congregating there during the night, with people playing music and chatting/shouting away at all hours.

In the past I’ve just turned over and tried to get back to sleep (often being woken up a few more times that night). This was a real blight on our lives last summer, but we’ve had a bit of respite over the winter. Last year I thought seriously about what I could do to try and get the noise dealt with by the council, but from research (and past experience about a noisy neighbour), I don’t think this is likely to be effective. It’s not always the same cars/people. I’ve thought about going out there and asking people to be quiet, but given how inconsiderate they are being, I doubt this would work (and feels potentially dangerous). After thinking about it I decided there was nothing I could really do to solve this, and it was just one of those things, and I’d have to lump it.

Last night I was jolted awake at 3:30 am by loud music booming from a car. I looked out the window and saw it had pulled up just outside.

I had a tough week last week, getting some bad health news, and I have been suffering from a bit of insomnia. My job is always quite full-on, and I was already filled with a fair bit of post-weekend dread about the amount of work I’ve got to get through this week. I thought I’d been coping pretty well, but I do feel a bit stretched thin.

When I saw the car parked there, blaring music so loudly and probably waking at least a hundred people up in the overlooking flats, I was so incensed that I ran into the kitchen, grabbed an egg, and lobbed it from the window.

The egg splatted harmlessly next to the car, which drove away sharpish.

AIBU to become the egg vigilante?

OP posts:
SillyOP · 17/03/2025 11:27

Hi Tattle life

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 17/03/2025 11:20

You did absolutely the right thing. your symbolic gesture is admirable

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 17/03/2025 11:15

A long time a friend told me that the people opposite them had an incredibly noisy party that was clearly going to go on all night. Her husband was about 6'6 and built to match. He marched across the road, elbowed through the partygoers to where he knew the fusebox was (same layout as their house) and cut off all power. Then marched straight back out again. Must have been wonderfully satisfying.

CoffeeWithHer · 17/03/2025 11:09

I would have thrown a brick - I have lived in a neighborhood like this and honestly the noise and broken sleep will drive you insane with rage. I was younger then so didn’t, but I’m peri now (and due on) so the mood I’m in today I know if I had a brick, I would have lobbed it and come what may.

I now live semi rural - so can spout off about what I would do without fear of being arrested or my flat being targeted 😜 so don’t take my advice 😅

But I hate to say it….you know it’s coming, you’ll need to prep and get some earplugs and start documenting for the council to do something - which seems SO LONG when I’m sure a brick would take care of it 😉

BarneyRonson · 17/03/2025 11:04

Good for you. If we all stood up to such anti social behaviour they’d be outnumbered and life would improve.

Redpeach · 17/03/2025 11:01

Has a mix of flour and water been mentioned, to imitate bird poo

FrozenFeathers · 17/03/2025 11:01

UndermyShoeJoe · 17/03/2025 09:13

Improve your aim and if you want to appease the don’t throw eggs brigade get water bombs

I would like to suggest filling the waterbombs with paint.

lifeonmars100 · 17/03/2025 11:00

Until you go through something like this you don't know how awful it is and you don't know how you will react. I have horrific neighbours whose noise and anti-social behaviour drives me to distraction. I have felt rage I did not know I was capable of coursing through my body when they are at their worst. I have ear plugs, I play music, I stay in the front part of my (tiny) house to escape the noise but sometimes I could just scream and cry. Isn't it strange that the person\people who are on the receiving end of nasty behaviour have to moderate how they live rather than the twats that do it.

FrozenFeathers · 17/03/2025 10:59

madamweb · 17/03/2025 09:07

Yabu. My children are both severely allergic to egg and that is not unusual. Contact with egg could kill them.

Not that they would behave like that (I hope!). But you must not view egg or any other food as benign and harmless. It could kill.

Then I hope you teach your children not to be so anti social they get eggs lobbed at them.

JeanGenieJean · 17/03/2025 10:58

YANBU. You need to work on perfecting your aim though.
Inconsiderate w⚓️s deserve all they get.

romatheroamer · 17/03/2025 10:51

Lostsadandconfused · 17/03/2025 10:30

You’re massively unreasonable. Plenty of people live with noise at night. They live on busy roads, next to train lines, next to noisy pubs and stadiums. Under flight paths.

They get earplugs. And get some sleep.

Good grief! There's a bit of a difference though isn't there? Those things are already there. The OP is posting about extremely anti-social behaviour by random yobs in the middle of the night somewhere where they've no business to be.

Lassango · 17/03/2025 10:47

The only mistake you made was missing your target.

anyolddinosaur · 17/03/2025 10:46

Concern about damage to care is because the offenders can sue for criminal damage. Civil claim so no jury (a jury would likely let her off) but they would need proof of where it came from. Anyone know if you can get fingerprints off a smashed egg? 😀

anothernameanotherplanet · 17/03/2025 10:45

Water bomb? Or water bomb full of poster paint?

Are you high up enough to chuck it out, shut your window, and retreat before it hits the car?

Shamrocker · 17/03/2025 10:45

So speaking to them is 'potentially dangerous'

But throwing an egg isn't?

Ok.

Mudflaps · 17/03/2025 10:45

A marble and catapult might be more effective

FNDCausedByAntipsychotic · 17/03/2025 10:44

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 17/03/2025 09:02

It was very reckless. I would be concerned about retaliation.

Throwing eggs at cars with strangers is quite stupid.

Get a white noise machine, get some ear plugs and try to ignore.

I understand how frustrating it is to have noise like that, but unless it is the same cars repeatedly (so you can take their license and report) there's nothing you can do.

You are very lucky they drive away instead of either damaging your property or trying to get to you.

People doing that at 3am could be drunk, on drugs, gang members or simply volatile people.

Yes, I think it could escalate (eggscalate?) things.

I sympathise though . Lack of sleep lowers our defences and can make us do daft things. I think it's an understandable although potentially unwise reaction.

Americano75 · 17/03/2025 10:44

I think you should collect all the bat shit off this thread and chuck that next time.

oakleaffy · 17/03/2025 10:43

madamweb · 17/03/2025 09:12

This is indeed an absolute tragedy- This poor young lad should have had an Epi Pen with him at all times.

Anyone with serious life threatening allergies should carry one at all times- as one never knows when it might be needed.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 17/03/2025 10:40

FluentCyanKoala · 17/03/2025 09:58

The allergy aspect wouldn't have occurred to me at all to be honest, because none of my children's allergies are potentially lethal. But I'm actually shocked that people are taking the piss out of a poster who has,quite rightly serious concerns about the risk because her kids could die. She's posted a "hilarious link" to a child actually dying because another kid threw a piece of cheese at him. I'm really not seeing the hilarity that other posters are. Or that it's no big deal if they nearly die, because epi pens exist.

MN never used to be this cunty.

The poster is using false equivalence, their children’s egg allergy has no context in this situation unless they were the ones in the car at 3.30am.

Yellowbananasarebetterthangreen · 17/03/2025 10:39

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 17/03/2025 09:02

It was very reckless. I would be concerned about retaliation.

Throwing eggs at cars with strangers is quite stupid.

Get a white noise machine, get some ear plugs and try to ignore.

I understand how frustrating it is to have noise like that, but unless it is the same cars repeatedly (so you can take their license and report) there's nothing you can do.

You are very lucky they drive away instead of either damaging your property or trying to get to you.

People doing that at 3am could be drunk, on drugs, gang members or simply volatile people.

So just get some earplugs/white noise and put up with it? I often have similar issues with my neighbours in the summer. It makes my life a misery. Just "try to ignore" is a ridiculous suggestion and almost impossible. Once your sleep has been disturbed by idiots and you are upset/anxious about it - "just ignoring" is really hard to do. With my neighbours Im actually anxious on a sunny Saturday morning even before they've lit the BBQ because I know that 12-16 hours of noise is likely to follow. It can be all day as well. Should I just spend all my daytime hours as well as night with earplugs in just because others want all day/night parties?

Im not advocating lobbing an egg though......... a better suggestion (I think) is to keep a record of the issue (dates, times, issues it causes - anxiety, sleeplessness, distress) and then lobby the police (register the issue anonymously via police 101 online - they will come and have a look on a night when they've got not much else on) and the local council. Its a noise disturbance issue so ultimately complaining to the police and the council is your best bet. Potentially maybe a residents only "gate" could be installed? Restricting access to only residents and visitors.

oakleaffy · 17/03/2025 10:35

Pasithean · 17/03/2025 10:27

Cost neighbour £££££££££££££ when he hit our car with eggs.

Over a TRILLION pounds?

You should have gone to a cheaper garage.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 17/03/2025 10:35

StumbleInTheDebris · 17/03/2025 09:48

I've been hit by an egg before and it's really painful. You could properly damage the bodywork or smash glass - not that they don't deserve it but you could be in a world of pain if they retaliate or go to police. Maybe smash the egg first...

If you can smash the glass of a car with an egg then it isn’t proper glass. Glass in cars is specifically designed to be shatterproof. The replies on this thread 🤦‍♀️😂

oakleaffy · 17/03/2025 10:33

OhCalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 17/03/2025 09:13

I think you've made your point. Three times.

I think we have found the Driver ☝️

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Kuretake · 17/03/2025 10:31

Spirallingdownwards · 17/03/2025 10:25

Actually eggs contain something that react badly with car paintwork so if you had hit you may have found yourself open to a claim for criminal damage. I understand your frustration though

Only if you're caught

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