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The neighbour and the EV charger

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Alittlebit9 · 16/03/2025 21:33

DH has an electric car, and had a charger installed at home on Friday. It cost him £1200.

Today, neighbour (who we are fairly friendly with, in a neighbourly way) has messaged me to ask if we would mind if they used it from time to time. I think she’s being a CF and this will be a slippery slope. Plus it’s on our driveway so we would have to move our cars. Also, I know it isn’t expensive but it’s going onto our bill.

YABU - let them use the charger
YANBU - they need to get their own

OP posts:
Devianinc · 16/03/2025 21:38

Devianinc · 16/03/2025 21:37

Omg, just say no.what balls this person has.

It’s just amazing what people try to get away with and all behind innocent eyes. Yuck

intrepidgiraffe · 16/03/2025 21:38

We used to let our neighbour use ours - app with the charger meant we knew how much each charge cost and we billed her and she paid us back - are you sure this isn’t what your neighbour meant?

Cnidarian · 16/03/2025 21:37

Definitely not as a regular thing! We used our neighbour's once (next door and the cable reaches so not need to move car) in the couple of weeks we were waiting to get ours installed (by a company same neighbour worked with) and paid for it. But as a hey drop by any time whenever you like, no way!

Talipesmum · 16/03/2025 21:37

I’d say “Sorry, would rather not get into that but it’s a great idea to get one installed, would you like the details of our person? Or I think x y and z have them if you want to find out who their installers were?”

Threeandahalf · 16/03/2025 21:37

Absolutely not. Do you have an app? Make sure it's set just to charge when you allow it , otherwise she might decide to use it when you're out.

Devianinc · 16/03/2025 21:37

Omg, just say no.what balls this person has.

Roundaboot · 16/03/2025 21:36

Absolutely not! Our electricity bill has significantly increased since getting a charger (still less than diesel though!) so no way would I let anyone other than a guest use it.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/03/2025 21:35

Ooo it's so awkward of her to ask 😭

Yanbu, I'd say no, sorry 😐

HappiestSleeping · 16/03/2025 21:35

Is say it was fine at £50 per recharge.

Jshrbt · 16/03/2025 21:35

I’d say no, I also think it’s a slippery slope and time to time likely will mean a lot

Muchtoomuchtodo · 16/03/2025 21:35

Absolutely not. Give her details of how you got yours installed and let them sort themselves out.

Rainbowx · 16/03/2025 21:35

No way!! CF

Original poster
Alittlebit9 · 16/03/2025 21:35

It was the breezy way she asked, it made me feel like I was being harsh saying no! I haven’t even replied yet.

Also, we have a fair few neighbours on our street with EV’s, and I’m sure it would become a free for all..

OP posts:
BoredZelda · 16/03/2025 21:34

What a bizarre request. Surely a simple no would suffice?

outerspacepotato · 16/03/2025 21:34

Fuck no!

haufbiskiy · 16/03/2025 21:33

Don’t be ridiculous. Would you pay for her petrol if she asked you to. Do not say yes, she will be forever asking

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