Long read:
So DH’s family are visiting. We have 2 kids and the whole dynamic of our relationship has changed. He barely pays me any attention, I have to do the lump sum of the care when it comes to the kids. The other day I had food poisoning and he wouldn’t take them (this is relevant for later.)
This week his family’s is in town. I had to give up my bedroom which I sleep in with dc2. We don’t share bedrooms- he shares with dc1 as he doesn’t like when the baby screams at night. I was very happy to do this. I also cleaned the whole house and got everything prepared even though I’ve gone weeks without sleep as dc2 is teething and DH cannot ever give me a lie in. We decided we’d share a double bed all 4 of us and this proved to be a big mistake as the kids constantly move around and wake each other and us up.
So today, I’m just woken up after a dreadful night of being up every hour. I’m changing dc2 etc and suddenly DH’s family is in my room. I’m still in my pajamas and not as decent as I would have liked to been. DH said nothing and made me feel like I was being unreasonable for being annoyed. That was my privacy and I was not ready for it to be disrupted. But i don’t feel like I need to explain it because it’s literally my bedroom. They even said what stinks in here because dc2 had just been changed. It was so embarrassing.
I was upset and privately let DH know in the bedroom while family was in the other room. In response to what he felt was a personal attack, he very loudly and incorrectly started saying I was talking about his mom behind her back so his family could hear, I treat him so bad, I have always treated him bad. Playing the victim and painting a picture of me so everyone could hear. Me. The mother of his kids. I feel so isolated and lonely. I suspect soon he will leave. I’m a SAHM and he is the breadwinner. We are not married and he is in possession of all the finances (I know stupid but please don’t throw me to the wolves mn.) Any advice?